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When the heart thinks more than your other head...
TonyVarela 1192 reads
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What to do when the heart starts thinking more than your dick.

Do you a) move on to a new provider, b) be honest and tell her what your feeling and deal with the consequences or  c) take a break and go back when your head is back to NSA?

mrfisher235 reads

at least for the time being.

The bigger question is why the compelling need to do something rash like leave the wife and kids and run off with someone you just met, assuming that's the kind of situation you are talking about.

For that, you would want to see a psychotherapist, I would think.

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ego_check176 reads

Or you forgot that you are on TER again.

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ego_check195 reads

That you are paying her for sex and your feelings in that other arena are moot to her.
Either get a grip on yourself or be prepared to get put back in your place by her. (How embarrassing).  

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casinostocks198 reads

In P4P, you must & ought to go with options (a), then option (c) before you even contemplate for option (b) If you ever get contacted by a provider (ATF?) as to why you suddenly went "excommunicado" on her, you may want to bring up option (b), although it will make you weaker in her eyes in the long term, unless she is also looking for a real relationship.

Option (b) is always a good way to get rid of someone in this field :D

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Rickshaw17150 reads

Upon reading her reviews, you'll find that she has made others feel similarly, for many of the same reasons.   That will bring you back to reality.  She may enjoy your company.  You may even be one of her favorites.  My point is, you're not unique.  This has brought me back to reality before.

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SnapOutOfIt155 reads

Tell your heart to STFU and get real. We all fall in love with that special provider who treats us  like we are the only man she has ever loved. The problem is that it is an act. It is not real. The better the provider, the harder we fall. Wouldn't life be wonderful if we had a girlfriend or SO who treated us that way. Get real. No one in a real relationship will ever treat you like you are perfect. Feel free to fall in love during the session. After the session, Snap Out Of It!

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thefoozler88 reads

But if you're still having a problem snapping out of it, promptly schedule a session with your #2 ATF, or the hottest provider on your TDL.  Your short term memory can help to put things in their proper perspective.

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anonymousfun134 reads

Dude,

That is a significant problem. Get help immediately!

Posted By: TonyVarela
What to do when the heart starts thinking more than your dick.

Do you a) move on to a new provider, b) be honest and tell her what your feeling and deal with the consequences or  c) take a break and go back when your head is back to NSA?

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buzzdog99124 reads

and time to see if you're really cut out to be a habbyist in this hobby!!!!

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dsgall42110 reads

Hey, it's ok to fall in luv...for the hour. Then snap out of it and get on with you life.

One quick way to find out about option B is to ask if it would be ok not to pay her...but please don't be disappointed with her answer.

Posted By: buzzdog99
and time to see if you're really cut out to be a habbyist in this hobby!!!!

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moutoncadet107 reads

Neither heart NOR dick should be running your life in this arena - both will get you in trouble. You will be most successful, both here and in regular life, in letting your BIG head do the driving.

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inicky46120 reads

This happened to me a couple of times back in the day (about 20 years ago), so at least you know you're not alone.  After a session with a slim Asian with bad fake tits, she told me she just did it for kicks and was actually quite wealthy. (First I wondered if she was so wealthy, why couldn't she buy better implants.) Then she said she wanted to take me to dinner at Lutece or some other super expensive French restaurant, after which I would be the desert.  She gave me a phone @ to call.  I was very flattered, but then the big head took over.  I threw the # away and never called.  God only knows what I saved myself from.
Second story.  I'd been seeing an Ava Devine type in a place in the mid '30s, East Side of Manhattan.  She was really hot and enthusiastic with a big, juicy-but-firm body.  She started doing things to me spontaneously that just weren't done then, like round the world without being asked.  One day she started crying during our session.  I'll spare you the details but it was very clear she was becoming emotionally involved.  Or maybe a cynic would say she was faking it for some nefarious reason.  I didn't flatter myself it was Reason # 1 but stopped seeing her after that.  It's really important to understand what this is...and what it isn't.

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noavgjoe115 reads

Just remember it is a service.

If you feel you're getting too emotional in this business transaction you should find a new provider.





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