TER General Board
To "OUT" a provider or not to?
Well what do you think? If you have truly had a bad experience do you out a provider or do you keep the bad experience to yourself and just post good reviews?
This is a little interesting. Please respond if you have "outed" a provider and what the ramifications were afterwards if any?
I am asking about the times where you DID have a bad experience after the lady showed up and you were not trying to be mean to the provider for mixed signals or messages. You just had a bad experience with her or one that wasn’t up to your expectations.
Thanks for paying attention everyone.
I have done it in private. I did find out that a some people can't be trusted. They will put down the provider in private with you, but they are secret white nights. They ran back and told the provider.
say it ain't so.
I know some prominent hobbyists who wished they never posted stuff on other websites and talked to certain people. Years of trust with the provider can go in a flash. The providers won't give them references and they have been blacklisted from seeing top rated providers.
Some hobbyists will do anything to get the upper edge. Providers will fight with each other but when push comes to shove they stick together. That goes to show you that females are superior to males.
It is fun to give out a tibit of info just see how long it takes to here it come back. Good old test of network connectivity. The games that go on in the corporate world happen here also.
Not unless my life was dependedant on it. I have just recently had a SCARY experience with a provider that scared the absolute $h!t out of me. Follow the link and see. I have changed my home number and taken some personal protection steps that most would consider extreme....
Sometime's it is best to move on. I have answered some of the PM's to me about her identity. But I only have rexs[ponded to hobbists with reviews...
I have had a number of providers that haven't been up to expectation and my view is you put it down to the luck of the draw, and not get yourself involved with a potential head case. As with all services, the quality varies and one just doesn't use that provider again, period!
Gave the lady in question a very bad review... but EVERYTHING I wrote happened, including the fire drill, and her saying to me, "hurry up and cum, I have places to go and people to meet!" at the end of the review, I wrote, "sex like this, I got from my ex-wife"
She wrote to me, told me she was sorry that I had a bad time, but the next two guys who saw her could not say enough good stuff about her...
What I think happened was she was expecting one response to her, got another... she adjusted her style accordingly. I should also say that I reread all of her reviews... there were hints of everything that I experienced in all the reviews... so, had I read the average reviews (7's) I would have picked up on the problems... before I met with her.
What I would suggest in writing a negative review? keep it factual... not what you felt, or other subjective measure, rather "she said this" "she did that" "she smelled" "she farted" or whatever... That way, the lady will have specifics and can work on those, but broad generalizations such as "she had an attitude" are a bit hard to address by the lady...
and there was no ramifications. Maybe it was the way I wrote it.
I prefer to discuss it privately with the provider if I have seen her before. This happened to me recently and I handled it privately with her. Unfortunately, while she said that she understood, she became distant and we won't be meeting again any time soon.
I had a less-than-satisfactory session with a San Diego provider awhile back and wrote about it factually. I gave her an 8 in looks & and a 5 for performance and said in the review that I was probably being generous.
Anyway, she PM'd me and said she was going to 'fry' me. I checked out the SD DB and sure enough she had started a post saying that she had done everything she could but that I couldn't get it up. Luckily for me, quite a few of my brother hobbyists backed me up and, yes, there were the fucking-annoying White Knights, but overall it turned into a nightmare for her. She became progressively more agressive on the board and started to get flamed (not by me).
She ended up PM'ing back asking for my help in getting out of her predictament (SP?). I told her to mellow out and not post for awhile but she didn't take my advise. I noticed a few days later that she had been delisted.
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is not talk about TER and do not give the provider your handle. The beauty of being anonymous is that noone knows who you are.
"Outing" is specifically what it means in the gay community. Think of this hobby as, perhaps not in the closet but under the bed or in the celler. You "out" her when you reveal that she's a provider to her family, her friends, or to her co-workers at her day job. Conversely, if you reveal her civvie name to people in the hobby who are then free to "out" her; that's outing as well.
And its the same thing if she does it to you.
Warning other people of her bad behavior or disregard for her clients is just that. It's not outing. It might offend her friends, too, which is why, well, (goes without saying) you probably shouldn't make a warning unless it's true, and you should be very specific.
BTW, I was tempted to post a warning about a lady. However, the situation was so weird with so many miscommunications, misunderstandings, and errors by both of us that I decided that it was not a circumstance other clients would ever find themselves in. No, I couldn't explain it all even if I tried to caution people. It was more embarrassing than anything. A personal problem, and not a matter of business ethics.
What boards would be effective for "OUTING" a provider?!?!!?
Talk with the provider about it and see if she is willing to make it right with you. If she comes off as hostile, than you have done all you can and have the option of going public with your complaint. You might be in for a great time if you talk with her first. Karma is a wheel...it comes back.
and that is illegal, and for good reason.
Best is to NOT out anyone unless you feel that the public safety is at risk.
Litmus test: Would you be proud to have the newspapers tell the whole story if you did it?
If, not, leave it be.
If you read my reviews you can clearly see that I wouldn't stoop to such a level. I personally wouldn't blast a provider on the boards, I never have. Dont twist my words. Providers have bad days just like everyone else, why hurt their livelihood over ONE bad session?
I consider you very honorable in your intent. It's just that you never know how the other party may construe this, so my comment was advisory only. Sorry for the miscommunication
I understand your point and I'm glad you can see mine too.
If all negative information was withheld, what would be the usefulness of the board. Is it not to help stear others in the correct direction? I think the comment relating to specifics is right on. As long as it doesn't get into personal matters, I say let it rip!
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