Question guys when you book a provider to come to you on an outcall when do you provide your room# to her?
Do you wait until the day of the date or when you get checked-in to your hotel?
I am outcall only provider and I usually have guys provide their room number when they first get to town or even prior to the day of appt.Recently,had a guy refuse to give me his room# even though our appt was the day I was requesting the room#.
He said he is not comfortable giving me his room info until I am actually in his hotel.
Seems pretty strange to me...gents and ladies I welcome your opinions.
Thank you.

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I have seen many providers who use the two call system and I don't know the room number until I arrive at the hotel.  Its for their safety and I don't mind playing the game.  I feel if a man wants to play the same game, its his prerogative.  Just accept it and move on.

For example @jaydalee;  
I was at a high-end Hotel recently where the air-conditioner
was in disrepair.
Thus, I requested a fix or a room change/upgrade.

After all, you wouldn't want to be crossing his previous date in the hallway on your way to his room, would you?  

And verify the name and room number. .to feel safer and prepared.. And if he's serious and books a date. .Then he understands and follows through ,and all set!!  KISS..* Keep It Simple Sexy * & Let the Fun Begin!!

Day of or When I check in, I would text it to you. Whenever you needed it. No big deal to me.  

Thank you A Gentleman Xoxo * Only those Qualified Need Apply*

I usually get it the day we meet. A few hrs before so I know where the room maybe located and if there are escalators and what not. That is very strange that the guy would not give the room # but maybe he has his own reasons that we do not even know about. Who knows!

In my experience, providers give me their hotel address and tell me where to park about an hour before the date and provide the room number once I've arrived and texted that I'm there.

as soon as i know the room number..you know..only common courtesy..

since many guys are playing with our time and safety, you need to provide your room number and in some hotels never comunicate to the room if you don't provide the guest name. Once you call and you can confirm that is a real person with real interest to receive the service, shower, make up, naughty stuff in my bag and get a cab. And I send a message when I'm on my way so he can calculate the time to can be ready.
Also in some hotels you can't take the elevator without the room's key and I really heat those hotels grrr

You're in charge, it should stay that way. If he's unwilling to give you the room in advance thats a red flag. also expect a possible cancellation. if he's that paranoid, he should keep his paranoid ass at home.

You may THINK "you are in charge" but try that shit with me or any other john with balls and see where it gets you.

I'm already paying two or three hundred for the date. Why would I add the cost of a room? If I host outcall, it's at my place. And the address will be provided once she confirms she's on her way.

...not giving me the room number until I have arrived at the hotel when I'm doing an in call so I would and have done the same. I give her the room number when she gets to my hotel. Now if the lady were someone I'd seen before and built some comfort/trust with then I would likely give it to her earlier.

I've already established a level of trust. That's my job. If I don't trust you, I don't see you. Simple

about an hour  before the session.   That way they can't miss it.

So, let me get this straight.

And here I thought hotels are NOT supposed to give out names  

room number once I have checked in. A provider I have not previously seen, then she gets the room # when she calls from the parking lot.  

I was a bit nervous due to him changing days and times of our appt multiple times.
As well as reaching out to a fellow provider friend for the same date and time.(probably should have added all of this in my original OP)
After all of that then the "I don't want to give you the number until you are in the hotel"...on top of all what I mentioned above...just seemed strange to me.The guys I see don't do this that is why I asked here for opinions.
I have offered incall on very rare occasions and I agree I do not give my room number out days prior.I guess some guys view an outcall the same as a provider having an incall.

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Because I usually meet my date at the hotel bar. I remember meeting you at the roulette table...So yes I remember.
And in my case,it would serve her no purpose. I always register as a "Un-registered" guest. In simple words, the hotel knows nothing about me. If someone calls asking for me, I don't exist. no information is given. If she calls asking to be connected to my room, I'm never there. For me, I just don't want to be found. If someone really wants to get a hold of me, they know how to reach me. And I have NEVER had a problem with this....Well except one person insisted that I give her my room number, she wanted to call the front desk to verify if I was actually there but I was already checked in and it was about a hour from our date. I tried to explain it to her and the next thing I hear is a "Click"....I didn't blame her.

I know your deal
But this guy was  a different story.

Much like your client, I would also rather wait until you're inside the actual building before I text you my room#. Matter of fact, I'mma do like what you providers do and text you a general vicinity like an intersection, or the gas station across the street, and then give you my exact address once you notify me that you've arrived. This is more so true when hosting out of my primary residence, than it is when hosting out of a hotel. Remember, we've never met, so I still don't know if you're LE, or a criminal, or if you got Pookie and Ray Ray hiding around the corner getting ready to ambush me. Needless to say, this rule doesn't apply if we've already met, and our encounter turned out copacetic. My safety is just as important as yours!

Because of extenuating circumstances I threw my hobby phone away several years ago. Now, everything is set up via email or message. Which means the ladies have to give me their hotel, and room number prior to my leaving my house. Since most ladies insist on the two call system, most ladies won't see me. That's something I understand perfectly. Occasionally, a lady agrees to my necessary parameters, and we have a wonderful time. The ladies who choose to see me are my references, and will corroborate my unswerving dependability, and safety, yet the majority still say no.  

But the 2 times I have, I gave my room number when I checked in.

I gave out my room number when I checked into a nice hotel this summer, a couple hours before an appt. At check out the next day, I discovered she bought dinner at the hotel restaurant before our date and put it on my room. She never mentioned it until I queried her about it after seeing the charge on my bill.

Let me first say the following: clients safety is important. I'm not saying anything to the contrary.  

Not unheard of. The dinner receipt charged to the room ordinarly includes the guest's name; blackmail risk. I disclose my room number when I voice verify with her confirming arrival.

Your safety has to be rule number one, and whatever policies you deem proper are what you need to do.

While it's true some girls have incalls there, most of the business is outcall because the buyers are staying in hotels.  That's also true in places like Costa Rica.

With the additional information you have just provided, i get your point and agree.

room number even the playing field a bit?

Where do you get your statistics about crimes committed against girls and johns? (Just asking)

When I have people come to see me I do not give them my room number until they are actually in the parking lot for my own safety precautions but when I go on an outcall I asked for the room number but not until I'm actually on my way I don't even want to know unless I'm actually coming and if they won't give me the room number before I drive there I won't come but I don't expect anyone to give me the room number prior to me actually being in route they don't know me either it could be a setup it's safety for both sides it's not good to give someone your room number with all the people you come in contact in a day there would be a lot of people that know your exact location I wouldn't consider that safe at all

If a guy comes on here claiming that he cares more about his safety and privacy than the safety of the women he sees, he damn sure is going to attract some "hate" You obviously put your needs above those of your clients, so it's hardly a "shame" that you too are going to get some grief over it.

I really don't know what the commotion is about.  There are lots of clients and lots of providers.  Each party decides what is acceptable or not for themselves.  If two parties mesh, it's a date.  If not they decline to meet.  What could be simpler?

I personally feel if I've screened and we have an appt . The room number is not needed.  I usually go up with my client as though we are together on the trip  (as a couple) up to the room together.

Abbi, there is ZERO equivalency between asking for someone's ID or real name and a client seeing your photos and reviews.  And unless your real name is AbbiMinx and your pix are unblurred when a client sees them he has no idea who you really are.  And how does his reading your reviews or knowing what your nipples look like have to do with anything at all?  Maybe it would if you asked him for a shot of his nipples for screening purposes.
Look, you can ask for not only my name but the names of my kids.  That's you're right.  Just as it's my right to giggle and move on.

Whenever I'm setting up an outcall once the details are decided and the deposit is cleared, it goes one of two ways; This is in perspective that it's a first time meeting someone.  

Your post makes at least my top ten list of funniest things I have heard here. lmao

Do you honestly think he can relate to seeing hookers in Vegas?

she can do that after the date to, so your story doesn't really say anything. in my book that counts as a rob.

"other johns with balls" why is it that a man is nutless when he respects a woman. we already know you have masculinity issues, i don't really care to soother your insecurities.  

Maybe he booked another girl before you.lol whatever, just play the game.

Actually, I know of a good motel in Vegas that runs only $25 per night. If I were there, I would make an exception to my rule and order a hooker for outfall to  my room. If I won big bucks, I might even treat her to dinner at the Bellagio.

My photos are unblurred and I said I *dont* ask for ID or real name

It shows me a willingness to make me comfortable. You're right that it may not keep me any safer, but it puts my mind more at ease and it's appreciated

1) in response to the real name argument - I don't ask for real names, I ask for references. I think it is up to a ladies comfort to ask or not, but I personally don't and just use references  

Hi! There are a lot of stats out there about violence against providers but not really (any) I could find about violence against clients. When I made my assertion it was based off of mainly the amount of providers who are murdered (so prevalent that "dead hooker" is a common phrase/joke/media reporting) versus clients we hear about being killed (which does happen - the instance that comes to mind is the exec who ODed and the provider left). In my mind my argument about providers facing more risk is a bit like the argument of whether water is wet, but I do recognize the lack of stats on client rape/violence/murder.

Not trying to be argumentative, but where did I make that argument? I didn't say that I asked for ID or real names.

"asking for more, like an ID or real name is consistently put down and ridiculed on this board)."  So, while you did not say you did that yourself, in the context of your post you were clearly at some level of agreement with those who did.  Otherwise, why say it that way?
If I've mis-understood you, please let me know.

Hello,  

Now we can check in online and choose our room, so now we can let you know ahead of arrival what our room number is, but that is 24 hours from arrival. To be clear, we've been able to check in online for quite some time, but we did not have the capability of finding out which room we'd be in.

Not to worry, the hotel can not give out names or room number. She can call the front desk and ask for me by name, and they can transfer the call to my room. But they will not, or they better damn not, give anyone my room number or confirm I'm staying in any specific room.

I don't want to give anybody any ideas, but ...
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hi there girls

This is one reason I do not like doing outcall to Gents like this............Some people want to play games. If it is late at night they may have had second thoughts. One time  when I arrived at the Ritz Carto in Charlotte, I have found that the Gent who booked ahead with me did give me the right room number when he confirmed our date.

Personally, I'm not driving 30 minutes down to the Strip unless I have a room number. Only exception is if it's a hotel I don't have a pass for. I'll meet in the lobby then.

For outcalls I always tell the gent to send me address, rm #, and is there valet or not. That's why I created my secured booking form. I like to be prepared! Because he sounds like a time-waster. Let's say you did show up. You notify him that you have arrived and then...no response from him...complete waist of time.

Hey Jaydalee,

I will give the room number hours in advance if the provider is reputable. Other I give it when she arrive.Some ladies do the same.It's mostly for safety/peace of mind.

I would think that "peace of mind" would come from booking with reputable providers. Just how un reputable would she had to be for you to not want her having your room number in advance?