Lately many providers I've been requesting dates with have been asking for personal information like ID and work location and phone number.  I tell them I would rather provide references of reviewed providers that vouch that I'm safe and nice and clean.  They get upset and tell me references are useless.

I always thought a reputable provider can provide more useful information than photo id.  I can provide those personal things and still be a jerk.  Is there something I'm missing here?  

Others want to know who  and how to blackmail you if piss them off somehow.

 
My advice is to keep your personal info personal if a pissed off hooker could ruin your life with said info.

I tried to book a 3 hr session and was told 2 current references or my P411 with 12 OKs wasn't sufficient.  I had to show my face, picture of my drivers ID, and also supply my linkedin so she could see my employment.  The wrong head was thinking so I agreed but wanted to do it over her paid video consult, just so there's less chance of a digital footprint stored somewhere or hacked.  I was willing to take the risk that she herself wouldn't do me ill will.  (Yeah, I know -- I'm stupid.)
No go for that either.  Apparently, doing a video consult to receive my personal information was too threatening, so we walked away.  

But get this, I then see on twitter that I'm apparently scream worthy because if I didn't want to comply with her screening in exactly the way she wanted it done, then I'm simply telling her that I'm "unconcerned with what [she] needs in order to protect myself, my life, and my livelihood."

I pointed out how hypocritical that was and, of course, the wagons circled and I got some nice passive-aggressive tweets at the end by providers I've taken off my list for sure.

reading her booking form, one would instantly know that she didn't care about references since it wasn't a "required" section to fill out. She even states so. She only wants real info and then some.

Either provide what the provider wants and how they want it, or move along. I personally would've moved along.

I'm seeing more and more providers ask for ALL of that info which is a tad bit too much IMO. Again, I'm not providing it, so I move along.

There are still plenty of quality providers who will gladly accept references/p411 oks without requiring ALL of that info too.

Yeah, those types of discussions are generally not going anywhere. Much better to just agree that mutually acceptable terms on mitigating risks to the satisfaction of both parties involved was not possible, wish each other well and then just move on.

 
It's not that your observation about this being a two way street situation was not accurate, or that only seeing one side is a bit hypocritical, but just that if someone is not seeing that -- or worse just refuses to acknowledge/accept it -- the discussion in not going to go well. Given that, why walk down that path and have to deal with such drama?

Because if they think that way without any kind of push back, it will become even more commonplace.  

I had actually agreed to give her the information but for some reason, she still wanted it in a particular way even though she sells video consults (as well as a racier virtual session).  Her rules, so I did walk away.  And then she complains about it in a tweet, saying such a failure to comply means we obviously don’t care about the provider’s safety.

It’s funny because certain types of power exchange are my fetish.  I had volunteered to stick my hands through a chained door of an incall she controlled, and be handcuffed and further restrained the whole time.  And I weigh in just a little more than her.  She knew that too.  

It’s a market though, and after this, I’m not even going to think about a provider with that level of screening.  Recent references + a dozen older ones are my limit now.

And more and more women are requesting personal info.  

 
I have had a few over at my house, and know me personally, but those are the ones I have developed trust with over the years. I also dabbled in SB/SD world for last 5 yrs, and that world is a lot more relaxed that this  hooker / john world.  

 
What GaGambler said is exactly right. If you are in a position where you really need to protect yourself and your personal info can't get out there, then keep looking.

Perhaps I misunderstood your post. It sounded to me like you got into a discussion on twitter with the girl about the situation. If not, sorry for reading that in.

was very graceful and respectful about it.

She's an Asian-American woman in her late 30's who offers FBSM at her incall location in a California city, I called her and we duscussed screening. She told me what she wanted, it was too much for me, I offered less intrusive alternatives, it was not enough for her.

When it became apparent that we weren't going to teach a mutually satisfactory screening process, I politely said that I even though I was really looking forward to a session with her, I would have to miss out. I told her I respected her requirements and understood that her safety is a top concern, especially for a man completely unknown to her. She was equally just as polite and thanked me for not flying off the handle like some other men had done. She said when some men found out she wouldn't see them, she had been cursed out, or called every name in the book, or had threats of violence or LE involvement made against her, or nasty remarks about how she looked in her photos, everything.

She said it didn't happen every time, but having a man act like a gentleman about it was pleasant for her.

Aren't we all so touched that you can fuckin' resolve a dispute like a gentleman  

 
LMAO..

Promising candidate provider wants personal info.  Claims she wanted to make sure I wasn't a serial killer.  Fair enough.  Why aren't provider references enough?  I suppose I could see some providers as a way to get references, then use that to get in the door anonymously so I can rape and murder someone.  But if that's the case then I think this industry is done for.

I don't telling seen other hookers, my name one Ter, my work, also dick pick are use for blackmail.   If she wants to talk on phone for hours I just might and she can figure me out. But most ack like game played scammers.

I don't have her real name 99% time only two chicks that had it tattoo on there back knew it. She need all me personal shit.  I remember this one chick that gave me the third degree for a $100.00 dollar date then change voice and phone for high figure $500.0 told see her. She did not ask any questions she blew up phone VIA text 2 hours. Then call me every hour I had to hide phone for week.  It all depends how bad you need to get you dick wet vs her need the money it never cross her I was playing because want money so bad.