Striking the Right Balance between Appearance and Performance and Keeping the Distinction Clear

A provider's average appearance and performance scores are one of the first items on her profile that I see when I consider the possibility of booking a session with her for the first time. I believe that there may be trends and patterns in these scores that can inform and guide the selection process. I would appreciate your feedback on my anecdotal observations below and what if any strategies have worked best for you when using these average scores as a guideline for choosing providers.  

It seems that the majority of providers (or at least the ones whose reviews I have been reading) have noticeably higher average scores in one area or the other. That gap between their two average scores is often small (typically less than 1 point, perhaps .5 or .75), but some have a more substantial gap of 1 point or more. A minority have appearance and performance scores that are so close to each other that the gap between them is negligible (perhaps .25 or so).  

On one hand are those providers whose strength clearly lies in their performance. They might average say, 7 or 8 in appearance but 8 or 9 in performance.  My experience with providers who fit this profile has been broadly consistent with that of other reviewers, although in a minority of these cases some of their reviewers were more generous in their appearance ratings than I would have been. Aside from the pervasive factor of personal taste, those minority of cases lead me to wonder if some of the reviewers' gave these providers a higher appearance rating because: those providers' strong performances made the providers seem more beautiful in those reviewers' minds; or they do not want to harm or offend a provider that they liked and might want to see again by giving her a lower appearance rating.    

On the other hand are those providers whose strength clearly lies in their appearance. They might average say, 8 or 9 in appearance but only 7 or 8 in performance.  My experience with providers who fit this profile has been that – IMHO - their performance has often been weaker than their good performance ratings would suggest. I have begun to wonder if some of the reviewers gave some of those providers good performance scores because; they just enjoyed the experience of doing a hot woman, rather than any actual skills that the provider demonstrated; the providers' beauty has a kryptonite-like or deer-in-the-headlights effect on the reviewers' minds; or they do not want to harm or offend a provider that they liked and might want to see again by giving her a lower performance rating.  

If my above theories have any merit, then they might explain why there are usually not larger gaps between providers' average appearance and performance ratings or between the appearance and performance ratings that individual reviewers give them. For example, I have not seen many providers' profiles with glaring gaps of 2 points or more between their average appearance and performance ratings. At the individual level, I have noticed that most individual reviewers' performance and appearance ratings of a provider are usually no more than 2 or 3 points apart. Those less frequent reviews with larger gaps between the two scores are noteworthy and often make for interesting reading.  

Out of those less frequent reviews with big gaps between appearance and performance ratings, I have seen many more negative reviews with high appearance ratings and low performance ratings – say, 8 to 10 for appearance and 2 to 5 for performance – than I have with low appearance ratings and high performance ratings - say, 2-5 for appearance and 8-10 for performance. I believe that this discrepancy exists because it is easier for an attractive provider to get away with weak service than it is for a plain provider to demonstrate strong skills, given the highly visual nature of what attracts most men.  

If it was not obvious from the above, I weigh performance scores more heavily than appearance scores. The majority of my better experiences have been with providers with somewhat or significantly better performance ratings than appearance ratings. A minority of my better experiences have been with providers whose average appearance and performance ratings were so close that the gap between them was negligible. Most of my disappointing, mediocre, or lukewarm experiences have been with providers whose average appearance rating was noticeably higher than their average performance rating – even when those performance ratings were still quite good. It has reached the point that when I open the profile of a provider of potential interest and I see that her performance ratings are good but noticeably lower than her appearance ratings, I often lose interest and move on to the next candidate.  

Has anyone else had similar experiences and reached similar conclusions, or is it just me and my taste?

that I don't know if it's possible to arrive at any conclusions. You can draw inferences.

I do think that some good-looking providers with okay skills get higher performance scores because the 9 or 10 appearance score makes the guy reluctant to score an 8 on performance. It may seem paradoxical, so she gets a 9.

Same thing with high performance and low appearance.  

There are providers I've looked at who get raves about BJ's, etc on the regional forums and in their reviews. They get decent appearance scores, but looking at their faces on their websites (why is it that the faces you can see are so often the faces you don't care to see?), their appearance is much lower than what they've been scored

I do look at numbers but mainly to avoid providers with consistently low scores. The text of reviews gives me a good idea as to whether I'll enjoy a date with a provider. There's only been one case where I had an experience significantly worse than what was portrayed in reviews.  

Numbers are so subjective. For example, my ATF's appearance scores range from 6-10, with the median around 8 (which I think is fair), and a similar range and median for performance scores. But if you read her reviews, they're all very positive, and very consistent with a few outliers (e.g. some reviewers didn't like her menu limitations despite her profile and over 100 reviews being very clear about them).  

So while it may be fun for some folks to do extensive statistical analysis on provider scores, I'd rather focus on reading the reviews and spending time with the providers.  And I'm a math major.

But I did not read all of that.... LOL

You raise several interesting points.  I agree with much of what you hypothesize about the rating psychology. If choosing between two providers, i am more likely to see a lady with a 7/9 appearance/performance rating than one with a 9/8 rating.  Although both are wonderful based on the ratings, if i had to CHOOSE i would value the performance rating higher.  Ideally, i would see both ladies

1) Some reviewers give higher look scores because they were impressed with the performance.  
2) Some reviewers give higher performance scores because they were impressed with the looks.  
Yes both those scenarios are quite common.

For me performance out weighs looks. Performance for me is not just the sex and there has to be a connection. I love and am curious about the providers life (if they want to share) and I share my life issues and fun times in our lives. The looks are a bonus for me if we have the connection. I would not repeat no matter how great the looks if we don't have the openness during our non-physical encounter of the rendezvous.

that was getting laborious, and I know that you know that I have the propensity to run on

A 7 can look like an 8 or 9 to me when she has my cock in her mouth

If I did write reviews I think the performance scores would definitely lean on the lower end. Most of the ladies I've do a good job, but rarely am I convinced that we are long lost lover, or as passionate as.

 I am really hard to please, I keep an open mind' and don't expect too much going in. Which is a good thing, because I'd really be let down if not.

I don't know if I've been spoiled at some point, or perhaps have unrealistic expectations of what a session should be like. That's not to say I can't make the best of things, and actual enjoy the ladies company because I do. I would just score accordingly if I wrote reviews, and being that negative would be a drag.

So you are saying reviews should revolve around what a lady offers, and not what she doesn't?

... and not based off what a customer likes?

Or the customer should only write a review if he likes what is offered?

 
That doesn't seem at all practical to me.

Even if her face is uglier than a dogs ass.

with the exception of "YMMV" services; sometimes providers ask that they not be mentioned in reviews lest everyone expects them to be available.  

If that doesn't seem practical to you, maybe try going to bed earlier.  

What you described is what I was hoping to clarify. When you write a review for a provider who is 7 in appearance but gives you a decent enough blowjob that she seems like an 8 or a 9 to you, do you actually give her a 7, or an 8 or 9?

I can definitely relate to how experiences like that can make a woman seem more beautiful, but some guys might be disappointed with what they see if a reviewer rates her higher in appearance than she might otherwise warrant

However, before I read a provider's reviews (which can be a time-consuming process if she has many of them), I take a quick look at her profile in order to decide if it is worth investing the often considerable amount of time that reading her reviews may require. Her average performance and appearance ratings are one of the many profile entries that help me make that decision, along with other factors, such as her physical description, rates, menu items, etc.  

My goal in the original post was to see if one can identify certain types quickly by their scores, especially the "gets by on her looks" type, which I am beginning to think that I should avoid altogether. I do not want to waste my time reading her reviews in order to figure out that she is not worth my time or money.  

In other words, I was hoping to see if one can gain any qualitative or narrative insights from a quick look at the quantitative figures, e.g. "this one is an 8 for appearance but only 7 for performance, so she gets by on her looks," or "this girl is not much to look at but she can suck a golfball through a garden hose."  

The textual reviews also have other limitations, such as poor writing, biases, subjective tastes, and the lack of specific details and insights that I want.

Performance matters more than looks to me. I tend to find that if one or two performance scores are much lower than that of other reviewers, then I will carefully read that reviewers post, next I will look up other reviews by that reviewer and see if that reviewer consistently rates providers performance low (i.e. is he hard to please or is he fair and balanced) and then decide how much weight to put on these negative reviews. I usually regret it when I ignore even one or two negative performance reviews especially for providers that are 9 or 10 in looks because I do think reviewers inflate their performance reviews.

Thank you for your feedback. I value performance more highly than appearance, as you do. However, I have found that my sessions with providers who score more heavily in the appearance category have tended to be so disappointing or mediocre  - and have had no other factors in common - that I am considering avoiding such providers altogether.

There is a third point that flows from those two core factors: the gap between an individual providers' appearance and performance may often be greater than it appears from her average scores in both areas.

Thank you for your candid and revealing response. I will keep that factor in mind if I ever read any of your reviews.

This is exactly what I wanted to address in my original post, i.e. in this case, other guys might be disappointed with what they see in person if they trust your review and appearance rating. This is also another reason why average scores are an important way to offset the biases and other idiosyncratic practices of individual reviewers.

I also value performance more heavily than appearance, but for me the provider's erotic skills are more important than the emotional connection and interpersonal rapport, as long as she meets a certain minimum threshold of acceptable behavior, i.e. she is not an unpleasant person. With that said, I do greatly treasure an emotional connection whenever I find it, and such an emotional connection will often prompt me to repeat.

Thank you for your very insightful response, which lends credence to some of the experiences and theories of mine that prompted my original post. Most of my disappointing or mediocre experiences with providers with significantly higher appearance than performance scores did have a handful of negative performance reviews. In retrospect, I should have given those few negative reviews more weight, as my disappointing experiences turned out to be similar to those that the handful of negative reviews described. I agree that many, if not most, reviewers will inflate a hot provider's performance scores. IMHO, that less common reviewer who can make a sharper and clearer distinction between appearance and performance has more credibility, and his reviews should have more weight.

I don't care if her face looks like a donkey took a shit on it!  

Don't get me wrong I like a pretty face, but it's not important I'm much more concerned with her physique.

I enjoy the view of her ass and backside while she works her oral skills.

I never go for the drop dead gorgeous ones.  They act as if they are doing you a favor.  I always pick  an average but not ugly girl and they almost always deliver a much nicer time.

..and act like they are doing you a favor by allowing you to pay for the privilege of doing them. I would also agree that the moderately cute girls will make more of an effort to please you and often have more pleasant personalities in general. Some of the really hot girls also seem think that their looks alone will do it for you sexually and thus don't bother with much foreplay or with developing and applying their erotic skills.

The ideal combination is of course a girl who is stunningly beautiful but does not let it go to her head, goes the extra mile to please you, and knows how to do it. They are quite rare, however - I have only encountered a handful of them, and they are definitely keepers and worthy every penny.

've had the same experience as yourself.

My very best and most consistently satisfying experiences have been with ladies' who's performance ratings are in the 9-10 range, and who's appearance is roughly a full point lower than performance. So in other words, 8 and 9 or 8 and 10.  

If you can find a girl who is roughly in the range of 8 looks and 10 performance ... those are the gems. Those are the girls who are real hot but not quite model material ... just hot enough, but not so hot that they can rest on their laurels and get by on their looks alone. Those are definitely the keepers.

Once in a great while, you'll find a 9 appearance 10 performance or a girl who hovers closer to 10-10. Well ... those just kind of go without saying that if they're in town, you do your best to book with them. But you have to be patient because chances are they're so busy they don't need new clients, and even if they did have time for you, you would quickly go broke if you see them too often. Ha ha

I would generally agree and have found that the 8ish appearance/9-10 performance providers are probably one's best bet for affordable, reliable, and high-quality regulars.  

I recently repeated with a previous 10 appearance/9 performance provider who came back to my city on tour and she definitely showed her appreciation for the repeat business with a solid 10 performance. I would see her as frequently as the combination of her touring schedule and my budget permitted. She is a rare treasure.

…the low volume diamond in the rogue in both in beauty and performance is a real gem of a find to the value conscious hobbyist. Feeling lucky? (Willing to toftt?) Ha, ha!