Board activity not so much. I have other ways of verifying as well beyond the norm.

I won't meet with anyone I can't converse on the phone with. You'd be surprised at how many people can pass through screening that are still creepy on the phone.  

Better question: What will make me feel uneasy... too much calling/texting/emails prior to meeting. Some are ok, but 30 of them are not.

friend of a friend , i ask other girls ! and they also give me names

No guessing here . And it works !

I use many different methods to verify. But when he has written a decent amount of reviews, I feel pretty good about it.(as a starting point ofc)

Gives me a big smile and a big kiss and ass grab!!

Ive got lotsa buds (and bud-ettes) in the "hobby," and while I don't limit meself, I'd rather see girls they recommend.  I"m lucky to have plenty-O-friends to steer me to the Primo gals.  Caring is sharing, boyz an girlz!
Still, just saw a neat kid last weak based only on reviews and pix.  But you gotta know what 2 look 4.

p411, date-check...if I see a lot of OK's, and at least ONE of them is from a lady I can trust, then that's a huge plus. If there are just some scattered OK's and I can't get much of a sense of the girls...then it's better than nothing, but not that reassuring.  

Board activity/reviews - NO. Only if they show he's a truly nice, sweet guy...I've had board guys as clients and some are great, don't get me wrong. But a visible, active history on this site makes me worry he'll want to play games, or be up my ass for free time etc. But if I read his reviews/posts and LIKE the person, then it's very reassuring.  

With me, friendliness and respectfulness go a long way. A pleasant correspondence leading up to the date will make me genuinely look forward to meeting the person. Assuming the person's already been verified in some way, of course..

to find a provider for me. I get nervous still, and I start thinking what if she isn't what the reviews say or is this site full of BS. Eros for example I have gotten both great times and wastes of money on it, and IDK how accurate the new verification feature is.

Still rolling the dice