When I first contact a provider by email, I typically send a couple of short paragraphs just to introduce myself and I try to use good grammar and spelling.   I don't want to send them my complete biography, but just sending "hey, can we get together and f***?" seems rude and disrespectful, even if that's the ultimate goal.  

If I get a correctly spelled, grammatically correct response, that makes me feel good.    

On the other hand, if I get a 3 or 4 word reply with no punctuation, no capitalization, bad grammar and spelling - that completely turns me off and I'm a lot less likely to make an appointment.  I don't mean to be a grammar Nazi, because we all make mistakes now and then, but I like a little effort in communication, especially the first time.  

So, does that make me a jerk

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I like good grammar. I make enough typos myself that I don't feel I can be TOO much of a stickler, but it kills the mood if there's too many of them.

I have an aversion to emails using texting shorts. I wouldn't put, "I 1 2 C U" for example, instead of typing out, "I want to see you." That sort of thing makes me doubt the possibility of any chemistry developing between us.

Emoticons and such are fine. Slang has to be acceptable, because there's always a creative degree of code and cryptic wording. Even that, if it borders on explicit is a turnoff. One woman I emailed responded with an invitation, adding the line, "And I love to suck cock!" I guess that was meant to get me excited, but it had the reverse effect. Never made an appointment.

I guess being a jerk would be calling her out on it and complaining about it. I usually just either shrug it off and lower my expectations, or if it's too bad, I cancel

Well als run in family. Dad had it. Died fast too. I have times where I cant continue activity I am doing. Stinks.  
then my uncle had a very nasty fall he did suffer from also crippling fibro and he did fall and cracked his skull open and I offered to Moltres long painful deaths
I talked to that my aunt right now has been given a handicap sticker on her car and she cannot lift a quart of milk this is been going on for 2 years with her.
anyways a good majority of the time I have a hard time keeping up with life's things.
as of late my PC has been down for well over 3 months I did take it to the shop more than 2 times it is sitting in my living room I have been paying for Internet service for well over two months but I do need some help trying to get hooked up I just have somebody here last week and they didn't help me with transportation and spent $74 in my beauty supplies and I did do an appointment with them but I do get run down and tired of trying to find people to help me
nevertheless.I have had things happen where my computer completely shut down mid conversation with people where ru doing a back and forth to try to plan an appointment in all of a sudden the computer would get shut down or worse my hands would not do what I wanted them to do and do to fibromyalgia or some form of mental nervous breakdown after my dad got terminally ill from MLS as well as my uncle dying from the head injury as well as my cousin dyie re will be someone I'm not going to see for a month away and we are doing quite a bit of a back and forth to try to even up the score and kind of plot and plan and then even worse after all that back and forth sometimes is a cancellation and you find that you went through quite a bit of effort in elbow grease and for me it's very difficult for me to type I get a lot of neck pain on pain back pain. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia finally 2 years ago after a lifetime of pain and constantly going to the doctors and basically having seriously immobilising pain.
for the longest time it cost so much frustration for me not being able to continue a conversation with people the IAT email or text because my neck and back pain but sometimes gets so bad simple things like pressing a key on a keyboard or even holding the phone to press a button down or things like holding a cup and pinching your pointy finger in your some together or maybe holding a key your pointy finger and some together it's basically kind of like connective tissue I read up on it fibromyalgia and connective tissue disorders as well as Lou Gehrig's disease runs in the family.
a top of that I do have bipolar disorder and I do learn to acknowledge when it's time to shut the phone down
look inward and otherwise shut off external stimuli
I'm at the point when I can take notes when I do need to kind of separate myself from people because I know I'm either going to drive him crazy or upset the mentally I'm just not a healthy person to be around at that moment when people are minutes they can make unruly demands of other people and in order for friends and family members to protect themselves they have to be aware of when the person is acting on really and for the wrong mental health they have to separate themselves from this person during this time because it's really not healthy for them to be around them either in there in a specially mania.
but the really bad thing is that sometimes when my fibromyalgia acts up I actually am completely immobilized it kind of sucks there was one time when I had an appointment here actually does quite a few times were had to forfeit the appointment because I had some type of stripping pain but actually prevented me from being able to move I am a tough woman don't get me wrong I have about over 24 hours of ink on my back right over my organs and my kidneys were the most painful and sensitive areas are
I do have a very high tolerance for pain but there are some times where the pain is so bad that as much as I try to stop this I am my brain is not sending the signals and that my fingers and hands or wherever the pain maybe I'm not able to move that area of the body that used to be very bad and the next to put me through physical therapy for about 4 months at several different places around my home in the period of the year as well as cortisone injections lots of them in a lot of a kind of weird stuff I also have cervical spine and scoliosis and hypermobile joints.
for me it kind of stinks because sometimes when I'm in the midst of a conversation between a million people vii a PM email and even worse before I was doing date check and P 411 separately it was quite confusing as well as trying to have your personal cell phone your personal email your work cell phone to work email I know its on his bicycle but I keep things simple to stay I have very few people over I work from my home last week I made barely anything that I think I got taken advantage of by 2 people pretty bad kinda mad at myself after.
1 guy stop by for a quick appointment and only gave me a hundred and I don't know why I said I would do it but I was very angry with myself after another guy come by and help me with a ride and then bought me 74 dollars worth of stuff at Sallys and then luckily Mr Fisher saw me on a Saturday and he is giving me 500 which really just kept me alive that week.
but anywho I am basically pretty much just scraping along and sometimes the fact that I have fibromyalgia and then I have mental disease that I am trying to manage living with bipolar disorder it has voice cause a lot of trouble for me.
but as of right now I keep thinking I should post on the Boston bored hey would anyone like to come get an appointment but also maybe help me hook my computer up I've been thinking about posting that open and justly but I keep telling myself not to do that and then I will figure out how to do it and ask someone in person when they come here but so far its been months and months and I have not had my PC hooked up...
oh well such is the way of the world.but for me I've been mid sentence and mid conversation with sometimes 15 to 45 people at a time on my email and then maybe on my personal email someone like 20 to 45 people at the same time the whole community of being online. I even had people I haven't seen since I was in 7th grade attempting to talk with me and have a back and forth and a dialogue I got to be so overwhelming sometimes mid conversation and mid plotting and planning my arm would give out on me or I would just finally get to the point where the pain has heightened to such a point that no matter how hard I tried I could not move my hands....I've had to forfeit appointments before and return the money due to stripping in mobilising pain.even one time I completely killed over and I couldn't move and I thought I was going to die and as embarrassing as this is we had to call 911 and I had to be taken out on a stretcher to the hospital my fibromyalgia talk was so bad that I actually could not move at all it was extremely scary it was awful.
what yet it was not the first time I've been through this I remembered another time not being able to move it all and crawling up the stairs on my b*** and holding on to the stairs with my feet while I was on the floor drag my body up the stairs I could not sometimes I'm just not able to type I've been telling people lately just call in and that I cannot keep up with returning everyone's calls that I'm not able to see there are some times 27 or more calls today and I really only looking to do one quick easy massage for quick hundred fifty to try and deal with responding to everyone just to be polite but I'm also trying to manage all these other conditions it becomes very overwhelming and the stress from having people think that on my and it's because I'm disrespectful or rude or stupid

Whats more is my tiny touch screen galaxy. It responds against what my intention. Quite often it says. Network unavailable. All sudden. after I had went to pick the phone up. somehow I had used touch screen and pressed something did not mean to press all the sudden I cannot send a text or send a phone call and I'm forced to dress and run out of the house mid sentence and go to a nearby grocery store to ask the guys that work there to help me fix my phone because an appointment is on the way, another thing that stinks is when I try to go track back.
in press mid sentence with my finger or stylus on a typo,,,
many a time after I fix the typo the stylus or phone,,
just will not respond and I am unable to pick up where I left off,
after repeated attempts then I am forced to just simply post message when I have left off in the middle of a sentence,,,,
kinda blows but hey I don't let it get to me but it's funny because a lot of other people not me and are not processing all of this and not dealing with it on there and they are the ones who seem to get really upset about it with me but if they only were in my shoes and trying to handle looking for a phone like this and trying to handle everything I have on my plate and trying to survive I do want my computer worked up but sometimes it is hard to always be asking all these clients for help and sometimes I end up angry at you or resentful or like that other guy recently that took some of the money back before he left and.
then he wrote in the review that he is giving me the 151 fact he hasn't had taken some of the money back that was not 150 there I've never had discrepancies over money as you can see with all my reviews I'm not lying about this it's unfortunate that someone can post that and act like it is true.
he definitely was here well over two hours and all we had agreed on was a hundred he insisted he wanted to help me as a friend I told him over and over and over again don't want your appointment I am tired I don't want to do an appointment there's no clean linens there's no clean towels I'm overwhelmed I'm tired and it was the day of the huge ginormous blizzard.
you wouldn't stop bothering me calling all week constant me 7 times in a row every day I finally gave in and said okay you want to help me for nothing as a friend let's go get a coffee and a sandwich I'll take my meds and then we'll go pick up the laundry at that point I had such a bad muscle strain I couldn't even list of 10 pound bag of laundry and I have been in the hospital I thought I had a serious back injury it was very scary.
most times people are sincere and you help me unfortunately one out of every million is very rude and I will have a terrible experience I don't let it get to me and I don't think that every human beings going to be like that there after I try to forget about it and not give it a second thought I let it roll off my back what did doc letting the water role of its back.
what was hurtful is them saying that I told them I was sore and I told them I did not want to continue doing this or that activity and they did terrible job I actually tried to trick the guy off until my hands what completely limp and I tapped out from agonizing sharp pain in my back,
then again I tried to do the BJ for Justin just 50 we had agreed on and I did it for hours and hours and he never could come it looked like he was probably on opiates he just couldn't get off finally took care of himself and when I saw what he had to do to get himself off I couldn't believe he actually thought I would have been able to do that little old me what he did to finally get himself to go I've never seen anybody be so rough and fast and hard on himself clearly woman would never have the capacity to do whatever it is you have to do to get off
also he looked like he had a blanket over seas and really terrible breath and kept trying to kiss me over and over and it was only massage for hundred those trying to be fair and give him a discount because he was helpful and help with the errands but regardless I swore up and down and didn't want to do an appointment and he swore up and down he was a friend and you wanted to help me with an errand as being a Good Samaritan.
well I guess that's just the way the system works on here and I'm supposed to smile and sit back and say I am happy with everything and nothing is wrong about a lot of people cancel recently after they looked at my review as of late...
anyhow I've lowered my rates and I'm trying to get by as much as these reviews they say not to care that most recent review which was untrue he did take some of the money back before he left and as you can see I've never had any discrepancies over money and I try not to make a big deal out of it what you say that I went psycho and to say that I told him I was sore and I didn't deliver services as promised I actually got very sore and tired and he was actually here well over two hours and was only giving me $100 it just kinda stinks that people can say whatever they want especially after you pretty much got abused taken advantage of.
Oh well right?
at least that's what the guys on here I'll tell me don't act like you care don't even bring it up just let it go it will only make you look stupid don't mention it but hey you know what I am mentioning it because it did kind of stink and'
well since we're on the topic of people not being able to keep up with emails all these guys think I have all the time and energy in the world and they just don't get it sometimes I'm tired I cannot possibly ever meet up with every single person but players look at all my white list it's close to 200 you don't think that pretty much every single one of those person has called me a second time???
you have to figure that's close to 200 people little love the hell out of me that are calling me two to three times a week and then all these other new people and its like they have such a big eagle they don't even consider for one minute what I'm going through so many people contacting me there's no way I could possibly meet everyone's needs and make everyone happy at some point I have to shut the phone off and realize that I'm dealing with also trying to take care of my dog take care of myself the guys are very selfish sometimes you don't ever take into consideration'
it's actually kind of amusing to learn to ignore it!

share that I even would not see  man who would tell me or write " gal" "piss off"
 and other urban  dictionary  terms  
 even  do type with mistakes but my lovers enjoy my writing  and sharing way before the meeting  
 we talk about all and about  pornographic but so clean art of Egon Schiele  and about sexuality in  different cultures exploring our own needs ..
 I do not understand fully why I am soo beaten up here for my English .. while my lovers praising me as a woman who is able  keep him aroused just with letters .. and I have been told in vulgar  way but it was said as a compliment  
 that I have to be a billionaire how well I also able fuck brain then body just can t get enough ..  bt i guess .. for such statement man has to have brain
I want to apologies for my some time sumbur postings  and writings .. of course you do know  maning of sumbur ..
 so ...do not be close minded be open to others cultures, be snobby not for grammar and misspelling but to mindless  and plebeu like  sate of soul ...
Be nobel -not a low class which  in need of self establishment  pointing on mistakes of others ..
actually..  if you are educated and well travelled person you understood me VERY well  despite on not perfect grammar..  
 Just may be gambler, inick , some what CPA and of course bib  may be will post here under my post something tat they can t get what I just  said ..
not for  just high school graduate ..it takes higher education to comprehend  some complicated thinking not on perfect English But .. BUT !!!! I am given soo much credits and already achieved a lot in my new homeland .. thank you those who supporting me and here  
Kisses  and love

But don't miss out on a great hooker who can suck and fuck like a champ, just because she writes like a retard. Some of these gals are not ghetto, but like to act like one. I guess its a trend these days. As long as the communication is clear with resect to "what", "when", "where", "how much", I am good

You can even make fun of her ghetto, hood like English when you see her in a half joking, half serious manner. Perhaps she will get the hint...

It would piss me off, if I were dealing with her at work, or even talking to her on boards.. But just for a fuck and a suck..Not all that. There are other things more important..  


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I'm a bit of a syntax Nazi as well. Good grammar, accurate capitalization/punctuation, and the ability to form a cohesive sentence are major turn-ons.

someone as young as you put so much importance in good grammar, spelling, punctuation. Most young people, in their twenties, who got access to texting at a much younger age than I did have got in the habit of writing "text speak".  I don't even text "text speak". And it just pisses me off to no degree.  

I got my first cell phone at the age of 18. I was already an adult. I shudder to think what I would have been like if I were born only a few years later..

If someone wants to watch a very good, poignant movie on this topic I would highly recommend watching  Finding Forrester w/ Sean Connery.  Much better than any of his stupid Bond flicks. Yes, I said stupid...

I rite in koheeesiv sentencezzzzxxxx  
I luv 2 rite legibleee

I are a collig  stoodunt b4

I also if I'm feeling sarcastic respond with one word or sentence to the ones with only a few words like "Can u meet?" I say "No".  

Sometimes I get "bitch" back.

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And you are not a jerk, I truly feel that grammar, spelling and sentence construction  and level of education have a direct correlation. English is my second language so I put high emphasis on making sure that I have a high command on the language whether is via email or in person.  
It is the little things that count...

Lol
I agree It helps to be thoughtful in replies imo.  

And I have never sent a "bitch"  to anyone in a reply. That's kinda rude

For the love of God, just try re-reading and correcting what you write before you post it.  Even with your poor language skills, I'm sure that will fix many of the errors that make parts of the post above completely unreadable.
Presumably, you put up these posts so people will understand what you're thinking.  If they are incomprehensible, no one will understand what you mean.

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who value decent grammar and communications skills.
That said, if the girl's photos are hot enough, Conan will bone her anyway.
Conan has become more tolerant since spending nearly six weeks in Costa Rica, where the girls barely speak English at all.  Good thing most of them speak wicked French.

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Personally, I'm turned on by intelligence, class, style, wit, a vicious sense of humor and literacy.  
As well as red hair.  
And nice boobies.    

Rarely am I looking for the 90-120min once and done.  I'm looking to hook up with someone that I can spend time with, build connections, and feel comfortable taking out in public to a nice restaurant or resort as our time together increases.  

Give me the opportunity to have an intelligent conversation that may bounce around many circular paths and not feel as if this person has the vocabulary of a parrot that is incapable beyond extending past "Like" and "You Know" 50% of the time.  

And youze gots to be down with my snarky 13 yr old sense of humor.  You know?

Shit, I got my first cell phone at 12 and I still refuse to even say "lol."

There is nothing wrong with expecting a professional companion to put forth a little effort when making introductions.

After all, it is said, you don't get a second chance to make a first impression!

I appreciate it VERY VERY much when a man makes this effort, and reciprocate in turn.
He will also get bumped to the front end of the line!

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...why do some women take umbrage at a man's response to the question: Is lack of communication skills a turnoff?

Are we (men) not allowed or expected to be turned off by anything?

Yes, there are reasons why people do not communicate skillfully. Illness, speaking in a second language, lack of education, not really caring that much about verbal communication, and probably other reasons none of us have thought of.

If a man said, "You know, blondes don't really turn me on. I much prefer sleek dark hair," probably women would shrug it off with a to-each-his-own attitude. Or maybe not. Maybe hoards of blondes would descend and decry the unfairness of such an attitude, or proclaim the rich history of blonde hair and explain in detail why all men should find it beautiful.

How does this kind of thinking work? What if I said (tossing PC aside) that I'm not sexually attracted to women with excess fat on them? I respect them as people. I don't discriminate against them in the workplace or when encountering them socially, but, regardless of great personality of other virtues, I just have no desire to sleep with them. Would this unfairly throw all the tubbies in earshot into a deep and angry depression?

Should we overlook every and any preference in what we find attractive and book encounters with no selection process at all? After all, that choice factor doesn't seem to apply to the sex workers who claim they have no control over who they wind up going to bed with.

Or, maybe because we are all flawed in one way or another, we should be expected to not only accept the flaws of others, but also to find their flaws sexy, alluring, so desirable that we will elect to book with the women we find unattractive instead of the ones we find attractive.

And, given this brave new perspective on the world, can I expect that from now on my own flaws, my own handicaps, my own disfigurement, will no longer be looked upon with horror or ridicule, but instead will demand that women open their arms and legs to me on command?

No, I am not attracted to women who are fat.
I am not attracted to women who cannot communicate verbally with me.
I am not attracted to women who do not practice good hygiene.
I am not attracted to women who are ignorant and wish to remain so.
There are all kinds of things that I, personally, do not find attractive in women.
To each his own, and the world is so full of undiscerning men who want nothing more than a suck and a fuck and a kiss for luck, that there is no danger that the illiterate tubby and her country cousin will ever lose their fair share of the market.

This needed to be said, and no one who might take offense will be able to read the entirety of my post.

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So is prompt response.  Waiting 24-72 hours for an email response when a provider is around and posting here is annoying and to my feeble mind, rude.  A direct, private communication deserves a reasonably prompt response.  If you are going to use email, please check your email regularly and respond, even if it's no, sorry, busy this year.

Much rather prefer to receive emails that use correct grammar use a little effort in the initial email.
It is a little bit of a turn off to me to receive an email with text speak or a whole bunch of abbreviations.
I am not saying a person is required to send an essay with their introductory email to me but using proper spelling is a plus to me.Using paragraphs is also appreciated.

A misspelled word here and there no biggie but sentences like this "hey,whaz up r u working or b in town nxt wk?"Yikes....and sometimes it is not from the 20s or 30s crowd every so often I get this kind of email from a guy in his 40s or 50s maybe too much texting.lol

 

 


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