And can a man (here) change a woman

No, the person in question must do that themselves with admin.

Change can come about from learning. Here or anywhere else one (man or woman) can learn from another.

Many other people meet in real life too.

Or I suppose a post op TS would have an even better perspective on this. lol

All she has to do is MARRY the happy, well adjusted guy and within a few years she'll change him into a miserable, wretched, sad sack of regret

...the person in question has to want to change. If they do, then the man or woman can have an influence. Aside from that, no amount of nagging, cajoling or badgering will have any impact.

the quickest way to end any relationship (friend, lover, co-worker, teammate, etc) is to go into it with the idea you can change the other person to fit your mold of acceptability.

It is a recipe to fail in any relationship if partners are CHANGING each other  

We can only change ourselves; however, we can influence people around us.

marries a man because she thinks she can change him to what she wants.  She hopes to work him out of his "flaws."  A man, on the other hand, marries a woman hoping she will not change, because he likes the hot, sexually aggressive girlfriend.  Unfortunately, neither one gets what they want in most cases, and that's why most married men end of up here.

but instead out came, "You fucking bitch you ruined my life!"  

Yeah, he's not here anymore.

For understanding where I was coming from essentially.  

what if changed just "happens". The person or persons weren't necessarily looking for change.  

He can't afford me.  

But then you lost me.

While I agree that people can't change by those who are "trying" to change them...I was after something a lil different. Thank you for sharing your thoughts as always

But do think you have the power to change someone else's life when they weren't asking nor looking for it...

Sorry that has nothing to do with "her" I'm afraid.

Lol why is it always the woman's fault for a man's miserable  
marriage...if he let her change him, isn't that his fault? Lo

He has been a great bitch so far and I use him as my "canary in the coal mine."

He was a lightning Rod, wasn't he? LOL

Maybe he should change his alias now ...or change it back I should say lol

The way to do that is to believe in someone's ability to do it all by themselves. At least that was the most effective way to do it with me. It took a while for it to sink in though lol!

I guess he doesn't get out too much anymore. He probably just sits around playing tiddly winks with the other barnyard animals to pass the time.

If one is open, pretty much any interaction with others has the potential to cause a person to learn and grow. I know my interactions with the wonderful women I have had the pleasure to spend time with have all left their mark on my soul. 😎

And if I demand he change it every week, I will tell him to contact you for the details to get that accomplished.

People are who they are at a very early age.  As others have said, people can become more tolerant of others, but their intrinsic personalities were formed well before 10 years of age.

there's only at least a half a dozen of you regulars on here who accomplish that feat monthly, if not weekly as it is, certainly no need to harass me. I'm sure your contact will end up in my spam folder anyway lol

Posted By: JackDunphy

And if I demand he change it every week, I will tell him to contact you for the details to get that accomplished.

Is certainly a terrible thing to waste Senator

someone could see or view or want to live their life differently after meeting someone...even a stranger?

Sex = Power.

can't keep his mind (here) on nothin else
he'll trade the world (here)
for the good thing (here) he's found

Senior year of college, I was head over heels in love, we were talking wedding dates, everything was fabulous. Then one day when I'm wearing my usual college uniform, blue jeans and a t-shirt, she looks at me and says "when we get married we're getting you a completely new wardrobe." I can't actually tell you the calendar date, but I can tell you the second when that relationship was over, and it was the exact second that sentence was completed. We stayed together a while longer, but it was all downhill. It may sound like a little thing, but it was this disturbing feeling that she seemed to think that she needed to change me. It made me reconsider how well matched we really were, I started to pay more attention to other signs, and I finally just said it's over.

Of course there are exceptions to every generalization, but, for the most part, here on TER, the ladies and gentlemen are on their best behavior. The rules guiding TER session do change us. Not so difficult a proposition when one only has an hour or two not to screw up. We're in the best of moods. The guys because they're going to get laid, and the gals because they're going to pick up 4 to 6 bills relatively quickly. And when you get a gal who's also excited about getting laid, that's a double bonus. And when you get a gentleman who wants to stay two hours, or returns regularly, that's a double bonus.  

I had a dude take me into Banana Republic. I like sleek, classic, and sexy. I am not a prep by a long shot.

It suits you perfectly. Carry on.

Why don't you post under your "real" handle instead lol. It suits "you" perfectly. Carry on.  

As if you don't change yours pretty much daily? Kisses. Not.

You've been seriously lurking. Don't deny it.

I will work with him privately and set him straight about you.

Ok - Now I don't believe you can "change" someone by trying to force them to change.  

Cause neither exist.  

I'm a genius.

Here is a song I like that captures the spirit of it...

As he picked up his hammer and saw

Anyone who not only reads an entire BBBBB post, but who portends to understand it as well is almost by definition BSC. The fact that she lost you may actually be proof that you are no longer affected by the BSC disease. lol

Gambler .. admit  when you last time to finish to read a book? And share what kind books those were?  
 
 Please do not tell me that it is  just sex related or that most of your reading happens here- then you are self-destructive.  
Nobody told you that? s