Including all requested info as stated on the website should be a no brainer. It’s totally a reasonable request.
Now, I’m new to this, and I find it odd that a woman who will do all sorts of sexual activities, and claim GFE, will not DFK. I would think that would be assumed as central to a passionate encounter. Call me old fashioned, but I really love the passionate kissing that leads up to amazing sex.  
I know way more about human biology, infectious disease, and human bio flora to believe that DFK is as hazardous as other practices.

Hookers asking for all the information.. We provide them all the information including references and even mark the calendar for a potential date.. Then she goes ahead and cancels the tour.  Not only it is frustrating because I didn't get the pussy I was looking for, but from logistics point of view what a waste of time and energy, and we just ended up bothering two /three  ladies for no reason to vouch for us.   This is not hypothetical situation I am painting.. Has happened multiple times.  In DC we no longer have quality independents like we used to, so have to rely on visiting providers.

to respectful, complete inquiries for scheduling a session, using an appropriate channel. This includes P411.  If the provider’s P411 profile says that requests via P411 are ok, I assume it’s ok to send requests that way. (I follow up via direct email in 24 hours if no response to P411 requests,  in case she’s OOO and has an auto-response on her email about it.)

 
It takes only a minute to send an email response, even if it’s “I’ll get back to you soon” when they’re busy.  Or an auto-response at the very least—then follow up on the auto-response as soon as she’s able.  

 
If a provider can’t respond in some way in a reasonable time (e.g. 24 hours during her work days), I think she should get an assistant or rethink her profession.  

I have the same reaction. No response, does it mean not interested? Who knows?

All arrangements have been confirmed.  Ladies usually tour at least 30 miles away.  I get to hotel parking lot on time and text for the room number.  I wait, and wait.  Text again with no answer.  Finally I get the room number 15-20 min. late.

I feel exposed sitting in the lot and often move my car across the street, not that it would really help.  Date starts late which throws off my schedule.  Happens at least twice a year and it is so annoying. Sends all kinds of bad signal too.  Did her previous appointment run long?  Did she over sleep and will not be in the mood?  Etc.  

I think the #1 pet peeve would be if you reach out and you don't even get a response from the provider.

It leaves you hanging up in the air:  Do you resend?  How much time do you give before you move on?

A popular gal who has a handler who always got back to me within a few hours at the most, has completely ghosted me.  
Coincidentally, she has raised her pricing significantly and had me grandfather in at her much lower rate due to my many previous visits which always included nice tips/gifts.  

I get it, if she's now so busy, that she'll want to focus on the big fish, but a simple reply would be nice.

I am not new to the world of seeing escorts, I’ve met well over 100 ladies and I’ve had a lot of experiences, both good and bad. But, here’s what peeves me. I read a lady’s website entirely, respond completely, and send it along and no response. Or, once a response is finally received, it takes days to finalize details due to long delays in responses from the lady.  These days I don’t have a lot of opportunities to see someone and I have to plan ahead. So, if you are not available or don’t want to see me, I want to move along to someone else. I never send requests to more than one lady at a time.   Similarly, if a lady is on P411, I expect a response to an appointment request. If more info is needed, then respond with a request.  

A month ago, I made an inquiry with a lady for the first time. I filled out her appointment request form on her website and got a response 4 hours later.  I responded right away and with two more quick email exchanges everything was set.  Total elapsed time was about 5 1/2 hours. This is extraordinary but, I will booked repeatedly with this lady because of her responsiveness along with her other tremendous talents and assets.

When I go onto your website, not only should the pictures look like you but the attitude and English proficiency should reflect you.

Many foreign born ladies have nice websites written by other prove on their behalf.  And have an assistant answer their emails.  The problem is I like to go out with ladies, go to dinner.  Nothing against foreign ladies but it can be awkward when they don't get out sense of humor.  It's not fun for me.  I want us to laugh and tease and be playful.

Being 10-15 minutes late and then rushing me because an escort booked 60 or 90 minute appointments back to back with no time in between clients, and never allowing any margin of error!  Also Texting in front of a client is also extremely rude!

And when they don’t understand if it takes time to respond.

Not showing up at all or making me wait especially since I always book days in advance.  Also, ladies that use out dated pictures and haven't kept the lean body they had in their twenties.  So thank goodness for TER.  Many guys have stopped me from making big mistakes.  I've also decided if their looks are not what I thought or saw then I give them a few bucks and say sorry and leave. I also think it's nice to get the likes and dislikes out of the way upfront as not to happen during play time.

Perfume and scented oils.  
The S.O. picks up on the slightest scent.
It’s baffling how many providers are oblivious to this. Typically why I see new providers in the morning. It allows all day for the scent to dissipate.

Growing trend of Full Bare Service.  Several ladies I wanted to see or agencies I had wanted to visit that I must take off my list.  Amazing the sites where it is actually advertised.  I may just be getting old but really don't understand. PReP is not the end all be all to everything.

One of my biggest pet peeves are when a provider puts in an ad and a hobbyist thinks that he can get a cheaper price. Now, I get that we went through the covid deal, but life goes on and we all got to be careful. But being cheap is not part of the deal. If you (The Hobbyist) does not have the full amount of what any of the providers are asking then wait and save up your money (And resort to lotion & porn).  
   The second is when the hobbyist sets a date and does not show.  

Pics being 10 years old and 30 pounds ago. Heavily photoshopped.

I don't wanna hear about other clients. I genuinely don't care, and it's sure as hell not what I'm paying you for.

Screening

My biggest pet peeve is fellas not reading my ad that says SCREENING IS MANDATORY then they get mad at me when I send them my screening requirements or they simply ghost me. I've heard every argument one can bring against sending the info and been offered everything but what I've asked for. It's not rocket science and I haven't been a top provider in my town for as long as I have by scamming clients using their private information.  It's a safety measure. Period.

My biggest pet peeve is arriving at a hotel room to find a provider that looks nothing like her photos.  Nothing annoys me more.  

Personally, I don’t love being frequently asked about other providers and our personal relationships. I am always happy to connect clients with my friends/colleagues, but it’s uncomfortable to feel like they are being used in a fantasy when we could simply be having a duo or group date.

My biggest pet peeve is this hobby isn't as much fun anymore.
  Unfortunately this country and it's political divide is also dividing this hobby. The amount of predators both providers and clients must protect themselves against has left us at a standoff. Providers are concerned over safety and rightfully so. Clients are concerned about identity theft, blackmail etc etc.  
  So policies are implemented on both sides. Then rather than understanding and compromising some we just complain about each other. Pushing client and providers farther apart, prices are raised, deposits are required, budgets are exceeded, deposits are stolen. Yet we just point fingers. This makes many first interactions very business like. Finding a welcoming bubbly first interaction is increasingly harder to find on both sides. Providers get annoyed then go silent and clients get turned off and ghost. And here we are trying to figure out what makes each other tick while standing on opposite sides of a closed door. We each should be allowed policies both provider and client alike. But along with that needs to be some understanding. We are ALL swimming in a sea of sharks.

I have only been in the hobby 2 years but have wasted time and missed an alternate opportunity 3 times when I show up on time but the provider won’t see me because she made communication mistakes or was overly nervous.

Ex 1:  I wasn’t given the room number and left texts and vmsg before giving up after waiting a half hour.  I later sent a text saying how disappointed I was because I thought she was reputable with good reviews.  She then responded by text and video call and came to realize she had ghosted me  by mistake to get even with another client who had twice been a no show.  She apologized and we met the next day.  I have seen her several times since and she often mentions the hundreds of texts she gets, but doesn’t want an assistant.

Ex 2:  After a 10 minute delay waiting for room number the provider texted and spoke with me about not wanting me to come up while there were several housekeepers on her floor.  I waited about 40 minutes and we agreed to call it off, but I was annoyed because she should have had a plan for meeting clients at times (this was for 11am) when room cleaning is typically done.  She also wouldn’t give me preferential treatment for rebooking so i did not see her.

Ex 3:  A provider I had seen 10 times said she could see me “about” 11am the next day and I agreed but asked her to confirm by nighttime so I could plan my 1 hr drive. She did not reply until morning that 11am was firm, so I took pff like a jack rabbit to not be late.  I arrived and she was surprised that I had showed up without reconfirming and was not able to see me because the woman whose apartment she uses was still there.  I said I did not need to reconfirm because the time was the same as what I had agreed to and I had never reconfirmed with her in the past unless there had been a change.  She admitted that she was nervous and thought I had not replied that morning because I was mad that she had not locked the time the previous evening.  She has consistently had substandard communication skills and on top of that gets nervous but doesn’t request a timely response for reassurance to counter her paranoid thoughts.

I hate these types of phrases when a provider uses them to describes oneself. It comes off as extremely pompous and indicates those words are their only personality. They are luxurious, decedent, opuelent, etc. What are you a jewelery commercial?

Too much make up

 
BTW on another note
The Cavalry is coming

1.  Providers that talk in a little girl/teenager affected voice.  The ones that giggle continuously when they talk pretty much ruin the session for me before it even begins.  This is one of the major reasons that I stopped seeing providers that were in their 20s completely.  FWIW, I tend to gravitate towards providers in their late 30s -50s and have never had an issue with this. I want a god damn WOMAN- not a pipsqueak /  

2.  Providers that spend an inordinate amount of time in the restroom before the session starts.  I'm talking like 5-10 minutes.  

3.  Providers that are late for appointments.  I don't accept the mantra of "life happens".  If you're a pro act like one and get to the hotel on time.If I dot her from them after 15 minutes i sent them a nice text  that or session is overall

4.  Providers that don't update their pics on P411.  IMHO, they should be required to do so at a minimum of once per year.  Professional shots aren't necessary but show at least one full body shot, clothed is fine, that can give us an approximation on your weight and general appearance.  Too many great gals in Vegas that I would love to see that have pics that are way, way to old.

5.  Providers that insist on my real name, at the last minute, even though I had contacted them though TER and set up the appointment that way.  If that is there policy that is there right, and I really don't have a problem with this.  What I do have a problem with is when they spring this on you once they get to the hotel.  I have actually stopped two sessions from going forward do to this.  I would NEVER give out any RLE, and when I'm pressed, to do so I politely decline.  

6.  Providers that bring up a lot of political talk at the beginning of their sessions.  This is  a HUGE red flag and ill terminate the session as early as I can.  I'll usually settle up with half the hourly fee, and if she makes a big stink about it ill write u[ an honest review, which we will be aware of before her departure.

7.  Final Peeve. When I select provider ad she has approved my screening and the appointment is filly set up.  At that point I as her if se is willing to bring some toys and a push up braw with a shot mini skirt )leather is a pls)  I tell her to see me in the lobby or bar as dolled dow and ccompforaboe  as possible.  His woks very well.  Wha doest work is that a growing  number pf them either forget the toy os outfit reqests.  Then there's the entire 5/m wait in the rest room one we get to m suots
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I kind of like to get into the animal spirit of sex.  So it is really distracting when a provider starts asking questions, since you have to come out of your zone to think about the answer.  I had one really chatty provider early on and though she was fun and everything, I remember being annoyed by her stream of questions -- about everything.  I always had to start thinking about the answer and stop thinking about the sex.  

The thing that really bugs the crap out of me are providers that stay in control (or try to) for the duration of the appointment.  A little control is okay but when it's strong enough for me to sense it in any way, I usually go limp. I put it in the same category as being mechanical.  Sure, I never lose sight of the fact that it's a business transaction, but when you're paying top dollar for an escort, at least do your best to try and make it seem somewhat real.  I just recently did an overnight with someone I had only been with once before and the first appointment was I think 3-4 hours.  That went well enough for me to ask for the overnight.  The o/n was a different story.  It was almost like she clocked in and clocked out at precisely the 12 hours we had agreed upon.  She consistently gets top reviews but I doubt that I'll ever see her again for these reasons.

When a provider pulls out midway while CIM, is a huge pet peeve of mine.  Cum goes all over the place and I don't feel completed.  Then the loud throat clearing in the bathroom with mouth wash.  I just roll my eyes, as the last one is an advertised BB provider in another area, but GFE here.  Great service all the way until just before the end.  Just say you don't do it.  F me.  

1) Ladies who make a big deal out of being "upscale" and "professional" .. then don't hold up their end of the deal.
     I started in this hobby where B&S, Fake Photos, Upsells, Badger Game were part and parcel of the risk. That's why I started with street action, where what you see is what you get, and any bad vibes or hassles, on to the next.

The first time I went to Amsterdam and Germany, where's it's legal and above board, it was a breath of fresh air.

2) NCNS, especially to an INCALL session, where you've already booked, confirmed, arrived and are waiting.

3) Screening hassles.  If you're a punter who pays the $180/yr for P411 and has multiple OK's, that's a sign of serious hobbyist. It's your body, your business, but insisting on an additional reference from your clique of friends is an instant NEXT for me.

4) Advertising GFE but no DFK. Yes, we get it. Again, your body.  But stick to FSBM if it's not your thing.

5) Bad attitude, bad hygiene, smelly/messy room, and worst of all, texting/phoning during a session.  Again, we get it. You have to spend a bunch of time with energy-draining assholes, low-ballers, time-wasters, etc; you have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding a prince.  Maybe get a screener/booker?

6) Locals requiring a deposit.  I'll be happy to pay a deposit for a well-known, well-reviewed touring star. The rest? Nope.  This comes from (bad) experience.

7) If you don't like having intimate contact with strangers, you're in the wrong profession.  

8) Panhandling/Badgering for tips.

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By peeve has been poor communication skills & bad attitudes w/ agency screeners. They complain about people wasting their time but don't say what they need up front & aren't clear when they finally get to the point.    

During appointment texting is definitely a mood killer. (Also an issue w/ agency girls). No problems w/ indies so far. I suppose that should tell me something.

Well, there is a first time for everything. I had a less than acceptable experience with a provider, and wrote an honest review, actually being as kind as possible. Soon after, I got blowback from her about how if I wasn’t happy I should have just said nothing about it and not booked her again. Then she showed me a screenshot of some app where she called me an old man and said I talk too much. LOL I guess if she hadn’t showed me I wouldn’t have known.  But she sure read my review. So, my irritation is that providers can read our reviews, but they can slam us on some app that only they know about. Joke is on her for showing me though. I found out the app, and one of my atf providers posted her opinion of me there.

1) Using outdated Pics in your ads. Everyone has a camera on their phone - no excuse not to update your pics annually, as your current appearance is part of your brand.  

2) Anyone who owns a business knows that getting feedback from their customers benefits them. Providers seem to be the only 'business owners' that are resistant to customer feedback and take a 'how dare you critique me' stand point.

3) I don't need a million reminders that Christmas, Valentines Day, your birthday, etc is coming up accompanied with a link to your wish list.

In addition to many previously stated, providers phones ringing constantly during the session; major distraction.  

my pet peeve...misleading descriptions

Some of my reviews show frustration at finding a woman to be nothing like what's in the photos or webpage description.  The turnover of providers in my area seems rather frequent, so in many cases there are no reviews.  Consequently us Hobbyists must have the attitude of TOFFTT.  Many of the Providers show photos that are old with ads that understate their weight by significant amounts.  I am pretty sure that's no accident.   ( I actually prefer that women don't show their faces).  Many of the liaisons I schedule occur during a business day or during travel.  Time management is of the essence.  In some cases, I could just turn around and leave, but then I am more disappointed than if I just complete the session.  I wonder, however, how Providers can expect return visits as the reality of their physical state is apparent.

My pet peeves are those “you available” texts followed by a disappearance as soon as I mention to provide the info I request on my ads or (preferably) fill out the reservation form on my website.
There is a reason I have a website and a form to fill out, it saves time and makes it easier to move forward. Those that don’t do that are not serious.