I receive requests for overnight dates very frequently from guys who crave/miss the affection/closeness of a true GF all nite date.
Here are 2 examples to illustrate why it may/may not work:

Date #1: Never met him before, great guy, nice hotel, no chemistry....I gave him half his money back, apologized & left.

Date #2: Met him previously/liked him, had sex 5 times, slept/kissed cuddled all night, became my #1 fave regular.....

Moral of the story: there has to be an attraction/chemistry!

Any thoughts/suggestions?

Well, there isn't always going to be chemistry with every single gent. I wouldn't see it as a valid reason to leave with half his money, unless of course you spend half the time there.

That's just the biz, sometimes it shakes our world, sometimes we think about what's on TV. If that's the case, paste that smile on, be on your best behaviour and give the gent what he deserves and paid for.

Unless of course he is dangerous...gives you an uneasy feeling, makes you nervous etc etc...those reasons are a completly different scenario. But chemistry? Poor guy, can you imagine his ego? That a woman he has paid to retain doesn't want to be with him?  

We provide a service, no always fun and games. That's just part of the biz. Not trying to come across as chiding you dear, and please don't take offense....just really think it's important we always do our best. Take it from an old ho that's been doing this for a loooong loonnng time.

xoxoxoxo

a bit of a risk seeing someone for the first time as an over-nighter. Something I wouldn't do unless I had many email and phone conversations establishing interests, etc.

I did do a three-night, two-day engagement with a lady I had met a few months earlier. It was a city i was not familiar with, so it was fun allowing her to be my tour guide during the day, and sensual Muse during the morning and evening hours. (Not to mention sleep snuggly.) Not being a 'how many times in x hours' type, I thought the time had a nice balance to it. (And since she saw me again for a full day on my 'turf', I guess you could say we 'clicked' even though we have pretty different backgrounds and views.)

If all else fails, break out the Monopoly board with the person you are with and figure out fun ways to 'pay the rent' when you land on Boardwalk!

Same applies to hobbist.

When a girl is shown up in my hotel room and looks completely different (worse) as photos on her web site, I am disappointed, but I cannot simply let her go, I just try to get most of it.

You could suggest a shorter appointment for the first time.  When I get these requests from a first time client, I try to screen more carefully; read the reviews they've written, get as much information from the references.  I need to feel comfortable that we'll be somewhat compatible.

Do not accept overnight requests without previously seeing a guy.  This way no disappointment from either party.

As a gent that is what I do.  I'd never request an overnight unless I had previously had a shorter date with the lady and then I only would ask if that clicking was there the first time.

Not to spin off-topic but if everybody were honest we could certainly compile a lengthy list of pros and cons about overnights...  

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I would never do an over-night with a new lady. Chemistry is a big part of spending a half day or so with someone.  If you just want a lot of sex you are better off booking a lot of short appointments.  If you want the affection you need the chemistry first. there are things you can purchase and things that you can not.

This is why I will not do an overnight with someone I have never met.

You need to have some kind of chemistry to make it a great time for both.

Kelly

Because of the cuddling, and no impending end to the time in a couple hours...  I still would not schedule that with a lady for first meeting.  I as the guy would also want to be assured of chemistry and rapport!

Bottom line- overnights are great but only if the chemistry is there.  One thing to consider- I had one provider who I had not met yet that knew I did overnights- she suggested that we decide at the end of the first four hours of dinner/date- that we both agree to proceed or to part with no hard feelings if the chemistry was not there- seemed like a great way to handle it.

Now I've had two that were not scheduled as overnights that I didn't want to leave at the end of the time... one turned in to an overnight as we both could do it.  I was prepared donation-wise as we both were nearly positive we'd click from a great rapport in pre-visit talk and correspondence.  In fact it ended up being nearly a 24 hour as the hotel finally had to start calling and harrassing us due to being way beyond checkout time!

One I desperately wanted to continue to an overnight (could have layed in her arms forever!) but though her schedule would have allowed it- mine did not.  Alls well that ends well though- ended up scheduling a vacation date with her.



-- Modified on 4/11/2008 6:47:54 PM

By my count I have had overnights on a first appointment with a lady at least10 times and have never had an issue. Chemistry is important but how one approaches a date goes a long way in determining whether there will be enough there to make it worth it.

I only do over nights with Gentlemen I have had the pleasure to spend time with in the past. Its chemistry and trust. After all we are sleeping. I am a sound sleeper...God only knows what could go on while I am snoozing...

Wow.  poor guy.  That must have been crushing for him.  I don't think this was the best advertisement for your services.  If a guy books you for an overnight and was nice as you say, the least he would expect is for you to honor your commitment or at least have a "no first time overnight" policy... it just smacks of complete un-professionalism.  Really, why just return half?..why not return all of it?...the guy probably had the worst night of his life (to get rejected by a professional courtesan...ouch!) and he also had to pay for that expensive hotel.

Thanks for letting me know never to book any time with Selina.

Just a reminder...we as clients pay for your time, not always the services provided, we expect courteous service even if there is no chemistry. If I wanted chemistry every time I wouldn't be with a provider.

It just appears unprofessional the way Date#1 was treated as noted in an earlier post.

Dear Sweetnicole1:
I was wondering what are some of the key factors in a hobbyist personality that you consider when scheduling this type of appointment? Also would you do most things with your client that you would do with your significant other?