Good for you, Sydney

There are men out there who can give and love correctly...but there are a lot of haystacks to look through to find the needles.  Hopefully, when you are ready, you won't have to look through many, and your new standards will help you make a good choice.

Maybe for  most people  they  put on a  mask and become someone  else. I cannot do that, I am  the real me all the  time.
Some people find it hard to believe that anyone can be as nice as I am, and they do not believe it is me.
MY whole Life I have been told I am too nice, well I guess I am, but I like me this way.

If you were to meet  me  in the civi world and take me out you would get  no different treatment then if  it were the  provider world.(((OK  only difference in civi world I don't  put  out on first date,,,,, LOL))))  

I have  always  dated  the  nice  guy too, never  been treated  badly  and  never  went  psycho on a guy, I guess  it  says  something that I am still good  friends  with everyone  of  my ex’s

When I first started providing I gave  my self a few  rules..

1. I would stop if I ever became someone I did not Like,   or change who I really am.
2. I would stop if I could not  handle the  people I  encountered
3. I would stop If I could not  have an  Orgasms any more.


P.S. I agree  with Carrie  of  London, if a  girl  is  getting  treated  better  by  clients  then  she  is  by  her  dates, then  she  is dating the  wrong  men.

The circumstances are so different that comparisons are meaningless.  And that's true whether it's a one time encounter or you're somebody's ATF.

I suppose something sensible could be said comparing a session with a client and a first date.

I think that once you have established a relationship of sorts with a provider previous

to whatever your fightsstresses, then she can bring you what you seek without feeling put down by your seeming lack of attention to her. She'll be able to handle your selfcenteredness.

If on the other hand, you cold call a girl for a quickie when you are already stressed out (what I refer to in my post above), then what do you think it would convey to her about you and how you might treat her?  

Really,  it's about matching up the right people with similar outlooks.  Maybe your type of need is a lady whose special skill is in dealing with that type of stress.  



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-The XSO shows up unexpectedly and points his .357 magnum at you. Not only doesn't she apologize afterward, but in court she won't testify;

-She offers to take you someplace special, and takes you to biker bar that you're lucky to get out of alive;

-You pick her up from her home and she hasn't bathed-- for three days, and proceeds to tell you a heart-rending story about how much she tried to bathe and failed;

-Third date, she goes with you to get the condom, goes with you to the hotel, stays with you as you get the room, follows you up to the room. Then, when you make your move, she fights you like it's a rape;

-My personal favorite: you meet her at a bar, pick her up consensually, she agrees to go to your place, and then as you are walking to the car she pulls out a blade and slashes you in the shoulder.  

I have at least twelve more of these stories.  A few of them personal, most of them are from friends.  Some of them are too traumatic and gut wrenching to ever repeat-- even anonymously.

The "normal" dating scene has turned brutal.  It's full of dysfunctional, hateful, and downright malignant women. I'm with you KC.  Providers are the best.

/Zin

/Zin