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CatalinaGreen See my TER Reviews 3070 reads
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Could you ever date a sex worker.... in real life?

Do you see yourself ever being in a serious relationship with a sex worker?? Have you ever been in one before? if so, how'd it go? I'm curious... I see myself doing this for a few years.... and not gonna lie, somedays I feel lonely. Starting to feel like I need a Sugar Daddy Boyfriend relationship lol.... no, really.

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JakeFromStateFarm 804 reads
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2 / 43
Probably not.

But that's only because I don't want to be in a serious relationship with ANYONE.
PS: Do you have ANY idea how often this topic has come up here?

ROGM 832 reads
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3 / 43
Sex Worker Or Girlfriend.

There's no difference. Both need money. I'm sort of dating a provider right now. Seems to be going great for now.

NoYellowEnvelope 566 reads
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4 / 43
In some alternate universe...

... in which neither of us is in a committed relationship, yes, it's possible. In fact I know a couple of providers who, if we were in that alternate universe, I'd consider dating if they were open to it. I wouldn't rule it out just because they're sex workers, but it would depend on the woman and whether she could navigate a civvy relationship in addition to her sex work.

CatalinaGreen See my TER Reviews 574 reads
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5 / 43
hoes need love too ;(

every provider is different... My bf will always be my bf because I love him and he accepts me for who I am... or just puts up with it for the meantime I need to do it. I'm not in it for the money when it comes to being with a man...but security and financial stability are important factors when I date someone.

russbbj 89 Reviews 693 reads
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6 / 43
Could I ever date a SW, or do I see myself dating a SW?

Two completely different questions.  

Could I or would I date a SW, either retired or still active?

Absolutely, they are my favorite people.

Do I see myself dating a SW, or anyone else?

No, I mean why bother? I get the best, of the best, all and only the good part, none of the bullshit. I get to sleep alone, not worry about that I snore like a bear (not that I've ever heard a bear snore). I don't have to listen to any bullshit, and no one has to listen to mine. I don't need or want any of the hard work of a relationship, I want great head, by a hot sexy woman, then I want her to leave, and I'm willing to pay for that.

sdottaylor 19 Reviews 696 reads
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7 / 43
I'd be willing to give it a shot

I'd be willing to try. I have 3 dealbreakers for dating women, being a sex worker is not one of them.

1256849 25 Reviews 524 reads
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8 / 43
My S/O an Escort?

I'd give it a try, but I know it would be very hard.

Dr. joe 32 Reviews 668 reads
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9 / 43
absolutely (if things were different in my life now.)

I am married and I was madly in love with someone for years.  As much as I loved her and love her, I simply could not leave my wife and I could not go on leaving her with what little I could give so I don't plan on doing that again.
BUT, if I suddenly found myself unmarried (G-d forbid) I have met a number of providers I could absolutely fall for.  
It would be tricky if not impossible with someone I was seeing professionally obviously, but assume it was someone to whom I was introduced socially, I could absolutely date and eventually become permanent with a provider. I have met some charming beautiful and very intelligent women who are providers and if I had met one socially rather than professionally I would find the fact she was a provider a plus.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 830 reads
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10 / 43
Yes I could.

Truthfully I do not see myself in a serious relationship with anyone, but if I was, it could definitely be a sexy worker.  

As Jake said, this topic has come up many times before. If you do a search, you can find msny previous threads.

micktoz 43 Reviews 813 reads
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11 / 43
Yeah, with the tight lady and the right setup.

I just went through a 2nd divorce that I wanted. I am much happier living by myself.  With that said, I am open to trying a committed relationship.  It would have to have some rules.  
As long as we could be honest with each other.  It would be great to have the emotional and social  attachment.  
I'd still want to live separately.  
I would be willing to not civie date but would still see providers.  
I would want to discuss openly that if it stops working for either of us that we let each other go

mongo19621954 23 Reviews 556 reads
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12 / 43
Yes, I could.

But honestly, it's not likely.  I can think of one lady whom I could see as possible LTR material.  But we both have SOs and life and families...  just not realistic.  But in a hypothetical alternate universe, I would have her on whatever terms she wanted...

Many of the ladies I know have SOs - so it obviously happens.   I don't THINK her job would bother me -but I wouldn't know until I was in that situation.

As far as an SB/mistress type of thing - NO WAY.  I'd honestly rather keep going on the "a la carte" plan.   More variety that way...

So the question I have for you is this:  Do you want an LTR or do you want to be some guy's mistress/SB?  Either is OK - but   my guess is that a guy who is interested in one won't be interested in the other

nothrofboston 24 Reviews 777 reads
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13 / 43
Well you won't find anyone here....

by using an alias ... ewwww

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nothrofboston 24 Reviews 827 reads
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14 / 43
Not with the exact wording in the subject line ... eom


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mojojo 1 Reviews 658 reads
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15 / 43
Having sex on TER isn't real life?

Hell yes, I could date a sex worker. Why not? We're all just people. But, could a sex worker be in a serous relationship a lifetime hobbyist?

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 594 reads
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16 / 43
It depends on what . . . . .

your definition of "serious" is.  If you mean was I ever close to marrying a SW, the answer it no.  If you mean was I ever an OTC outside boyfriend of a SW, there have been several over the last nine years.  It was understood that I would be allowed to continue to hobby on the side when she toured or was on her period as a quid pro quo for her seeing other men at work, so even though there were times when I considered myself in a somewhat committed relationship, I would not describe it as "serious", but rather fun and convenient.

EvaFantasy See my TER Reviews 536 reads
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17 / 43
Dating.

I think it is very possible to have a relationship with a client, but I do believe that he has to know 100% what he is getting himself into and not be jealous and understand how he had met you. All relationships can workout at different angles. I do think is it very possible though.

Related Link: http://evafantasy.com

CatalinaGreen See my TER Reviews 702 reads
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18 / 43
Re: Well you won't find anyone here....

I find peoples responses to be intriguing

FatVern 487 reads
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19 / 43
No

What's the point of having a relationship if it's not monogamous?

Everything thing else can be had minus the title.

FatVern 617 reads
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20 / 43
Accidentally liked your post.

I won't disagree with you but anytime I hear a dumb ass thanking the stars for whores, I think what a dumbass, and an obvious plug.

... and you aren't the only one.

Do you really think the kind of post you wrote accomplishes anything, do you buy your own  BS?

chloemercier See my TER Reviews 701 reads
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21 / 43
I have a bf

I have a bf of 4 years and he's perfectly OK with my job. He got used to me going on dates with sugar daddies (I have a great sugar daddy and it really is a nice cuddly no drama thing. Maybe you can find that :) Now with this job, my bf is more concerned about my safety/staying away from LE.

But we're polyamorous and I think that plays a big role. To me it's a job but I think he sees it as both a job and companionship.  

I'd say either look for a polyamorous person who's ok with your job (Trust me there are plenty, I've found a few) Or let your potential partner know upfront what your job is, that it's a job like any other and you're not going to quit it for anyone and that you want something monogamous with a sex positive person who an see past your job and focus on shared interests :)

KYCPA9935 9 Reviews 845 reads
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22 / 43
Re: I have a bf

I must be obtuse. I don't get why it would be necessary to continue. If the dude makes enough money, why would you need to consider being a SW?

I personally could not do it. Though I would not care to be involved in a polyamorous relationship. I just wouldn't want her to charge for it, and to use a significant amount of discretion.

Rickshaw17 28 Reviews 541 reads
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23 / 43
Yes, probably

I've met a few that I very definitely could have a serious relationship with, though it would probably be ill advised.  

Posted By: CatalinaGreen
Do you see yourself ever being in a serious relationship with a sex worker??

VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 801 reads
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24 / 43
"serious relationship"

-sounds so foreboding.
both will want total control over the others genitals.

It's better to just get used to knowing
the genitals are going to be shared
and concentrate on the other parts of the relationship that bring Happiness,
if only Temporarily

peterddd47 4 Reviews 655 reads
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25 / 43
Yes

I used to drive a cab in New York City and pick up girls on 11th ave.

One girl became an atf. We stopped doing blow jobs in the cab and she would come to my apartment. She asked me if I wanted to date...when I hesitated she apologized and said she shouldn't have asked.  

I stopped seeing her later on...aids was taking off...

I wonder about her...35 years later....

Gloria from Belize...

mrfisher 115 Reviews 492 reads
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26 / 43
Thank God no, real life sucks! eom


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mrfisher 115 Reviews 581 reads
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27 / 43
No, but only because I married one. eom


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exit9 497 reads
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28 / 43
Yes.. I have for the last 3 years.. (eom)


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bergenbob 2 Reviews 607 reads
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29 / 43
Been there, done that

Id do it again in a minute

Posted By: CatalinaGreen
Do you see yourself ever being in a serious relationship with a sex worker?? Have you ever been in one before? if so, how'd it go? I'm curious... I see myself doing this for a few years.... and not gonna lie, somedays I feel lonely. Starting to feel like I need a Sugar Daddy Boyfriend relationship lol.... no, really.

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GaGambler 612 reads
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30 / 43
That sounds a little different than your OP

Your OP sounds like you want something more like an SD/SB relationship than a boyfriend. There is a huge difference between the two.

Personally I have been in several "real" LTR's with sex workers, both retired and active, and I have also had a lot of SD/SB relationships that IMHO were/are NOT "real" because if the money dries up I have zero illusions any of the SB's would keep seeing me.

OTOH, I do know that at least a couple of the hookers I have been in "real" relationships with would have stuck with me even if I went broke. It never happened, and I hope it never will, but I know a couple in particular would have "taken care of me" if I had fallen on hard times. Not that I ever would have allowed it, I would never be able to look myself in the mirror knowing my GF was supporting me by fucking other guys. I have too much pride for me to ever allow that to happen, but it's nice knowing that your GF would go to the mat for you and wouldn't abandon you the moment rain clouds appeared in the distance.

I noticed you also made a post on TEH looking for a SD at the tune of $8,000 a month. So are you thinking about a "real" relationship or someone to take care of you so you can quit fucking strangers for a living?

scoed 8 Reviews 697 reads
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Date a sex worker? Yes, I could date a sex worker.

In fact I am married to one and to keep our marriage strong we go out on dates at least once a week. As for how it is working, I love her and consider myself one of the luckiest man alive to be her husband even after nearly 13 years. It can work. Honesty, communication, and clear mutually agreed upon rules are the key.

Posted By: CatalinaGreen
Do you see yourself ever being in a serious relationship with a sex worker?? Have you ever been in one before? if so, how'd it go? I'm curious... I see myself doing this for a few years.... and not gonna lie, somedays I feel lonely. Starting to feel like I need a Sugar Daddy Boyfriend relationship lol.... no, really.

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Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 732 reads
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I was seeing this guy when he found out I was sex worker with a legit job.He went nuts.

Posted By: CatalinaGreen
Do you see yourself ever being in a serious relationship with a sex worker?? Have you ever been in one before? if so, how'd it go? I'm curious... I see myself doing this for a few years.... and not gonna lie, somedays I feel lonely. Starting to feel like I need a Sugar Daddy Boyfriend relationship lol.... no, really.

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Sign me up for sugar daddy...
Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

FatVern 681 reads
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Where do you find the time?

Personally I wouldn't want to support your BF.

I never want to hear about the BF, ever.

ValuedCustomer 729 reads
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They can pay for it just like the rest of us....

Just kidding....  but welcome to our world... You always pay for it.  Even if it's not an hourly rate....
 

Posted By: CatalinaGreen
every provider is different... My bf will always be my bf because I love him and he accepts me for who I am... or just puts up with it for the meantime I need to do it. I'm not in it for the money when it comes to being with a man...but security and financial stability are important factors when I date someone.

souls_harbor 763 reads
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35 / 43
When I was young

Not much opportunity for me now that I am 60+.  But back in the day I wouldn't have had an issue with dating.   Marriage is a whole 'nother issue.  Ya kinda want to marry someone with stability in their life.   Not that escorting isn't a great career choice, but it has enhanced risked over, say, a nursing career as far as being a stabilizing influence.

I should say from my end I wouldn't have a problem in my younger days.  But of course I was always a nerd so even then the opportunity probably wouldn't have presented itself.

JakeGordon 633 reads
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36 / 43
Yes

I have known 2 that I definitely would have pursued/dated had I not already "been an old married guy with 3 kids"

One I lost touch with since she retired - the other I still see almost monthly when she visits.

Zzbottom2 567 reads
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Re: Yeah, with the tight lady and the right setup.

Posted By: micktoz
I just went through a 2nd divorce that I wanted. I am much happier living by myself.  With that said, I am open to trying a committed relationship.  It would have to have some rules.  
 As long as we could be honest with each other.  It would be great to have the emotional and social  attachment.    
 I'd still want to live separately.    
 I would be willing to not civie date but would still see providers.  
 I would want to discuss openly that if it stops working for either of us that we let each other go.  
 
 
I agree, right on. Too bad mainstream society thinks there is only one way/goal of a man/woman relationship. Date, live together, marriage..Once people have been through the ringer enough or get past a certain age or level of experience doing it your way makes all the sense in the World. Its not Disney but being committed to someone and being open about other needs, if accepted, would be win win..most likely.  Cheers.

Duplicitouslust 24 Reviews 559 reads
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Limited pool of men

Just wondering while you are thinking about this , one of the first things you should think about is the limited pool of men that would be able to cope with his woman being a sex worker.  This is a primary psychological hurdle that most men would need to get over in a big way. Although you are not emotionally involved with your clients, I am sure that they would always be contemplating about what is transpiring with you when you are with your clients.  I am thinking the best candidates for you would be those who have worked in the sex industry previously or have been involved with a partner who was in the game. Those would be the most emotionally stable men for you to initiate a relationship.  
Then I am also thinking about the back story that you two would have when you interact with close friends and family.  The big question is when do you tell them and how would they react when they learn what you significant other does. This could be a double edged sword.  That is one of the other things that would be in the recesses of their minds.  How would they answer certain questions because this is a psychologically uncharted territory for them considering the pool of women they been with previously.  That is a good question because the amount of sex workers they have been with for real emotional purposes with them knowing it has probably been lower than usual.  
 However you could get lucky and find someone that you genuinely click with.  However it is essential that you have social groups and clubs outside this professional discipline to where you can cultivate real relationships and people will evaluate you for you.   This is extremely important while you in this or any other occupational discipline.  That is what keeps you on an even keel emotionally.

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 502 reads
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Yup... she's gotta be "tight"


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Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 583 reads
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real life can suck and that's why lots of us do this! eom


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Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 592 reads
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Re: Been there, done that

I've dated a "retired" escort and a few dancers over the years (it just worked out that way) and I've learned that "dating" sucks (at least, for me it does) and I prefer the company of hookers as a paying customer. I have no desire to date ... why ruin things? Want true love? Get a dog ... cats are evil, feral creatures who lick you not because they love you, but because they want to see what you taste like.  

Posted By: bergenbob
Id do it again in a minute  
   
Posted By: CatalinaGreen
Do you see yourself ever being in a serious relationship with a sex worker?? Have you ever been in one before? if so, how'd it go? I'm curious... I see myself doing this for a few years.... and not gonna lie, somedays I feel lonely. Starting to feel like I need a Sugar Daddy Boyfriend relationship lol.... no, really.  
   
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micktoz 43 Reviews 552 reads
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Re: Yup... she's gotta be "tight" Just as well I missed to the right and not left. EOM

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deadeye65 8 Reviews 551 reads
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I currently am

It is a challenge as we are both very busy in our civvie lives and she escorts part time. Not what I planned and have no idea how it ends. Taking things verrrryyy slow.

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