I feel has killed the vibe for me. I been thinking a lot on the parts of the hobby I enjoy and the parts I don't and I can't remember a single time I enjoyed it feeling too professional, strict and like a upscale service, I always hated that feeling in general when it comes to life, if I had to choose between a run down dive bar I can randomly walk into at 3am where the bartender had a real conversation with me and acted like a "normal person" or a fancy upscale place I gotta make reservations for where everyone has a suit and tie and acts like a snob I'd pick the dive bar purely for the vibes. Been having this feeling with providers. Recently met girls working off the streets right outside a club, cool ladies, asked me for blow, hopped in the car, said she'd give a bbj for 80 and had some fun, great vibes! Tried a few girls off the "low end sites" to catch that same vibe and I did, no reservations, no screening, just hit her up at 1am and go to her house, not a hotel but her actual house and stay over a few days no extra cost, only charged for sex nothing else, did some of her house chores for her, real awesome vibes! Another girl said I smelled nice and that was rare for her clients so she let me do it raw and creampie and watched TV with me no extra cost. Than I go back to the upscale ladies and it feels not so fun, schedule a appointment just to not be in a good enough mood (dealing with depression sometimes kills the mood) on the day of the appointment when I rather just text when I'm in the mood and pull up in 15 minutes, not 3 days later. And the upscale vibes just aren't my cup of tea, rather she show up with messy bed hair in her PJs, hit the bong, eat pizza together. Is this just me? I feel like it comes from me having a mindset where P4P is the same as the real thing minus the BS so it should feel just like the real thing....minus the BS mixed with me finding luxury and upscale things to be meaningless and not the source of happines, I believe the simple things are all that's needed in life to be happy.

which provides more authentic connection - closer to having a real gf but not quite with the same baggage .. It's a game of patience, and there is a way to play it right without getting burned out by flakes and scammers.  Hit me up privately if you want, or you can head over to The Erotic Highway. That's the board dedicated for sugar life style.  

 
As far as I am concerned, I find there is a way to be upscale and more professional without losing that human touch and coming across as too clinical.  Yes, getting a slice of new york style pizza from the neighborhood pizza joint can be fun, but so can be eating at Golden Steer in Las Vegas, where you have to book months in advance.  One doesn't have to choose between the two; one can do both. Life doesn't have to be binary.   One just has to find a sweet spot that fits our lifestyle and vibes with us.  

 
And lastly, if you ever feel like your time and money is not valued, always be willing to walk away. Sometimes people only value things when they don't have it. I have walked out of many SB relationships when I felt that I was being taken for granted.

Need to find the right fit. I have two girls I see on the regular. Sometimes we Netflix and chill over take out or we go do an event. I’m pretty picky but they are out there. In the end they have bills to pay 😉  Never get too attached because there’s always another one .

You got a wealth of advice from both players and providers in response to your last tale of woe. It would appear you have not tried to change anything. Yet, here you are complaining again. What is it you're hoping to achieve?

and for the most part, they were fun and even spiritually fulfilling, in a certain way.

 
But often they are not without complications, or "strings" as we commonly refer to them.

 
These often made for unpleasantness, to put it politely.

 
And so, the professional "no strings" method will always be the most common form of P4P, despite the limitations it places on interactions.

 
But if anyone ever wants to walk on the wild side, that will always be there.   In a way, it makes this life interesting.

 
Here's a song that neatly sums of the divide:

I think you're over analyzing your experiences & expectations.  

I am professional and still can be fun! I watched the Chicago Bears play at a dive bar on my Chitown FMTY because that's what my date wanted to do eat bar food and drink beer. I rode bikes on the beach in Hermosa on vacation with my friend. I smoked pot & did edibles in a 2 star hotel and had pizza delivered because that's what my millionaire date desires. You provide the blueprint providers who are professional execute. You bring your own vibes and energy.

It's not a luxury job your mindset matters.

That run on block is hard on the eyes.