Ok so I saw an ad offering penis massage I was interested but it felt like a trap, I have never seen that   advertised by people who know what they are doing, is it a trap?

from tantric providers.  Google "Lingam massage."  There are even videos.  

I see it mostly related to tantric services. It just a bit more intricate hand job, tbh. I have had it done several times and I liked it but I wouldn't replace sexual intercourse or oral for it. Just something a few girls told me they were into and so I tried it.

There's  always  a first  for everything.  There's  only  five ways my penis gets massaged - mouth,pussy,boobs ,hand., and .....you can figure out the other one, even though am not a of it.

That sounds pretty direct. I'd be suspicious as well. If they actually used the word lingam I would feel more at ease. People that tend to speak of yoni's and lingam would be higher up the authenticity scale. People such as myself, who as you say- "Know what they are doing" do not present the experience in such a way.

There's REAL people out here that LOVE what they do. There's scams, (don't send money ahead) & of course....... You can rely on reviews to see if a person is real, but you are going to have to see if the person is a fit for you one on one. NOT everyone is looking for trouble, not everyone is looking for sex, & not everyone is looking for a massage. Good reviews could come from the provider, or their "friends", Just like bad reviews can come from an EX employer, Competition, a CLIENT that caused the problem THEMSELVES (that happened to me & he is relentless, pushed me around)  I would say research & go w/ your gut, if you have found proof they DO EXIST! Like an M&M!  xo   Mistress Star