When calling a provider, you get her voicemail, do you leave a message? If no, why?

I notice a lot of guys, will not leave a message and have always wondered why, as their number does come up on caller ID. I will not return a call, unless I'm asked to.

Just curious to know...

Thanks,

Kelly~






-- Modified on 7/15/2004 10:10:15 PM

Since you ask this question it is probably not your fault but many of the ladies in this business do not call back when you leave them a voicemail.  If I really want to see a lady, I will leave a message.  If I am just horny and looking for something on the same day, I will probably hang up.  When I was younger, I was more impulsive but now I tend to plan things out.

...many guys are holding their options open in case your dance card is full. This is especially true for the married guys who have limited windows of freedom. Don't take it the wrong way, but in case you haven't noticed, there are MANY to sample on life's menu.

I have someone that keeps calling me with a blocked number and won't leave a message. I guess he hasn't figured out yet that I don't answer blocked phone numbers. If someone doesn't leave a message, then they won't get a call-back/response.

Hugs,
Ciara

I second that, MIKE1010. I think I've been batting .100 as in baseball lingo. Of course, this is just a hobby so I will keep trying to boost my batting average.

I'm assuming they picked a time that was O.K. to talk with you, but having you call them back at another time might find them with family, friends, or business associates.

Jacksonlips

Sometimes I leave a message, sometimes I don't. When I don't, it's almost always because I was hoping for a same day appointment and needed an answer right then.

I'm not going to leave a message about ANY aspect of this subject when I don't know who is on the other end listening, or who might play back the message later.  

If I'm talking to a live woman I know whom I'm dealing with at least.  No crazy boyfriend overheard the answering machine.  No husband who doesn't know his wife is an esccort.  No cop sitting in his office as a call is redirected to him.  You get the idea.  

And I'm not paranoid, I've been arrested while seeking services and seen what really happens in these cases and how few rights you actually have.  I've also seen what happens when a crazy boyfriend decides he wants "his" girlfriend back after she told him to f'off and started working as a provider.  

No, I'm not talking to a machine for anybody.

it's easy for me, because...

1) I'm single

2) I almost never see ladies that I don't have prior DB/e-mail contact with anymore

However, if I was interested in seeing someone who wasn't a DB person, yeah, I would leave a message...but I can understand why the married guys may not.

I will always leave a message. It's just common courtesy.

I will have done my research and have had email contact prior to the phone call. So I  will know who and where i am calling. i leave my name, private office phone number, and a little about me and ask for a return call.

Never had a problem and always got a return call.

Just my opinion...
B

My guess is that it is probably one of the following reasons: 1) Guy is looking for a quick or same day appointment or, 2)is not in a position to receive a call back (at work, married, SO, on the road and no cell phone, etc), 3) Of course there are always some few weirdos who get off just talking to providers.

Good for you Kelly, a provider should NEVER call back unless specifically asked to do so. Doing so can create a huge problem for the caller.

-- Modified on 7/16/2004 6:22:50 AM

I'm the type of person that doesn't like to talk to a machine.  I happened to make a call to a provider who happened to have caller ID.  After about 5 rings I hung up right before her machine went off.

3 HOURS LATER.....

Since I didn't have any plans, I decide to have dinner with my OBSESSIVELY JEALOUS GF (OJGF) that I was dating at the time.  Right in the middle of dinner, I receive a phone call from the Provider.

Ring! Ring! Ring!

BK: (Checks out the Caller ID and starts sweating)

OJGF: "Aren't you going to answer the phone?"

BK: "Naa....it's work.  They can leave a message."

OJGF: "What if something happened? You better answer it!"

BK: (Trembling) "Umm....Hello?"

PROV: "Yeah, you called me and didn't leave a message. Did you want to set something up?"

OJGF: "Who is that? Is that another girl?"

BK: (Still sweating and now in Extreme Panic Mode) "Ummm, Yeah, go ahead and install those components and I'll call you tomorrow."

PROV: "What are you talking about? Are you talking to me?"

OJGF: (Observes that BK is not looking well) "Who is that?  That's not work!  GIve me the phone." (Grabs the cell phone out of my hand).  "Who is this and why are you calling?"

Prov: "Hello. I'm sorry. I have the wrong number." (Hangs up)

DOES IT END?  OH HELL NO!

OJGF: "That Bitch hung up on me" (Checks caller ID and hits redial)

BK: (thinking....MF! I'm so Freaking Dead!  God...HELP?)

RING! RING! RING! RING! RING! ANSWERING MACHINE....

OJGF: "I don't know who you think you are, but don't you ever hang up on me or I'll kick your ASS!"  (END OF CALL)

After that episode, dinner wasn't too good (I took a lot of abuse).  We ended up leaving early, and I didn't get any afterwards.  

We broke up the next week.

Perhaps you could just subscribe to 'Anonymous Call Rejection' for that line by the phone company?  That way, you won't get the annoyance of a hang-up call, and he will at least get a recorded message telling him why he's not getting an answer?

I always leave a message.  It's not in my nature to tease you like that.

I assume you are screening or occupied and will return my call in a jiffy.  I'll only wait four hours before I start doing other things...but until then I just stare at the phone.

Most of the time, the lady is in another meeting or she just wants to see who it is before she answers the phone. I like emails first, but if I can see the phone number, then I will pick up. Otherwise, I wait until they leave a message.  Needless to say, if we answered every blocked number all day we would be answering the phone non-stop for weirdos asking us how much, what do you do, etc., while they jerk off.  No offense, but this happens more than you realize. This also sometimes weeds out those who really aren't that interested and LE.

Hugs,
Ciara

A surprising number of ladies have (whether intentionally or no) never bothered to record a greeting message for their voicemail.  Thus, when you call, you hear something like:

'This call is being answered by Audix!  This is mailbox number 5-5-5-1-2-3-4...'.

When that happens, I simply hang up, mostly because I have no confidence that I've actually connected with the right person.  How do I know it wasn't a wrong number (either on my part, or in the provider's contact info)?  OTOH, if there is a greeting that at least mentions a name that matches that of the lady I'm trying to contact, I will leave a message.

Cheers!

Excatly why sometime i don't leave one.   If I have already left one, i might just be trying to catch a lady in.  

Ladies sometimes have a tendency NOT to follow the instructions one leaves about calling BACK!

I have tried to answer calls before when I don't know who it is, but this has generally bit me in the butt too many times. I'll usually still answer if it's not a blocked number.

Hugs,
Ciara

That's my reason for not leaving a message also.  If I have left multiple messages and have not received a call back, I eventually learn not to waste my time.
Or, I might be looking a for a same-day appointment and figure if she's not around, it's not practical to leave a message since it is such short notice.


-- Modified on 7/17/2004 10:07:48 PM

You can call and leave me a message anytime *w*

Oh my!