I do not do deposits or cancellation fees, but because of this I have a very strict NCNS policy. I let a guy slip though!! And he NCNS again!!! He offered to pay a cancellation fee and I declined. He said that this was "not fair" because other gals let him do this. I am out $600 (300 for both one hour appointments) and he offered me $200 for a fee. I declined and told him I would not be rescheduling with him again.  My policy is listed on my website and tryst. Of course I understand if you have an actual emergency, this guy just has a "busy" life (his words). Thoughts? Guys and gals, let me know what you think!!

Hello,

You did what was right for you!  Sure, there are valid reasons to miss or reschedule an appointment.  But to willy nilly do so and think it is okay isn't cool.  Accountability and repercussions are on him, not you!

Accept the cancellation fee but if he NCNS a third time, he’s out.

Your policy is clear. He's feelings are not your problem.

BOTH missed appointments, then it's no harm, no foul, but she still as to decide if next time is going to be back to number one or is it number three?  If it's back to number one, and the policy remains the same, then this could be an ongoing source of revenue without ever having to see the guy in person.   Lol

No excuse for that shit. I had a girl 45 minutes late because of “traffic”. It’s absolutely disrespectful.  Leave fucking earlier then.

I personally have required deposits to book, since 2010 & if I lost $600 out of pocket I would need to be reimbursed. I don’t invest my time and money, like I used to prior to becoming a single parent. I can not afford to risk loosing time and money. 💰

Without a good reason, one strike and you're out. N-E-X-T-!

Lmao the subscription model for flakes 😂
Ghostflix: $200/month to never meet me.

would love a deal like this.   Find 50 regulars who don't take up an of your time but pay you $10,000 a month collectively.  Lol

... and had pissed someone off twice, I wouldn't want to book with that woman now.  This is a generality and not directed at Scarlett because I don't know how she would react.  But I would be concerned if I aggreged a woman, that her state of mind might not be as positive and loving as she normally is.  If she is harboring any ill thoughts in the back of her mind because she thinks I was an asshole, my hour of fantasy might be an hour of nightmare.

A pattern of him not respecting you or your time.  

I would say he needs to say that up front. I would also say he should be trying to schedule appointments on short enough notice that he knows his schedule is not going to change so the appointment would be kept a large majority of the times.

More succinctly put.  Thank you!

Sorry to hear this.  I hear what people say about taking the $200 because some is better than none.  But this guy has already NCNS twice, making you the victim in this scenario he's directing and you don't have a say in.  Taking the $200 is just letting him set the terms for his own misbehavior.  No dice.  Good for you!

The second NCNS is on you.  NCNS is not a cancellation and is totally inexcusable.
“Screw me once shame on you. Screw me twice shame on me”.

Of course this is true in a lot of situations, and she says she has a strict policy, but he slipped through.  It can be hard to judge sometimes -- maybe he had a convincing excuse for the first time.  After all, there are other expressions -- "Every dog gets one bite."  "Benefit of the doubt."  

The hobby is all about mutual respect. Lack there of  has consequences. These providers set certain processes because of past experiences just like this. If you can't book,why bother wasting your money on the deposit and her time that she could be providing a smile elsewhere? Just my $0.02.

He doesn't respect your time so why should you respect his?

…even with established clients.

Unless something crazy happens absolutely no excuse for that. Absolutely disrespectful to be late also that goes for both parties.