PAID time all levels.

for myself it would have to be..

in due time. Love need trust..Trust need time..In the stage I'm in now I chose sex because, I'm not ready to settle or be with just one man/woman. It could also be that I'm very picky... it'll take a strong and special being to tame me.. :-*

The problem is, FOREVER is a VERY VERY long time and the thought of fucking the same woman, no matter how much I loved her or how hot and passionate she was, for the rest of my life and NEVER getting to taste the fruits of another woman just doesn't seem realistic to me.

I will confess that on those rare occasions when I do actually fall in love I don't even look at another woman and I have zero problem being faithful, but as I said, that's only short term. I don't believe I am capable of maintaining that level of feeling for any woman for any significant length of time.

As in ... Insane? Unconditional love ... Get a dog.  

I don't believe in monogamy.  Been there, done that.  Monogamy is boring and unhealthy.  Of course I would choose to have sex with whomever I want, whenever I want...and I would still love them all.

As long as we are truly in love, and a compatible match..

I don't need novelty or variety, and I'm not a thrill-seeker. I like to feel safe, comfortable, loved, and appreciated

As I did and then she died. I will do it again with the right one for me

I don't believe in romantic love anymore, after the newness rubs off its just a matter of putting up with one another. This is glaringly obvious even with people who say they love each other and have been married for 10 years or more, they complain about each other and bicker a lot.  

So yeah, I got rid of that, I sure as hell don't care to get back into it. I'd much prefer to get laid by different women, when I want to. NSA sex is the life for me, and I'm glad to be of the minority, it might be bad for society if all men were as jaded to romantic love as I am. So by all means, love on. I'll watch from the sidelines.

If love as you define it is "unconditional", which real love is supposed to be I can have both. Because she would love no matter what. Of course, I would give her the same freedom. I think they have a word for that, Poly

...but I've yet to find the woman I'd want to be monogamous with...until I do I'm going to have my fun...

Since true love always eventually means no sex, I'll take the sex anytime, anywhere, with anyone. I don't have anything against monogamy nor love, even in the hobby, but love does not guarantee sex. The hobby does. Which means my next wife is going to have to sign a sex pre nup.

I've never experienced true romantic love, never had a girlfriend as an adult. I'd rather have sex with one woman 1000 times than 1000 women 1 time but I don't think I can pass up the chance to have sex with anyone I want (Ashley Graham, Riley Reid, Nikki Glaser, Roxanne Heart, etc) whenever I want and wherever I want them.

You set up a false choice

I've lived a poly lifestyle for most of the time I've been sexually active, have shared deep emotions with many of the guys and girls I've seen over the years, and have real feelings for many of my regulars now

I was never happier than when we were together, Travel ; conversation, sex, everything was wonderful  I was happy just to be with her and I dropped out of the hobby.  But, i am married with children and grandchildren I loe and my wife is a good an loving person.  
I felt I was being more and more unfair to the lady who had enchanted me as it became clear after a few years hat I just was never going to leave my family.  I told her we should stop seeing each other and I am back meeting lovely and exciting providers,  Nice, but I was much happier the other way.
I'd go for passionate and loving monogamy any time. Hard to find.