Question of the day : Do most hobbyists prefer that providers are reasonably punctual ( i.e., arriving no later than 30 min. past the appointment time ? ) Are there hobbyists out there who have cut off providers who are persistently tardy ? On the other hand, are there incall providers who have cut off hobbyists
who repeatedly arrive unreasonably late for dates ?

Always, for everthing...5 - 15 minutes.  Most providers I know are not ready if I am there exactly on time, especially on repeat visits.  They are also fasionably late...so long as it does not frequently translate into a half hour or more, both sides seem ok with that.  There is nothing I hate more than dealing with clockwatchers... ...

I am usually 5-10 min late. In my experience, most incalls are early which is why I tell them contantly, "don't be early, I'm never on time". Cause I get ready up until last minute.

I always call at the time I should be there & am usually 5 min away by then.

Sara

Thanks for your post. Good to know it isn't only me. You get that feeling sometimes, lol.

sara

I actually don't wear one but if I did it would tell me I usually take up to the very last minute to get everything in place if it is an incall.  I try to plan to be done early but my dogs don't always want to go in their room, my hair is acting up, I put a run in my stockings, etc..

As for outcall, I try to run on time but if something unforeseen happens ie: traffic slowdown, accident, etc.  I call and let the gentleman know what is going on.

Traffic, taking several minutes to find the keys, having to go back inside to get something you forgot, etc.  I am the master at dillying before going anywhere, which is why I am late for everything unless I have to be there because of anally retentive clockwatchers!  Yish!  Which is why I am still here, delaying going out the electronics store...they are open until six, so I can afford to dilly-dally awhile longer...

I'm pretty darn good with time.. there's a reason why I do what I do after all, lol.  In fact, sometimes I run a little early and wait a few minutes before going in, because I figure my clients may not be ready, etc.

Let's face it...if I am late or ONE client likes to be late because is "fashionable", every other client I have AFTER the late one will suffer the consequences of his act. I don't think he's being fair to me or his fellow mongers.

Shit happens...I know pretty well, I am in Midtown Manhattan! I plan my day properly...I don't rush, I leave plenty of time between appointments to accommodate any problems with traffic, parking, etc.

I also give specific instructions to a first time client. I explain I have a schedule for the day and is important that he gets here on time. I ask if there is any problems, to let me know in advance. I also say if he needs to cancel to let me know, instead of pulling a NCNS on me. I tell them to respect my time, the same way I am respecting theirs.

If I am not particular busy and a client is late more than a half hour, I still can do his full appointment without any rush.

If I have a full card for the day and a client call me saying he will be late and is not only few minutes but like half hour or so, I offer a HALF of the time he booked originally or ask if he wants to reschedule for later or another day.

Usually, guys either take the half session offer or reschedule. I never have a problem with being honest, discussing the issue in a reasonable way to make them happy and my schedule easier to handle.

I never hide the fact I am "working" and I have a number of appointments scheduled & confirmed for the day. I am upfront, I don't try to give the impression a client is the ONLY one I see. That's the biggest mistake a girl does, because she will get the ones who like to be "fashionable" late, expecting to get their unrushed full sessions and hang out for a while after is over too.

My 2 cents... ooops, euros!


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It's a personality trait of mine (to the point of being annoying sometimes) that I am simply never late. That being said I am reasonably flexible and understanding when I book an appointment. With my ATF's the starting time is always a bit"fluid" any way...as is the end time. There is no clock-watching on their end so there isn't on mine either. I try to book only on days that I am not working so as to avoid the pressure of having to be somewhere else before or after the appointment.

There have been situations while traveling where a lady was late for an out call but again, I'm pretty flexible. I tend to book later in the evening when I travel which may often mean I am a gal's last appointment. Shit happens, it's supposed to be fun so I try not to get too worked up over things.

Being late is being late.  I've always been on time for appointments of any kind, in the hobby and out.  Someone tells me a time and I'll be there.  A friend of mine has an annual party and she said it started at 6:00.  I was there at 6:00 and when she opened the door, she asked, "Why are you so early?"  "You said the party started at 6:00!"

In the hobby, I feel it's important to be on time, mainly because that's how I am and I don't want to mess up the schedule for the lady. I usually get there about 10-15 minutes early and wait until the agreed upon time.  That is for incalls.  When the lady is coming to my place, I would like her to be on time but it is certainly not going to put a damper on the evening.  Just keep me informed if you're going to be later than 10 minutes.  

Communication is key.

It's been my experience that whenever I've had an outcall scheduled, and the provider was going to be late, she's had the courtesy (so far) to call and let me know. Conversely, if I'm going to be late for an appointment, I try and call. The same rules for courtest and decency apply in this arena that is does everywhere else. The provider's time is money to her. Try and not waste it!! But that's just me.
jhb

If I'm late for an appointment, it is probably time to start calling the police and hospitals. Barring my being the one in an accident, I'm there. That is true for me in general, and twice as valid here.

I would only schedule this type of appointment when I have plenty of time for any contingency. I have no problem finding something to occupy myself unobtrusively until the appropriate time. Depending on the time of day, it could be a bookstore, reading in the car, or grabbing a drink in a nearby bar. I won't be loitering in the lobby, but I'm somewhere ready to call then arrive at the designated time.

I can't speak to hobby circumstances where I was kept waiting, but I try to be understanding of valid reasons why someone might not be timely. But when someone always has some excuse, as opposed to an isolated incident, it gets old.

Well I book very limited appts, so I don't mind if they are on time or a few minutes late normally.

It's not like I have another appt coming right over, lol.

I just have them wait nearby if they are early. But I stress to them not to be. I have noticed that like for example a guy last week called me and had dinner out, walked on the beach had a drink & was still on time all within like 90 minutes. Guys seem to get things done faster, lol.

Sara

Gal, i am the same way. My naturopath says I am an adrenaline junkie. And I though it was some sort of OCD trait, I read that anyways, waiting until the last minute all the time.

I do a complete transformation in that window of time, lol.

Esp my apartment where I do tend to have more clutter around.

There are so many last minute things esp for incalls.

Sara

there are very few high demand providers that can continually keep up their business and also have reputations for almost always being late (sometimes really late). I see almost all of my "regulars" on an incall basis, but my tolerance for habitual tardiness for outcall is pretty low. The occasional tardy visit (up to 30 minutes) is to be expected, but I will look elsewhere if it continues.

Most of my outcall experiences are when I travel. And many of those are not with regulars. I've learned to always schedule for the end of the day, after dinner.

I guess everyone does things in their own way. For me, its rarely a problem if a gent shows up 5 or 10 minutes early. If he's more than 10 minutes early, he's probably going to catch me putting on the finishing touches to my make-up and hair, but that's rarely a big deal to me.

There is nothing more annoying to me though, than being late. Maybe its just conditioning from childhood. There isn't a single member of my family who isn't chronically late to EVERYTHING, so maybe that is why its my biggest pet peeve. But for me, when a date starts late, that starts cutting into my time. I'm a low volume gal, so I don't book appointments back to back, but I do plan my daily schedule - grocery shopping, errands, meal times, exercise routine - around when I'm expecting to see a gentleman. So when he shows up fashionably late, that means whatever I was planning after he leaves just got delayed, and now I'm cranky.

I see from the responses so far though, that I seem to be in the minority, so I guess its just me LOL

I have only had incalls at the provider's location with all the ladies I have seen so far.  This has amounted to over 50 appointments in the past nine months.  

I am a retired partner of a business that had over 300 employees.  My time is very valuable to me.

I always schedule my appointments days in advance and have never attempted to schedule an appointment on the same day.  
 
If I have an appointment set at a certain time, I will plan so that no matter what may happen in transit, I will be there on time.  I don't show up half an hour early, I am there at my scheduled time.  

If I get to a provider's location and she is late, it really bothers me.  She expects me to be considerate of her time while I am with her and I expect her also to be considerate of mine.

I have had a couple times when the lady I was going to see knew she was going to be late but she called me before hand to let me know and we worked around it.

I have also had a couple ladies who were late (one 30 minutes late) but didn't bother to call me.  I no longer see either of those ladies.


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bu you are far from the only one. To me it's a matter of respect. I try to respect a provider's time, if I'm going to be late, and I am occasionally I call, I expect the same in return.

Being late is better than NCNS which is the ultimate in disrespect, but anything more than a few minutes without a call I consider disrespectful. When I charge by the hour, I charge more than most providers so my time is important to me too. Of course even if you make $10 hr your time is still important.

I build as much as I can all of the what if's into my schedule.  Sometimes though I am coaxing a dog out from under the bed and explaining why he or she is going to be in time out just as the fellow calls for the final directions.

I try to account for all variances of traffic but this is Fl and in the winter sometimes it is anything goes.

So, I leave early for outcalls and prep early for incalls.  Yes, I am aware of time and the importance that it holds.  Sometimes though life happens.

I come from a family where 15 minutes early is considered late!  LOL!  I freak out if I feel I am going to be late.  I have even called ahead to say I'm goingto be late only to show up on time.  I figure it is better to give a warning than to not let the person know at all.

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Well OK, I can't remember the last time I was late for an incall. I usually travel about 3 hours for incall. A delay of 30 to 45 minutes is not unheard of so I always leave a full one hour early. The result is that I almost always arrive in the neighborhood a hour early. Some of my regulars know this so I call when I'm close to see if they want to "move things up". Sometimes they can and want to. Some times I have to find a way to kill an hour.

If I have a appt and she is 15 minutes late and I have not received a call I am gone..
Its only happened a few times that I left in fifteen minutes but I have never received  a call later ..."Where are you"" ..Its always the next day or two days later or not at all..

"When I charge by the hour, I charge more than most providers so my time is important to me too. Of course even if you make $10 hr your time is still important."

 
Its not the loss of the $8.00 per hour that makes me move on but the loss of my time.. My time is spent either making money or doing something I think is fun  ..Time lost can never be bought back ..

 

I appreciate punctuality and consider it a common courtesy to be on time.  Her time is valuable, but so is mine.

I have never been late, and have only had a couple of ladies that were late. They have always called to let me know. One lady showed up 30 minutes early. She had driven 75 miles to see me, and called to ask if it was okay to show up early. Not only was it okay, but we had a wonderful time, and she stayed late to make up for it.

To me if I schedule something at 2 PM for example, I and the person who I am meeting need to be there at 2 PM, not 2:15 or later.  

I have called off some dates with women who never called before the appointed time, and called 15 minutes after saying that they would be there as much as an hour late.   That is unacceptable to me.

OTOH If a woman calls me at or before the appointed time, and tells me that she is running late, for whatever reason (traffic, etc.), then I am fine with it because she has made an effort to let me know.  

I guess in my mind it is as much the attitude of the woman.  If she is sorry that she is late, and notifies me, and apologizes about it, then I will accept the woman.  OTOH if she is non-chalant about the whole thing, and does not care that she wasted my time, then I have a problem.

One interesting story...  I was in Florida visiting a few years ago, and scheduled with a woman to have her come to see me.   5 minutes before the time she was supposed to arrive, she calls me and says that she is going to be late because a friend's baby spit up on her, so she had to change her clothes.  She thought she could have made it anyways, but the traffic on the route was almost at a standstill, so she was going to be 20-30 minutes late.  

Well, she arrived 25 minutes late, and with multiple apologies, she ended up staying three times the agreed upon length of time.   It was so good, I saw her again the next morning before leaving...

When I say Ill be somewhere at such and such time...expect me to be at least 15-30 minutes late no matter how hard I try...

I think I showed up for an outcall about 7 minutes past the time I was supposed to be there with a very regular client of mine...we celebrated with Champagne!  LOL

I was in accounting for 20 years.  I had a dead line every month for 20 years.  Something about knowing I have to be somewhere, at a certain time...my mind refused to do it.  Dunno why...lol

But, If I am going to an outcall and something happens..traffic, etc..I always call and let them know so they are just not sitting there tapping there fingers.

One thing I hate is when someone calls and says there are 5 minutes away, or tells me the location, I can judge how long it will take to get to me....and then 45 minutes later, they are still not here.

Dont tell me your 5 minutes away when you are an hour away!!  I could be doing something I out off while I wait....

While being too late or too early is both considered to be rude, and unless there is a very plausable reason for tardiness, if a client is more than 20 minutes late for an appt with a lady, the appt is cancelled.
And while many believe that being early is not rude or intrusive, it is.
Many ladies are tending to those last final touches within those moments..... lighting candles, doing a once over on make-up, adjusting the lights, music.... and this is the ladies, or gents time, that they had alloted themselves to do whatever it was that they wanted to do.... and by intruding in on that time, it quite simply stating that your needs were to be considered foremost and of the most importance.
Just as being extremely tardy also states that you ae giving no consideration towards the others time, and it is only your time that is important, no matter or disregard given to the fact that they may then have to rearrange their schedule because you gave so little consideration to them.
This also applies to going over booking times.  While many ask " Are you a clock watcher ?"  never wanting to hear that " Why, yes, I am, an hour is an hour...." The fact is, that while she may not be a clock watcher, you certainly are, as you are watching the clock to make sure that you get your full time, and in most cases even more.
To go over by 10 minutes is one thing, but to not respect the lady in the fact that you try to get an extra half an hour or more is totally uncalled for, and shows that you don't respect the fact that she has a life outside of this. You also put her in the uncomfortable position of having to say something....
Funny though, if you were at your accountants, or your shrinks, who you also know charges by the hour, it would be you trying to scoot out the door as quickly as possible, and or you would take no offense to them saying " Well our hour is up...." but the same resepct is not alloted for this profession.... which isn't right at all, especially seeing the gentle, personal nature of this business... and that you only want to cultivate a relationship with your chosen one, that makes them want to see you again.... because the sheer fact is, it is a choice if someone wants to see you again.... and part of that choice is in how much you respect her or she respects you.....

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I am always early.

If I don't receive a phone call letting me know he's running late, and I wait 15 minutes with no sign of him I leave. No refund on deposit for inconsiderate bastards who don't bother treating me like the valuable person that I am.

Flip side: I make sure to plan carefully to avoid keeping a man waiting. If my flight is delayed, can't get a taxi in a timely manner, or traffic is insane, I call right away and let him know. This way he can reschedule dinner, let business associates know of plan changes, etc.