Hi, everyone.  I've been a VIP for nearly a year but this is my first post! I enjoy reading the boards and I thank you for the enlightenment and laughs over the past year.  However, I've not really felt the need to post until now.  I have a question that very well might have been covered in some fashion on these boards before. If so, I appologize for being redundant but I could not find a similar topic in my search of the boards.  So, here goes.

I feel the need to preface this by saying that I'm not really ashamed of my problem. I realize that there are methods to correct it and I'm working on it.  I know it's not related to a health issue, etc. Yet, my recent experiences have not been good.

I have a problem with being, well, premature. I know why. The sex life with the SO is few and far between and "self sessions" are typically found in spare moments, giving rare opportunities to work on this problem alone.  I believe that a provider can assist with this problem since the help at home is not forthcoming.

Still, the past two experiences have been poor with a provider  (one with a repeat friend and the other with a CL poster; yeah, I know bad move and lesson learned).  One didn't notice the problem; yeah, the session was THAT BAD.  The other, my repeater, actually expressed frustration and called it a day.  I won't be seeing her again.  A shame because I liked her.

So, that's the backstory and here is my question.  Should I be upfront about this issue with my next provider?  Should I specifically stress that more than one "pop" will be needed  (I am capable of going for another round pretty quickly).  If the answer is "yes", when is the right time to present this scenario?  Obviously, during the screening process this would violate proper ettiquete because I can't think of a "cloaked" way of asking this question.  The day-of, I could be met with a "one round" rule which pretty much means that I would have been best off alone.

I've recently moved to a new area and while I have strong references, none of the local girls know me.  So, it's not as if it's likely that I'll have extended conversations prior to the first meeting.    So do I just deal with this and play roulette (no mis-fire jokes, please. lol) until I find an understanding friend?

I know I can overcome this if I have an understanding partner.  In fact, it may improve things at home if I can work through it.  So, while I would hope a session doesn't evolve into something more similar to a visit to the doctor's office  (then again, that might be a fun role-playing thing, eh?), I would like to approach this with someone who is sensitive to the problem and won't greet me with rolled eyes.

I know from my past experiences that there are ladies out there who view their work as helping the men they work with.  How do I find them?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts.

is if you tell her.

You might get a joke or sarcasm on this board, but don’t let that bother you. Your question will certainly be well received on the National “The Erotic Highway” board.

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/messageList.asp?boardID=20

Is your new area serviced by a TER Regional board? If so, I’d suggest repeating this post there. An interested, capable and caring lady will almost certainly “step up.”

By reading reviews and studying websites you can gain an idea of which ladies might provide the mental connection that will offer a better opportunity for the help you desire.

Definitely do NOT ask ahead of time if multiple pops are allowed, but your research will certainly show you which ones offer multiple shots on goal.

You might also seek out someone with true experience in Tantra, as these techniques are very helpful (as well as fulfilling).

It may take multiple sessions to find someone that you click with. Be patient and try to enjoy the journey.

but one of the best cures for PE is sex, a lot of it. If your budget and situation permit it, book a ticket to Costa Rica or Brazil or some other such place and go have a fuck fest. It is amazing what that much sex will do for your staying power.

I was not quite a two pump chump, but I used to be much faster on the draw then I would have liked to be. After enjoying the pleasures of 4-5 ladies a day for a few days I found I could last as long as I wanted to. I can last an hour for my first pop and even longer for my second, but be careful what you ask for. Not all(or even most) women actually like being pounded for hours no matter what you've read.

I would masturbate right before leaving the house for a date. It actually worked!

Now I wish I could have all those back, LOL.

I make  appts with two providers ...One cheap one I  really don't like..I give her a 5 minute stuufing and use her shower..30 minutes later I am at my favs house.
If the cheap one doesn't show up I jerk off to Celin Dion

whats his name had the date with Cameron Diaz, and right before the dae he masurbated to the bra ads in the newspaper.

He ejaculates, but doesnt know where it went, looks around, and then the doorbell rings.

It's Cameron.  " Are you ready? You still have some mousse in your hair".

She grabs it and puts it into her own hair, making it spike straight up.

Not my favorite movie, but that was a funny scene.

-SR

it delays ejaculation, and potentialy can cause the opposite problem. ask me how i know. i think providers hate me. i constantly hear times up and i'm not even close. i kind of wish i had your problem

Book more time with the provider. Most are very accommodating during longer sessions.