I've had several people—including those I have seen before—reach out to make elaborate plans for multi-day bookings, only to never follow through. I refer to these individuals as "The Dreamers." The wasted time, mental energy, and emotional exchange involved in getting excited about a major booking that goes nowhere is no longer worth it for me. To protect my peace and my business, I have implemented a $200 Sincerity Fee to begin discussing or planning any future dates.

your policy doesn't seem unreasonable and might be workable for someone with the solid reputation you have. But I wouldn't do this with just anyone. They'd have to have the kind of history you've got.

I think this it is a nice idea in theory but I honestly don’t think many guys will go for it. I feel like 50% of the time it’s like pulling teeth to get deposits even. For some reason some guys think we are willing to risk our entire reputation over taking their $100. 😅 Some clients are amazing about it and much love to them. 🫶 I hope it works for you though 🩷 Maybe it’s just me 😭😂

It really depends what your end goal is. I would say that's a sure fire way to lose potential new clients. If I cannot even ask you questions without paying a fee, I'm out. I don't care how good your reputation is. Having some potential customers not follow through is a part of business. Imagine getting charged a fee because you had questions at a car dealership, clothing store, or a restaurant.

As you know, I don’t have any issues with deposits. However, what you’re asking for here feels more like a consultation fee rather than a good faith down payment on a date we have both already verbally agreed to. I understand your frustration, but I can’t imagine many men would be willing to pay that, though I could certainly be wrong.
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What I would suggest instead is that once you reach the point where you feel someone is just becoming a time waster, that’s when you politely require a deposit before continuing with any further questions, ideas, or planning.
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Just my perspective QB, but in any field, a client should be extended the basic courtesy of asking a question or two upfront. At that point, it’s on them to make a big boy decision and either commit to you or walk away.  
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In your specific case, there is more than enough info about you online, and since it is stellar, the whole process with you should take even less time to see if he is a good match with you then he would wit most other women who may have much less info about themselves available to poetential clients.

Except with lipstick? What's the difference??

It doesn't sound like it would apply to a simple email with some questions but maybe Bia can clarify that and let us know at what point would the "sincerity fee" apply.

Yeah this is an easy no for me. And not just a no it's an out of the way recommendation for other mongers to never do this.

It's hard for me to relate this to other service providers.  The only thing I can compare would be like a plumber, electrician, or whatever, requesting a paid estimate.

I love everything about this! It would be awesome if this became an industry standard. We've let time wasters get away with too much for too long. The bullshit ends now.

Deposits are only paid once the booking is confirmed. This sounds like a payment to even discuss a booking, particularly extended bookings that require more conversation. A lot of fantasy bookers and time wasters will spend several hours, days, or weeks conversing with you about a FMTY or multi-day type of session that they have zero intention of really planning.

Do you book FMTYs and multi-day dates? This is not something she plans to do for general 1 hour incalls and the like. Some men get off on communicating with a sex worker like they're friends and making up elaborate plans that they have no intention of ever bringing to fruition. We do not have time for the bullshit. If you're serious about a multi-day booking that will likely cost you five figures, you should have no problem putting down $200 to show that you're not playing games. This is gold, I don't care what anyone says.

Are you booking FMTYs and multi-day dates with high end providers? This is not something that the majority of clients who only book 1 hour incalls have to worry about. If a gentleman is truly serious about booking a session that will likely run him close to $10k if not more, he shouldn't have a problem paying a $200 sincerity fee. Providers simply don't have time for games and charging is the only way to stop that.

Selling or sales are are as old as business and a required part of commerce.  When times are good sales people get lazy and can just get by, When slow downs happens ( that always happen ) the lazy people suffer a lot while those who have followed good business practices and kept their customer close will thrive. Providers are sole proprietorships and will rise and fall by their actions and sales efforts. I have experienced this over many years of ups and downs in my own business. Don't be lazy and blow off new business, you never know what's coming. Take the time to pre Qualify any new prospect. This may take a bit of work or time. If they are for sure time wasters dump them. But treasure the many good ones you will find if you work a bit.            

To be fair, she said the fee was for any future dates. If she said it was to discuss details of extended dates, what you say might play. But any implies that even a one hour romp would require this new fee.

I only make plans I intend to carry out…and I don’t believe in deposits. I do believe in fair payment for “work completed”, including tips for superior service! ‘Nuff said! I have cancelled one session in ten years due to an unavoidable emergency! One other time, an emergency came up, but I had time for a quick bbbj, before making full payment and scooting in 15 minutes. Sh@& happens!

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I do basically agree with you whole paragraph but at the same time if contacting for an hour or two appointment a few days out ( do not feel this is what she is talking about) wouldn’t consider it at all -should it  not be necessary.

It is as much your fault the time wasters are getting away with things.  
When they start negotiating on first contact has it gotten better ???

We're allowed to say FUCK here.

No, I do not book fytm or multi hour sessions.

I assume she’s referring to more elaborate bookings because she referenced fantasy bookers contacting her about multi-day sessions at the beginning of this post. As a full service provider myself, I know how much lower the stakes are for a 1 hour booking and how time wasters love to overpromise and underdeliver.

It’s certainly your business, but Sincerity Fee seems like a pre-deposit. Why not just raise your deposit rate by $200?

I just wouldn’t book anyone doing this. But totally support you lol

"to make elaborate plans for multi-day bookings" was in the lead sentence.

It was in the lead sentence but the policy doesn't have anything about it. We are discussing the policy not the lead sentence.

Maybe but I think one can read both the post (to me she seemed to be suggesting the post was about the situation she specifically mentioned but other may see it different) and her site either way, thought the site is more clear -- seems to say if you're contacting her with an appointment time the suggested fee doesn't apply. Based on her posts I assume only her usual deposit applies but that does seem to be something different.