with your ATF? ( I use this term loosely. we all get the idea of what it is supposed to mean)

As a matter of fact. But then you go into discovery mode, and you get to see a dozen new girls looking for the next one.

99% of the time I see a lady, I know almost the minute I walk in the room, I'll never come back again. However, with atfs, it's completely the opposite. With all my atfs, I've never known any given session would be the last. I suppose if an atf started taking you for granted, and treating you differently than all the previous wonderful times, you'd know it was over. That's never happened to me. Every atf session that turned out to be the last was off the charts, without a hint of it being the last. With me, it was other things that ended our atf relationships. The vast majority of the time the ladies retired. A few moved too far away. Sometimes it was me having to change my hobby patterns that kept us apart. I still see one of my old atfs, but in a different, legal, capacity. The one thing I appreciate, is that with my all time favorite atfs, even though the final session had past unknowingly, we were able to trade sweet goodbyes via email.

a normal, honest answer. lol

Unless the gal becomes dearly departed.  (That has happened now a couple of times, in fact.)

...and it's time for me to leave. I honestly can't answer your question. I struggle with this concept, as it implies to me some level of commitment and I don't like commitments, so I treat every time like it's the last time. That is, until the next time chance happens to have us cross paths again. Now, don't get me wrong, there are a few ladies who I like to think of as friends, and we keep in touch occasionally to catch up, but there is no expectation on either of our parts of any type of ongoing relationship

I suppose that is how both sides communicate. I request appointments and she accepts or vice versa. If you think about it no other actions are necessary.  

When you figure out how to understand women, dude, come back and tell us all

With the well publicized closing of a popular NYC agency a few years back.

actually had a girl blow her nose on the top sheet of my bed once.  I asked why the hell she did that, and she said she didn't want to "spoil the mood" by getting up and going to the bathroom.  Go figure.

I have had a lot of "favorites" women I just can't get enough of for a few weeks or months, about half the time I simply tire of them and I simply call them less and less until I quit calling altogether with the other half there is a defining moment when I know I am done with them.

I put up with a lot of drama from #1 Fav over the 6 years I saw her.  After the first year it was a 3-4 fav gal rotation.  But her drama was always aimed at others in her life.  I almost walked a couple of times when the drama interrupted our time (but not paid yet) & she was clearly not alright with that.  I wonder if it would have been different if I HAD already paid?  

well I may not call these ATFs, but they're all escorts I had seen several times, sometimes over months or years.

I just can't even...

My ATFs have either retired and some went UTR and stopped providing, so I've never gotten to the point where I felt our time was over.

"but then, sometimes after a span of several years, contact me and it's fat city again with them."

from EITHER side.

I'm convinced women don't want men to communicate their feelings to them rather, women want to keep guessing what those feelings are.

I was married to a woman who proudly called herself a bitch, and so I'm accustomed to taking stuff most guys would not.

yes, some people can't see  genuine relationships- and I don't mean romantic- happening. Mostly, because it so rare and because the pages of ER are filled with delusional hobbyists.  

I've never had to go through that kind of drama form a provider  It's something I definitely would not put up with it.

as in. All of the sudden no contact from you or her?

I tried that recently. I hadn't seen her in 6 months and wasn't sure If was still attracted to her so i asked for short appointment to "catch up" at her normal rate of course. she declined.

after 1 year, 2 years?

terested for sure. no brainer there.

Nope, no timeframe.  I was just speculating, since all of my ATF have retired before something like that ever happened.  I've seen one ATF for close to 10 yrs before she retired and would have continued to see her if she was still providing.

wow! 10 years. good for you!

Obviously, you didn't care to see her that much if you blame it on laziness. Suddenly, you are resolved IF she comes back. You couldn't get off your lazy ass to go she her in NYC but somehow you have met another "wonderful woman" there?

#1, no contact at all. She never had a review since.
#2, she let me know she was coming to town, but I made an excuse that I was busy. She delisted a few months later.
#3, After a few months, I actually texted for an appointment, then had immediate remorse and followed up with a "sorry something came up" text a short time later. She's still listed, but some of her websites went down. No ads, no reviews.

She wasnt very good at hiding her personal info...

Some of my favorite providers are married. My ATF isn't married, but her relationship with her SO is as close as you can get to being married except for the license.  

Experiencing this right now. Long back story which I will not get into, but this does suck. I do think very highly of her and she is an amazing woman and we click. Saw her over 20 times, but when I am with her it's not always about sex, I just enjoy her company and we are not going to cross the line to be friends.  I want to stay in touch, and I Want to enjoy her and her body. Entering a new area and not sure I like it.