I've been confused about this language in ads for some time. A lady lists her rate, but her ad also says "generous gentlemen only." If he's willing to pay the rate, does it really matter whether he considers himself to be generous?

Most guys don't pay the rate because they're generous, they pay because they're horny.

So is this language code for "don't call and try to negotiate rates"? Or code for "I only want to see guys who'll compensate me extra for a job well done"?

Would appreciate insight from the ladies.

I believe you'll find their response to be in the line of, you can afford to spend time with them at the rate being asked, not about tipping, or gifts. It can also be in reference to the issue of attitude. Can you be with her at her requested rate, and not feel "pinched," so to speak. Fully enjoy her, without having negative feelings relating pay for play.

That's an interesting phrase and one that I've not yet noticed or used. Where are you finding these ads by chance?

Had I used that phrase, I'd be reinforcing that time IS money and if you want to linger, be prepared to include that in your total donation. For many this is understood, but there are still those who want to assume otherwise.

But since it's not me, it could also mean gentlemen are encouraged to tip should you enjoy your time spent. It also means that if you're not that sort of gentleman, don't expect a return date. While I can't argue with the principle, I do find the suggestion a bit pushy and crass.

Unlike customer service or food service positions, ours is a world of premium pay. While they accept a reduced wage in exchange for the guaranteed tips, we (providers) are the rulers of our domain.

If I am setting my own wage and determining my own time commitments, I do't EXPECT a tip. I appreciate it. I will remember it. And I will equally reward you for it the next time we meet.

But I'd never imply that your NOT tipping made you ineligible to see me.

~Bella

I see it in ads periodically. Saw it two ads in the last two days.  I don't want to call out any ladies by posting links. I'm just curious about the thinking behind that phrase. The language turns me off a little. I do tip when the session is good, but still.

In my book it means not tipping but to be respectful and to enjoy the time we are together and def NOT pitch a tent and set up camp! If you want to stay ask first and then we can negotiate 10 15 minutes is fine but I start getting fidgety if you stay and extra hour I feel cheated then and your not being generous UNLESS of course we are discussing other matters or enjoying dinner or excursion during my time I want. hope this helps

Ok, so that brings up another question.  I've notices that some providers list services like dinner date for $$$$$. I don't see the point of paying for your company while I'm also buying dinner.  I don't mind paying for time when we are alone, but if I'm in a public place and I'm buying dinner and drinks, it seems strange that I'd also have to pay you for your time.

On the other extreme I see offers for 15 minutes sessions, I've read other blogs where the guy takes 20 minutes to take a shower  What good is a 15 minute session?  Inquiring Minds want to know.

I agree that the behavior you describe is unacceptable. But the word you used -- respectful -- is a better term for the type of gentleman who wouldn't do this.

I have seen ladies use some variation of respectful in ads. It's too bad guys need to be reminded of this.

I think that a generous man is someone who goes above and beyond expected when I arrive.  A man who has candles lit all over the room so its romantic.  Even when a gentleman who asks what he may have prepared for drinks while I'm there.  By no means do I ever expect more than what my donation states, this is purley upselling.  
If I stay longer, and we continue having fun, than of course, I'd expect the extra donation in return for my time.  However, I may bring that up after the fact, knowing that I may get stiffed, but just to keep the mood right.  
"It's too bad guys need to be reminded of this," but that's just how the cookie crumbles.  This is why you should allow others to know your situation, and whom your issue is with, so that maybe you can prevent someone from endurring such behavior, and or maybe that provider will have to change her ways.
XOXO
McKayla W.

its just a way to get around saying  i want a paying customer.


just like saying "suggested donation" instead of rate.

but that was the only phrase you could use to make a point you wanted dollars for your time..Personal ads where big in 70's and 80's early 90's and most had this one in it for a working girl.

I still use those terms but as filler and to let the person reading feel i'm looking for someone special.

Kisses Haley

it would rule out the negotiators more politely.

It's a hoary phrase from the days of the personal ads in the '60's and '70's. (Double entendre intended.)

Back then, all there was were personal ads, and some of the ads were attempts to find non PFP friends and lovers.

So, to distinguish themselves from that kind of ad, and not be too obvious, working gals would use the phrase "generous gentlemen" as a kind of wink and nod so that their intentions were clear.

These days with websites and all, it is hardly necessary to state this.

"No muss no fuss these are my fees." Mo haggling and if you want extra time etc please be ready to pay for that without a fuss.

The answers above are all good ideas and probably very true at some point in time.  My take is that she would love the guy to drop a little extra in the envelope.  Hopefully, it is not required, as most lovely ladies say tipping is not necessary, but we all know they would not turn it down.

Me, I don't tip, but I always bring gifts, so my 'tip' is done ahead of time.  I don't do this with the expectation of a higher quality date, but because I want her to feel that I think she is special.  And at that particular time, she is special, she is my girlfriend, if only for an hour.

Swim

I take it as a "cue" to anyone interested that this is definitely a "play for pay" ad, and not to expect anything else.

it might mean she prefers a professional gentleman over a guy who might not be well educated.

Then why wouldn't she just say "culture and distinguished gentlemen only"?  I think it means well mannered mean that don't haggle.

Being called Generous and a Gentleman!