Sheâs highly reviewed? I promise sheâs not working with the vice squad.
I like to know where the person is staying so I can plan my transit and any other arrangements for the evening. If heâs staying somewhere with a nice gym, I might want to use the gym after the date. Also, some providers we will only go to a certain caliber of hotel, so she might be wanting to make sure youâre not at Motel 6. Last â certain hotels in certain cities have reputations for being places where stings happen, so she might be concerned about the exact same thing you are.I scheduled a date for a couple of weeks out with a highly reviewed provider/companion, and she is already asking me what hotel Iâll be staying at. I havenât had someone ask me this early before. Is this typical/normal? Iâd rather not have the vice squad knock on my door instead of her. Iâm really looking forward to the date, but this made me feel a little nervous. TIA
Sheâs highly reviewed? I promise sheâs not working with the vice squad.
I like to know where the person is staying so I can plan my transit and any other arrangements for the evening. If heâs staying somewhere with a nice gym, I might want to use the gym after the date. Also, some providers we will only go to a certain caliber of hotel, so she might be wanting to make sure youâre not at Motel 6.
Last â certain hotels in certain cities have reputations for being places where stings happen, so she might be concerned about the exact same thing you are.
Thank you for all of this. I appreciate your perspective.
If vice is already working with your companion, what makes the difference two weeks out or the next day?
If you think there's a chance this provider is actually LE, then you should not be seeing them in the first place, IMHO.
I like to know what hotel I am going to, so I know the layout. Parking. I don't think it's a big deal. Many providers have 4 or 5 star requirements. If it's in a bad area, or polluted with unsavory individuals she may pass.
But it does happen on occasion. Since this sounds like itâs your first time with her, she doesnât have any baseline to assess your judgement in this regard. Some women just have different lived experiences than others and itâs quite possible this provider in question got burned in the past and the hotel info she got the day before in that case didnât come close to her minimum standard.
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When I am contacting a provider for a first date for outcall, I always stipulate in my opening date request that the hotel will be an upscale one in such and such area and that almost always allays her fears.
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As for LE, I wouldnât sweat that at all with what you are telling us. If she is highly and often reviewed, you will be fine. Doing outcall lowers your already very small risk as LE doesnât work that way.
Thanks for your thoughts on this!
You are just expressing normal anxiety about this lifestyle as we have ALL been there. Feel free to post here about anything in the future that gives you pause, as there are really good people here who will help you sort things out. This community can be so amazing and I have been on the reciving end of so much help from so many over the years.
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But you are good to go with the girl in question, I am sure, now go have fun with her!
It sounds like youâre not confident in your vetting of the provider, or you may be a newbie? Clarify what research you did (always trust your gut though. Itâs better to be safe than sorry)
We cant say whatâs ânormalâ bc every providerâs process varies.. however itâs not uncommon for us to request some sort of proof youâll be there. Lots of fantasy bookers get off on wasting our time. In most cases outcall does require additional steps, especially to block our schedule way in advance. Provider may also request: send uber or deposit, a pic of your hotel keycard showing name or room #, pic of the house/apt number outside the door, calling hotel and transferring to your room line, or a screenshot of your reserv. None of which indicate a catfish, scam, sketchy situation, or LE.
Good luck and have fun if you decide to continue with the date!
Iâll sometimes ask for the general area just so I know approx travel time. I generally donât ask for the exact address but honestly why would it even matter? You arenât giving her the room number. I certainly wouldnât give the room number out until a few hours beforehand, but what exactly do you think is gonna happen if you give hotel information? You do know if itâs a sting they can also arrest you if you give them the information a few hours beforehand also right? Anyway⊠as long as the girl is well reviewed and legit you are fine either way.
Honestly, if sheâs highly reviewed, I wouldnât worry. If someone like QB or Claire asked, I wouldnât bat an eye. And to be clear, highly reviewed to me suggests this provider is not newish, is currently active and has 15+ reviews over at least a yearâs time. And recent reviews matter. You tell me sheâs highly reviewed but has no reviews for 2+ years, I might not feel as comfortable.
It's a fuzzy, vague term that seems to mean she has many positive reviews. So why not just say that? Personally, I just won't use it.
Anyways, thatâs a fair question and I occasionally use the term so Iâll toss in my two pennies.
Hehits touched on it some, itâs not just âmany positive reviewsâ but as he said, there needs to be recent reviews. Personally I also look at the reviewers as well. A provider with 20 positive reviews but theyâre all from clients with only one or two reviews? Not highly reviewed. In my mind she might as well have one review.
But there are some local reviewers who have seen several of the same providers I have and Iâve been reading their reviews for a long time and to me one review from one of them makes a gal highly reviewed. Or at least high enough for me.
Youâre right, itâs a vague and fuzzy term. How many reviews is enough? How much background for those reviewers is enough? Itâs not at all scientific, I grant you. Itâs whatever it takes for a skeptical person whoâs paying attention to be comfortable I guess. But there is more to look at, IMO, beyond simply many positive reviews.
Good additional points. I will add, when it comes to very specific âline in the sandâ numbers and details, itâs not one size fits all. In the end, you need to decide whatâs your comfort zone.
Extremely unlikely Law Enforcement would be operating 2 weeks out.....usually they do a "Wham-Bam'Thank You Mam" hit and move on----News crews and hopefully our boys and girls in Blue have better stuff to do than trail an escort for two weeks.....
I donât do outcall much, only when Iâm traveling, probably less than a dozen appointments all added up. But itâs been pretty much like that almost every time, if not every time.
No matter how far in advance Iâm scheduling, as soon as the appointment is confirmed, âokay youâre seeing me on X day, what day are you arriving in my city?â Then âokay what hotel?â When the time draws closer âlet me know when you get to townâ then âlet me know when youâre checked in.â
It can be a bit off-putting or unnerving when not expecting it, as youâre seeing. But itâs all worked out fine for me every time. If she is well reviewed and has recent reviews, I agree with the folks saying you donât need to worry. Robert made a good point, I donât think LE sends people into an outcall room where they canât control the situation.
Besides all the reasons others have listed above as to why sheâd want to know ahead of time to be prepared, which are all perfectly valid points and would be for ANYONE; I think a lot of providers get a bit anxious about outcalls to hotels because they have been NCNSâd several times.