I've had a few clients recently that were visibly unnerved when I needed to apply lubricant prior to coitus. A couple of them attempted to give me oral sex as an alternative, and although it felt very nice, it was not enough to get me so aroused that I didn't need lubricant.
Condoms encourage friction, and that friction can cause tearing, both of the condom and of my delicate vaginal skin. So unless I am very aroused, and very slippery wet, lubricant is an absolute must for me.  
I'm not sure if other providers use lubricant but I am curious to know how the guys feel when we use it?

Just curious....do you need the lube when you go BBFS with someone too?

I will get over the fact that you aren't dripping wet just by the very prospect of fucking me, and nice and juicy is preferable to dry any day, so you are doing both parties a favor by using the lube.

Now I appreciate it big time. Lots of drinks, long sex not enough lube and wham a burn!
 

If a john got pissy because i needed lube, well he gets a bj or a hand job.  

Which doesn't feel the greatest even for the man, and I can only imagine how uncomfortable it is for the woman.

Aside from watching Maury....what else could possibly arouse you?

Well, lube certainly beats spit! I've seen THAT a few times, and though it may look cool in porn, it doesn't do the job lube is intended to do, in vivo.

The same men who feel emasculated if a woman uses lube are also the same men who get upset if a woman rubs her clit while having sex. In fact, some men are also bothered if a woman uses toys. I say..Get Over Yourself! Your manliness is not defined by how many orgasms you GIVE her, solely using your appendages.  In fact, you aren't giving her anything, she's the one who is in control.

Hey, I'm just clowning with you but God knows. You mean you have never met a man in the hobby who gets your juices flowing without help? Is it your age, a medical thing, or seriously, all the johns/tricks that choose to see you are that disgusting to you. Really? Just damn.  

cause dryness.  If you need it, use it.  I suggest being careful as high tech lubes can reduce friction so much that nothing will get him off.  Certainly, the woman will know her own body better than I & I'll respect her preferances.

Those that seek me out I am not attracted to. Disgusting no, unattractive to me yes. I have a very specific type that I am attracted to, and the johns I get do not fit.  

None have ever gotten "pissy" exactly, but I have been asked if I "reaaallly" needeed it. Generally, I'll say something like... it helps make it easier for me to take all of it.

Lube it up, baby!

Wow! I'm surprised some  guys get turned off when a provider reaches for the lube!  If it's available I encourage it.  The more smooth and slippery, all the better.

I really do not want to hurt their feelings/egos so I do have answers that can be plausible...the condom breaking being a really good one.  

It would be so nice to get someone I was attracted to as a part of work.

Not too much, to avoid grease fires.

It doesn't bother me (unless massively overdone).  I don't take it as a sign that I've failed to arouse her.  It's a sign that I'm too big for comfort without it.

Just means you understand how the mechanics of sex works.  This is a good thing in your profession.  Bring it on...

I introduced it to her and she goes extra wild with it.
I keep bringing her a fresh supply.
Without the lube she is great. With the lube, really great.

I visited a lady recently and I asked her if she was going to use lube and she said I don't need lube.Lol  I was wondering if the providers find it easier to get wet and stay wet if they are into the guy?

Silicone, water-based jell, and bubble gum flavor (my personal fav) When the lube gets reached for ... I know I'm about to get it good. I use the flavored lube for DATY and my regular give suburb BBBJs because she loves bubblegum ... so it's all good.

If given the choice, I would prefer natural lubrication, as it's an indication to me that she's ready and excited, or at least that's the fantasy I choose to believe haha
That being said, I do understand the necessity to use it for some providers.

If it's absolutely needed, then ok, but generally it's a buzzkill for several reasons:

A provider should be able to figure out how to be aroused with at least 90% of her clients.  It takes time and getting used to but with practice, there should be a "Pavlov's Dog" sort of reaction once she's active with a client.  MAJOR CAVEAT:  If a guy (or the location) scares her, or she's unhappy, or he has some trait that revolts her, THERE AINT NO WAY IN HELL she's getting aroused.  Otherwise, there should be some action that gets her going.  Maybe it's seeing/feeling his hardness, or BBBJ, kissing, massage, etc.  Arousal is more about HER than anything the guy can do for her.


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I like when the lady puts on flavored lube, it makes it so nice to eat out of. I treat hobbying like golfing: leave the ego at the parking lot!!!

…with practice, there should be a "Pavlov's Dog" sort of reaction once she's active with a client…..?  

Shit, I bring my own sometimes.....always be prepared. I'm good, but I ain't that good.

There should be no ego in the bedroom, on either end, and none from the male end in particular. Women are tricky, orgasms can be challenging for us to attain at times, so whatever she needs to do to "get there" should be accepted and even encouraged.

Warming her up enough to facilitate vaginal penetration WITHOUT irritation/pain? Because that is on YOU.

Though is can be tough for us to know for sure.

And if the guys actually bought that load, you might have a ton more likes but I guess not. Some men are smart enough to realize it takes more than a boner to get a lady in the mood. But nice try. You should have put a link to your ads and made some money off your Pavlovian response, Hey if it works for you, then awesome.

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If you receive a reward repeatedly, your body becomes conditioned to respond in a way that "facilitates" the reward!

A lot of men NEED to be "in control" in some way, in order to feel strong and aroused and sexually powerful. I think a good courtesan understands that, and can accommodate that need.  But any man that has an ego and thinks he's gods gift to a woman needs to learn a life lesson that he's not.  Once he realizes that, then the woman he's with can feel comfortable, as you say, and then can be allowed to be "in control" and everyone benefits.

Lube makes the world work...

I very rarely need to use lube as I'm naturally very lubricated, however, I do notice that if I've been drinking wine, I tend to not be as lubricated and on those ocassions may use artificial lube especially if the gentleman is rather endowed. I apply it the same time as I do the condom so most don't even notice I'm applying lube. I've never noticed any negativity towards artificial lube.

Lubes do not work well for me nor do they with many of the condom brands I use. I know many providers who will not ever go through a date without lube, and immediately reach for it before the guy can even attempt to turn them on.  

I would not worry about it to much -  people need to remember lube is not sold in store for escorts, it's sold for the everyday couple. If everyday couples didn't require lube at some point it wouldn't be available on the self.