A client said that to me... 5 words that literally stopped me in my tracks. I should be paying him. Now why would I do that?

Sounds like the guy was just being a bit dry in his humor, and of course had some ego there. Come on, this business involves illusions.  You should be proud of the great illusion that you had created for him. Please enjoy this week!  Best wishes, D

He was clever to dump you that way. He may be still be laughing.

then he could be truly kidding with you.. I don't see any harm in little bit of joking as long as he is really not expecting you to pay him..

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This is the guy that fucks it up for the rest of us by making you guys worry about how much you can enjoy yourselves. What a monumental douchenozzle.

I agree, I think he was a bit too caught in the illusion... and perhaps his ego did get the better of him. I imagine he was expecting a more favorable response from me. Oh well... and Happy ChrisKwanUkkah

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Both of you have been seeing each other for a few years -- which means that you like each other well enough to continue to do so and hopefully have built up a cheeky report. Was the joke in poor taste? Perhaps. But surely his intentions weren't to offend you. I get where you are coming from though. Its the tiredest of tired jokes a client could make LOL.

are best left untold, as should anything be that might make a provider uncomfortable. It's a very vulnerable place you guys put yourselves, and even if we've seen you many times we don't really KNOW you, and that's as it should be. Yes there are exceptions, blah blah blah but 99/100 it's a transactional relationship and there are boundaries to respect and niceties to be observed. I enjoy joking around with providers but I don't ask them why they provide, I don't ask if it was "good for them, too" or what their parents think about what they do, and I damn sure don't joke about the envelope.

That was my feeling... perhaps my "displays of pleasure" should be toned down if they are giving clients the impression that the value of sex with them, is greater to me, than the value of their money.

You have every right to enjoy your work, just weed out the delusional clients. I like my job better at some times than others and I like some of my clients better than others, but I don't pay my employer when I have meetings with my favorite clients!

The guy is clearly a douche satchel.

Even though he thought you were close to his age...but you fooled him I guess?

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I agree, I think he was a bit too caught in the illusion... and perhaps his ego did get the better of him. I imagine he was expecting a more favorable response from me. Oh well... and Happy ChrisKwanUkkah

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I've had a couple providers tell me they are in love with me.  
  Some guys would be offended a provider was crossing the line . I had no doubt  they were only playing a game.
  I knew they were joking, no harm no foul.  

take a FOOKIN' Joke.

I think it makes guys feel better to joke a little bit about the payment side. I laugh politely and let it go. They know the deal. I am more of an easygoing person though...most of my clients know I have a boyfriend but know I enjoy spending time with them. Would I spend time with them OTC, most of my clients no, maybe somebody that's a regular I'll grab a coffee or a bite with, but that's about where I'm comfortable drawing the line. Our clients know they are never going to be 1800dialadick but it's nice to let their ego feel good. My response might have been "yeah i did have fun, but u know it's not free to look this good, stay here, travel to this location" something like that.

I think that's a really good response Nikki, and if I weren't generally turned off by his attitude at that moment, I may have been able to think of something quirky to say. Honestly, losing him as a client in no huge deal, although I've been seeing him for a couple of years, he only stays for an hour and his impact on my income is pretty minimal.

Maybe you are in the wrong fucking line of work.  

That's why you needed to post that story...in detail  LOL

I just can't believe that fucked up post.  This chick is earning a living by guys paying her.  Guy makes one fucking little harmless joke.  And it probably was not a joke.  Shit sex is fun and she was probably having fun.

I think, perhaps, when there is a client that is not particularly arousing or pleasing sexually, we may amp up the sexual expressions to distract both them and ourselves from the reality of our genuine lack of arousal. At least that is the case with me and this client. I've never had a client say that to me before, although it is possible that some have thought it lol. Maybe I'll be better prepared the next time, and I'll have a quick, pleasant response, assuming I'm interested in seeing them again.

That's a really great analogy.

exclaim "If you do that again, I'll have to pay you!"  I didn't put it in a review.  I paid her same as always.  As we are long time companions, I leave the correct donation on her dresser where my clothes were...  discussng donations is classless.  
Say NO to hand off at the door!  Really tacky!  
BTW, Recently I saw the same remark in a review (same gal)...

In this work, there are two ideas about assholes, or asshats. #1: 'take his money and laugh all the way to the bank' and #2 'Why should I deal with a human being who doesn't fully respect my time, body, and profession'?  

As the actual truth would have been revealed.

Sometimes they Supersize me for the price of regular-sized fries.  I rule.

I think I wouldn't have been as bothered by him saying it in the heat of the moment... goodness, I've said a lot of interesting things during sex lol, with clients, and in my personal life.  
But I think him holding out his hand, and seemingly holding my donation hostage amped up my irritation with him for that comment. I think if he'd already paid, and made a similar comment, I would have been less affected.
I do think I should just request the donation up front for all clients... certainly reduces the awkwardness.

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And only NOW has come to realize he's a douche...I doubt he just became one overnight.

Read how to play this game.  Ask questions over there.

It does take a certain kind of guy to even think that, let alone say it out loud. So it could be the last in a long string of offenses on his part? Who knows.  

He just has a shitty sense of humor and thought it would be comfortable sharing it with you. I would have told him not to do it again instead of dropping him though. You just lost a ton of revenue with an emotional decision.

It would be hilarious and worth twice your cheap donation, watching you try to get back on, after falling off your high horse.  
  I have a great  idea ... A Miss hot pants like you should ask for the donation before you meet your  John.
  That way you won't look like a bimbo in bright lights, trying to remember your next line, when he's joking around why you should be paying him.  
   

Vent! Its alright. I would not take it too serious.

I've had providers say it to me. I have one that I have been seeing for months, not years, and she's said it to me multiple times. Mostly because I do long dates and take her out, treat her well, etc. Last weekend she said it to me again after a particularly fun night we had together. I knew she was joking, and I don't take it serious. I'll be honest I said it to her once after a night of fun we had together. It was a joke. My expectation is that we're having fun.  We both had a laugh about it. Nothing serious. I mean, honestly if I lost my job and couldn't pay to see her anymore I know there would be no more fun time together.  

but this is one of those occasions. The gentleman had not paid her yet and trotted out this gem, that's a dick move that forces an awkward discussion about money, what a buzz kill. Should a client of yours with a particularly clean balance sheet and meticulous records pay you for the privilege of enjoying the satisfaction of working with a pristine set of books?

I don't understand why any client would joke about my paying them, when they have yet to pay me lol. Terrible timing, to say the very least. Hopefully, he'll be a bit more tactful with the other ladies.

It's the age old issue of what's socially acceptable, or proper etiquette in any given situation. For example, it's okay for me to call my brother a jerk, but if you do, thems fightin' words. In this instance, it's okay for the lady to say it, meant to be nothing more than a great compliment. It's never okay for a gentleman to say it, even in jest. Thus, the fightin' words of JTL.  

Kick him in the dick? Then get your money. He likes that

Just sayin' to a Lady
Anyway I'm not even gay and I can fend off the wimpies no prob

And make a really gross ice cream cone..
You oinkyothrefuckers

but just from the tone of the OP, i am willing to bet he will have an easier time finding another hooker to stroke his ego than she will replacing the lost income stream.

some people in service industries take shit WAAAYYY too seriously. Most hookers would just let shit like this slide right off of their backs, and take it as sign that they did their job VERY, VERY well.

Yes, the guy was an idiot and a tool, but that's what she is getting paid $350 hour to put up with. Do you have any idea what lawyers and other professionals have to put up with to command $350 hr?

But in any business getting paid should be a top priority.  In most cases the customer pays without exception.  On those occasions when a customer doesn't want to pay,  it's incumbent on the gal to demand payment.  This is a business..treat it S such.  

Where we differ, I think, is that you are looking at it through a generic "business" lens, and while that is certainly true it is also an illegal transaction where the service provider lacks the legal resources you have to extract payment, heightening the provider's sensitivity to such "jokes." Bottom line for me is that the client was either being a dick on purpose or because he's clueless. Should OP have kicked him to the curb? Can't say, wasn't there and don't know their dynamic, maybe she overreacted or maybe he was barely tolerable and this was the icing on the cake...either way the joke was lame and ill considered, that was my only point.

The OP and her defenders are taking themselves way too seriously.  Did you really need to vent over something as inconsequential as this?  You got paid, didn't you?  So lighten up, it's a joke.  
If you can fake having a good time and good sex with the guy, then surely you can fake taking a joke from the guy.  
But to pass up the income you're getting from the guy is just plain dumb. Unless, of course, youre so rich you don't need it. In which case, you wouldn't need to be peddling your ass either.  

If you see him three times a year, that $1000-$1500 depending on your rate.  That 1% or more of a six-figure income for three hours a year!!!!  Think it through a bit!  That's a big loss for any business person

It is the fact that the comment is made when she has not received the money.    She is vulnerable and put in a place in which she thinks she may need to ask for her money which is terrible under any circumstances, but particularly bad in a post-coital setting.   That may warrant coitus interruptus in the future.

assuming op accurately describes events, the client made this "joke" while withholding payment. Same joke made after payment, still lame but I'll bet she wouldn't have given it a second thought.

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Guess he's thinking you're not acting and believing his own bullshit. Mental masturbation. You're smart to not see him. He sounds like a tool. Guys like that give us other clients a bad name. It's supposed to be fun, but some guys forget that they are not 27 anymore and start to believe the act. I take every thing I'm told in a P4P session with a grain of salt, otherwise, I might say something just as stupid.

...her low self-esteem may have something to do with this.
Otherwise, why so pissed at a simple joke? (unless that "joke" involved a moment or two of actual fear that he wouldn't pay - in which case he would be a complete asshole deserving of all scorn).

There's a provider whom I see very often and for extended multi-day dates.

'bout six months ago, she threw me for a loop by asking a question from out of left field:  "So are you going to leave your wife?"

I was so surprised by the question, the obvious smart comeback didn't occur to me until several days later:  "Why are you asking?  If I did leave her, would you stop charging me?"

Wow, I would have loved to have had that line ready at the time.  Can't imagine what she would have said to that...

happy holidays to you and yours , the story here is if one lives long enough they see and hear everything and this is just another post that should enlightened the men .  honestly she probably couldn't even get it for free ..

and it ain't pretty

have a good one rt ..

It sounds like you are doing an amazing job! But, he was testing your boundaries!!

Or 5, 6, 7 times, lol..

As a service provider in a field often equated with prostitution (i.e., attorneys), I would not find a "joke" made by a client before I have been paid that implied I hadn't earned my fee in the slightest bit funny. Afterwards, on the other hand . . .

But this is how I see it too.  The OP can do whatever she wants, but if that's the worst thing that a 2 year customer has ever done... I mean, what the fuck.   If I was this guy and saw this as her reaction and then having her post it here, I would stay as far away from her as possible after giving her two years worth of my hard earned money and just a hunch but I am guessing there were some BSC things he could have posted about her behavior over the years should he have been so inclined.