does anyone else find the use of the word "c#nt" to be distasteful?  Just read one review where that word was used repeatedly and and maybe I'm the one a bit abnormal but I don't care for it.  There are many other, IMHO, less offensive references to the "feminine treasure trove".

So what terms offend YOU? ..and what is YOUR favorite term for the "love canal"

While I'm ranting, let me also take this opportunity to chastise those that type in ALL CAPS!!!  

Cheers!

Never been big on the "C" word...unless I am describing someone I think deserves it (female OR male).  My usual term is "pussy", but I am a cat lover, so this has only good connotations for me. I have known some women who didn't like the term "pussy", but I think it is girly, sexy, and a little nasty all in one.

I also struggle with "DATY".  I mean, I even prefer "cunnilingus" to "DATY", but I usually make longer than one word descriptions for the act, because that does not sound very romantic:  "Oooo, baby, I just can't wait to get you out of those pants and perform cunnilingus on you!"...ya know?  I would love to find another one word term for "licking pussy" (that is the closest I can get to a term I like, but even that doesn't always sound right) that is not "gutter sounding".

Agreed @ CAPS...caps are for exclamation.

"Don't let him tell you it smells like roses when it's supposed to smell like pussy!"

Classic!


Tally-Ho!

In 'polite discourse' (which, believe it or not, reviews are supposed to be) I'd consider it offensive and would never dream of using it.  In bed, in the middle of a hot and steamy time, it *could* be a different story -- it would depend upon the sensibilities of the lady as well as the exact circumstances involved.  

Cheers!

Words are just words.  There use is what actually causes offense.

Most vulgar words have someone that finds them offensive.  Using vulgar words simply gives someone a chance to be sensitive and get offended.  

When someone expresses their disappointment in the use of a word, I try to look at why they are offended.  Often times, their sensitivity is based on how they were told to react to the word.

Consider the word "nigger".  If you are a person of color, calls someone a "nigger", it can be considered a phrase of affection or inclusion.  Let my lilly white ass use that term in a public setting and all of a sudden I am an offensive white bigot (and I have a good chance of getting shot in the process).

The best one I ever heard was about the female bartender that had a patron come up to her one afternoon and say "Hey bitch, give me a beer!".  She looks at him across the bar, smiles, and says "You say the word "bitch" like its a bad thing, lover!".  

It's all in the delivery.
Just my opinion and I could be wrong.
Loarthan

The Rev. Jackson was saying years ago what Bill is saying now.

Bill's message SHOULD be aimed at all parents, white, black, brown, yellow, green, etc....

Vulgar words don't actually need to be used.  They are usually a sign of a poor vocabulary and a weak mind.

Just my opinion and I could be wrong.
Loarthan

PS: Instead of "cunt", how about "the beautiful, silky garden of pleasures & delight".  Kinda sounds oriental, doesn't it?

"They are the givers of pain and delight."

Of course, that wouldn't have any anology with our secret society, now would it? :P

FSinIndy's thread was more specific, and it seemed to me that the posts on your thread weren't quite in the spirit of how I read what you wrote.

Anyway, it's all the same thing, I just saw his thread first.


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"The dude could jump off a mountain and survive, because he did brace himself...and he knows the laws of gravativity and polarity" (movie quote for you)

I thought I adressed FSinINdy's questions in the exact sequence he asked them.  As for your earlier thread, I took your meaning as what you said in your later post to it...a single word... like "c---".  All the posts to it were about phrases, and I assumed that wasn't what you had meant.  Of course, I could be wrong...for once... :P

Wink!

I was joking with the guy and yes, my post states words you don't want to hear when intimate -- very similar. Anyway, oh worthy priest up high, read my PM to you.

Hugs,
Ciara

I think you misunderstood me.  Those 's on my posts mean I was not being "serious".  

Pardon my jocularity.

time you are with a lady and she says something to you, respond by calling her a cunt----and then see how often you get laid.

Good luck.

Again, pardon my jocularity.

I am woman enough to say "I apologize" to you on the National Board. I guess after finding out bad news this morning, I took your post the wrong way. Remember, that it's still a man's world on TER. You guys seem to be able to say whatever the heck you want to say, but when we counter it, we get bashed severely, and we're the ones who rely on this occupation for money, not you.
I've had a few PM's from other providers that thought you were being rude too, but I guess I was when I called you a twithead (in jest).

Hugs,
Ciara

This public display of mutual affection might harm the morals on this board.

In case anyone isn't aware of this, Ciara and I normally get along just fine.

Having said that, obviously there was a misunderstanding here today.  For any part I played in that, I am very sorry.  Ciara is someone whose sense of humor and intelligence I am very happy to have on this board, and I would never want to say anything to her that would discourage her expression of these aspects of her personality.

Ciara, sweetie, I am very sorry to hear that you had bad news this morning, and I sincerely hope that it is not "lasting".

If it is a man's world on TER, that is news to me, only because I rarely think in those terms.  Naive, I am sure.  However, I think many of my posts have demonstrated that I tend to support the ladies here very strongly, oftentimes more strongly than they guys.  When a guy says "whatever the heck he wants to say", and it is negative towards the ladies, I am usually one of the first to jump in and defend the ladies.  Anyone who has paid attention on here knows this.  The "unappreciated" thread above about the guy who is disappointed in his provider "friends" not being grateful enough is a good example.  You also posted on that thread, Ciara, and no one jumped you (albeit, your post was gentler than mine was).  I also don't agree that when ladies counter a guys negative post, you always "get bashed severely".  I have seen many, many threads that a lady has posted something conflicting to that the subsequent posts are mostly if not all in support of her retort.  As a matter of fact, I have been "bashed" several times by men on the San Diego board for being TOO supportive of the providers there.

One of the reasons I AM as supportive as I am with the ladies is specifically because it is your livelihood.  I just posted something on the San Diego board which documents my support of this.

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/ViewMsgBody.asp?BoardID=7&Page=1&Messageid=26001

As for other providers that thought I was being rude, what can I say?  I put my funny faces up from the first post, indicating to you and to everyone that I was kidding.  My whole point in the first post I wrote was that I didn't post to your thread because I thought that the posts to it were in a different vein than how I interpreted your thread.  I didn't mean that I thought the thread itself was unclear.  If they are providers who know me and who thought I was being rude to you, then I am sad, because I would think they know how respectful I am to ladies on here.

You also posted to my post on the "unappreciated" thread that I am being mean lately.  Hmmm.  Was I mean to tell someone who was saying that all women don't know how to be appreciative that they likely have issues?  If so, then I am mean.  I think that ANYONE who generalizes genders like that is dead wrong, and I will say that until the day I die, even if the world is against me.  If that is mean, then so be it.  I admit, I don't always say things in the most gentle manner.  Why do you think I called myself Mr. Self Destruct? :P  When I see something that I think is injust, at times, I feel that to get the attention of the writer, I have to word my post more strongly.  However, I am not always that way, and two posts don't make a mean man.

Ciara, in closing, I would like to say that you are one of the most accepting people I have seen on this board, and you try to be fair and generous with all.  That is why I thought the absurdity of posting "Don't crash Ciara's party" would seem just that...absurd!  However, I obviously was wrong...to you, and to those few "other providers"...so I just want to say once more, I was kidding, and I am sorry that anyone took it otherwise.

To quote the legendary John Sayles, "It's a joke, Precious".

My point was more with regards to the language used in the reviews as opposed to what I thought you were referring to as things said behind closed doors..sorta.   Dang, now I guess I all the effort I made to get into your pants have been for naught... *wink*

in the lines of smooch, I'll kiss your cooch! ~~

..a "tongue in cheek" reference to "AM"!

I find both "cunt" and "tits" to be low grade words.