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I normally don't use aliases but in this case for obvious reasons. . .
I've been seeing my ATF regularly and frequently. Lately she needed help on her web site, so I've been stopping by her incall to help with that and other things, and also to chat. She has stopped by my house to chat as well. She loves my cooking so I bring her food everytime but we've never gone out for a date. The mixing of a business relationship and friendship kind of makes life complicated.
For example, twice last week I thought it was going to be a session but it turned out she was not expecting it; she told me I had to specifically say it was an "appointment"; I can't just say I wanted to see her. She was being nice and said she could do it but in both cases we decided to reschedule for the next day. A waste of perfectly good Viagra. 
In one "appointment" I jokingly said that "now that this is an appointment, I can kiss you" to see how she reacted. She told me that I could do it at other times as well. But then at other times it was a peck on the lips -- she always initiates it. Now, there was a lot of touching but I don't want to take advantage of her. How far should I go?
Life is so some complicated sometimes. 
-- Modified on 2/26/2006 5:04:32 PM
Having a GF includes 2 things friendship and sex. If I already have sex, all I need is friendship. I know that romance is more then the sum of the two but I'm willing to live without the exclusivity. We are both very busy persons. She has other jobs and school; I have several things going.
Since I don't mind continuing the relationship as a friend, I don't plan to ask her to be my girlfriend. She is the independent type who doesn't want to get tied down; it would be difficult for her to answer my question.
Another reason is that although separated for 4 years I'm still not divorced (there are reasons) and my younger son is in his first year of high school. I want to wait a couple of years before I get into a serious romance.
". . .Do you really want a girlfriend who is banging other guys?". I'm not the jealous type, in fact she is UTR now and I'm helping her setup her indy business. As long as she is "banging other guys", I'm willing to wait; she's not going to do this forever becuase she has ambitious plans for the future. (I'm not sure she wants to wait as flocks of women are chasing this 50 year-old hunk ).
-- Modified on 2/27/2006 11:44:24 AM
sounds like a good friendship there! I guess you do want to wait until she has moved on to other things. In my 40s now, i am more concerned about someone being there when the chips are down, because I wouldn't want to be alone if I get sick or something similar happens. Will she be that type of person; she may just want friendship, your help or your money right now? Sounds like you already have the plan, wait and see what comes around in the meantime. In my opinion, friendship sounds good for the moment, although make sure you don't accidently promise her anything and I wouldn't accept freebies. Just my humble opinion.