At 5 pm she texts and asks me if I could please come at 6:30  

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Did she say she was currently booked? Maybe it's possible she just needed more time to get ready. Everyone is different. It really could be either.

or some other local on his way out of her abode.

If it's your priest, the two of you will have a lot to talk about during your next confession.

Don't overthink this.  God forbid she's seeing someone else and couldn't get rid of him in time.

....then there is no problem. If you cannot, then let her know and maybe you can rebook for another time if you are still interested. Life happens, ya know. Unexpected stuff comes up all the time. At least she didn't NCNS.....at least not yet.

And what does the $400 price tag have to do with it?

Yes things happen, but I am old school and providers need to manage their schedules and respect clients time. Of course it is up to your discretion. Maybe get some more work done at the office before your rendezvous. Again, all depends on you and I would tell her straight up you are ok with it or reschedule because you have other commitments.

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Happens all the time.
At least she had the courtesy to contact you rather than keep you hovering in the parking lot or hotel lobby.

More than likely a previous client arrived late , or someone asked to extend their time or she arrived later than she planned.
Not a big deal , if your schedule has a little flex.

She gave an hours notice

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...but for what it’s worth, it is really up to you to wait, reschedule, or cancel.

"But I gotta hit the local Denny's". I don't want to get into the whole,"she doesn't respect your time" and all that blah,blah,blah....I have NEVER been more the 10-15 minutes to an appoitment. So I guess my level of tolerance is low....sorry if it happened.

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Is it true that priests hear more accurate reviews from confessors than from TER reviews? I mean, if confessors inflate the numbers and lie about services to a priest, they won't get into heaven, right?

 
An elderly man goes into confession and says to the priest, "Father, I'm 80 years old, married, have 4 kids and 11 grandchildren. Last night I had an affair and made love to two 18-year old girls. Both of them. Twice."

The priest says, "Well, my son, when was the last time you were in confession?"

"Never Father, I'm Jewish."

"So then, why are you telling me?"

"I'm telling everyone."

"Can I have their phone number?

For me, this wouldn't be a problem most of the time.

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Oh, thats a good question and glad you brought it up.

There is a level of professionalism IMO with higher end providers/sessions.

Professionalism would be accommodating my time not hers in this case.

Hmmmm, positive thinking. Well done sir!

My thoughts immediately were she had an opportunity for an appt. at 5:00
and as I know it goes on, I certainly would prefer not to think about it.

Rush-hour traffic, she forgot she needs to stop at the store to pick up a necessary item, her babysitter for the evening is running late, or yeah.... the date she has before you is running late so she had to ask to push you back.  

I can only assume that you mention the $ amount because it's more than you usually pay for a 1hr date and expect someone at that price point to NOT be running late.   I'm not saying that is right or wrong, but she is giving you fair notice.  

Which means she is giving you the opportunity to cancel if that doesn't work for you; which also means she is running the risk that you WILL cancel and she'll lose your business.   IMO, this is good customer service and business practices on her part.

There are ladies who wouldn't tell you that they're running late for the very reason that you might cancel.  Instead, they'll let you still show up on-time and then at 15min past your appointed time, will text you that they're almost ready...... and keep you cooling your heels till 30min after your originally scheduled time.  

 
My doctor or therapist or lawyer never warns me that they're running late.  I just wind up waiting (sometimes for hours) in a small room with outdated magazines.  

So if the change in schedule does not present a problem for you, don't sweat the reason why; instead appreciate that she respects you enough to give you a heads-up.      

 
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Of all types?

If your electrician or plumber is running late, do you cancel and then call someone else?

When you arrive to your doctor or lawyer or accountant's office and are kept waiting past your scheduled time, do you leave?

If the aforementioned types of  professionals were to give you an hour's notice that they were running late, would you still say, "Thanks hun"   and cancel?    

 
Because if not, why not?    

 
I'm not being argumentative, truly.  I'm intrigued as to whether you treat all service providers equally, and if not: why not?

 
Inquiring minds want to know!  

 
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Yes, but doesn't giving you fair warning of the delay equate to professionalism?  

 

 
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If you were to "prefer not to think about it" why bring it up here??

Yes.

In this case 1 hour and 15 minutes and on my way there was not fair nor professional. IMO

Seeing my doctor,accountant or lawyer is probably a necessity where there is something that has to be taken care of. I don't call them just to have a drink and BS.Seeing a hooker isn't a necessity, it's a luxury that I extent to myself. If she's a hour and a half late, then I don't need it. I'll move on. And I don't recall any service provider, be it doctor, plummers or what have you show up an hour and half late. It's seems that in this industry is where we have the lack of respect for someone's time by some AND NOT ALL. But, if you're ok with being late to your appointments or you find it acceptable and that's how you run your business, then be it. I choose to handle that aspect of my life in this manner.Remember, this isn't life or death here and I don't treat this as such. People that know me, know me, try to be on time. I mean what's wrong with alittle common courtesy

Suffering from self righteous indignation.
The word is suffering from.  

Sounds like the OP is giving himself more trouble than this is worth. Sounds like he is going into this with a resentment to start with (cost). And that's no way to go into such an entertaining past time.  

Amazing what a case of blue balls will do to us guys.

It is interesting how so many claim to have the answer to why the provider asked for the delay without hearing from her. The last time I tried to project what a woman was thinking, without hearing it from her mouth, I got myself in a mess.

Just my 2c.

I try not to take these little things so seriously

Really?  You've never had to wait like that for a professional.... ever?   I am genuinely surprised.    

Right now, I'm sitting here waiting for my handyman to show up.  He was supposed to be here about 2 hours ago.  Due to weather and another customer having an emergency arise because of it, he informed me of the delay and that he doesn't know when he'll be here.  And yes, this is similar because having a handyman take care of things of which I'm perfectly capable of doing (but don't WANT to do) is a luxury.

My accountant is usually punctual, but not always.  Same thing with my attorney.   Both of these provide professional services which are not, strictly speaking, necessities IMO.  

As to doctors?  Oh my, I cannot recall the last time I was in & out of there in the time period that they promised.  Something ALWAYS comes up and they're running late.  

 
Oh, and what situation are you referring to, where the lady was 90min late?    

The OP stated she informed him of a 30-minute delay.  In my experience, an hour's notice of a delay is usually sufficient for most clients.    

I have occasionally had to inform someone of such a delay; about half the time they cancel.  I know when I inform them of the delay, that this is a possibility.   That I could lose that date, and the $ from it.  I would rather do that, than simply make the person wait.    Most of the time, these delays are completely unavoidable.    

Most recently, I had a new client scheduled for 8:00 am.  I left the house at 6:00 am.   When I leave at that time, it usually takes me no longer than 75 minutes to get to my incall location.  I was already "ready" and only had to show up before he did, thereby giving me a cushion of 45 minutes.  That's usually more than sufficient.    Due to a terrible traffic accident, I didn't arrive until 8:15.   I sent him numerous messages during the entire delay, repeatedly updating my ETA, and fortunately he waited for me.  

Awhile back, a good regular friend was running late.  I was set to see him at noon for one hour and had a new client scheduled for 1:30pm ; which meant that I had just 30 minutes in-between to allow for running over or late.  
I did as the lady in the OP and asked my new client if we could back it up by 30 minutes.   He said he really couldn't, so he rescheduled for later in the week.  And I told him how much I appreciated that.  

I've learned that it is better to accommodate the "bird in the hand", the gentleman who is already on his way, than the later date, who might wind up cancelling or no-showing anyway.  Especially when the former is a repeat visitor.  
It is important to be extra-accommodating to regulars; many of them come to expect a certain amount of leeway or preferential treatment from providers.

These things happen.   I do not consider myself "unprofessional" when life simply..... happens.  

 
Informing someone of a delay definitely falls into the realm of "common courtesy" in my humble opinion.  Simply being tardy by 30 minutes, with no such notice, would definitely be discourteous and disrespectful.    

 



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I know that's not always possible, however doing so can cut down on many inconveniences.

Unless I was in a fairly forgiving mood, I'd cancel and not try to book a future appointment ever. You probably want to see her, so you probably wouldn't weigh this option...

Have you ever seen her before?

That is, when you arranged the date, did you tell her that you would have a long drive and would be on your way to her more than an hour prior to your scheduled time?

In my personal experience (and this may be a regional thing, IDK) most clients won't want to drive more than an hour for a provider, at the absolute most.  So cancelling or informing a client of a delay an hour prior to the date is usually enough notice.  If she didn't know how long of a drive you had, she likely would have assumed an hour's notice was sufficient too.

This coming week, I have a date who already told me that he will have a 2.5hr drive to visit me.  This is during one of my "tour" dates, so I'll already be at my location, but he told me this so that I know how much notice I'll need to give him in case something unforeseeable happens.   And these things DO happen.  

Once, when I was out-of-town, I got very very sick overnight.  I was running a high fever and had to cancel all of my dates.   My first date of the day, even though he was not yet on his way when I emailed & texted to cancel, still showed up.  Kept calling me from the hotel lobby till I finally went downstairs.  He hadn't believed that I was sick and thought I was either just flaking out or had accepted a higher-dollar date instead.  He took one look at me (I was obviously sick!) and left.  

So while I understand clients' skepticism and even suspicion when ladies run late or cancel, if that provider has a solid reputation you may want to give her the benefit of the doubt that it really was unavoidable.  

 
We're not all flakes and hustlers.  

 
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