I've been asked only once. It didn't bother me, since I read most of her reviews here before reaching out. It seemed fair.
Interestingly enough, when we had that first date, she mentioned having read my reviews, and that they seem very honest.I've read a number of posts that talk about concerns about providers basing decisions on whether to see us based on our reviews. How does that work? How do they know we have a TER ID? Why would we give it to them?
I personally believe nobody should reveal their ID to providers, nor even that they are members, but I have no experience with the practice.
...finally had to get my TER ID card laminated. I keep it right next to my COVID vaccination card (also laminated) and I show them both to the providers.
And don't forget to have your card punched every time you see a TER provider.
10 punches gets you a free session, so don't forget to redeem those Pooner Points!
(also good for a discount on the "Foot Long Grinder" at Subway 
The downside, of course, is that by revealing your TER ID, you may feel less inclined to be truthful in a review. She may, in fact, decide not to see you if she finds your reviews too critical.
The upside, is that the gal reads your reviews to see what it is you like, and to replicate that to make your visit more enjoyable.
Are you saying you've given it out? If so, see my questions. I don't get it.
and I never thought anything of it. In fact, TER has a white list so that providers can get a good sense of seeing you, which is another plus. Obviously, the white list can't work unless you give out your handle.
I can't say I've experienced anything bad as a result.
I have to admit, I've never understood the whitelist. lol. Thanks for that unintended clarification.
TER Whitelist = P411 OK. It’s a way for a TER active provider to vouch for the character of a TER hobbyist. With established providers it used to make it much easier to schedule a first date. Not as effective after the 18 month FOSTA/SESTA hiatus. Also, in my experience KAgencies and KGirls can’t, or don’t, give whitelists.
crucial for me. I never reveal my username or alias that contain reviews to any provider or agency.
that I can recall, but I have no problem telling a provider my TER handle (the one with my reviews) and often it will become known to a provider in the course of communications.
My thought on that is, if a provider has a problem with how I review providers, it’s probably best we don’t meet. Also my reviews give providers an idea of what kind of women and experiences I like, or don’t like.
I don't know what they are talking about. They say, "Never mind." When seeking an appointment with an indie, I give my first name, age, profession, hobby phone number and the contact info for two references of girls I have seen within the past 60 days. If that's not good enough to get me an appointment, I draw a line through her name and go on to the next one.
as to why you volunteer your profession on intros. I’ve never given that on an intro. Sometimes the provider asks what I do for a living during a session, but they don’t seem to care about my profession when scheduling me.
very little else in the way of personal information, and I think it puts them at ease that they can still take a chance on me even if I'm not providing ALL the screening info they might LIKE to have. I don't say WHERE I work, just what I do. Of course, if I was an "underground sanitation expert", I would probably not bring it up at all. Lol
on underground sanitation workers. I completely forgot about you. Lol
But I’m not an expert in underground sanitation, though. Much different field. But I don’t feel a need to impress strangers by including my job in introductory emails, unless it’s a business email; then the signature block has my job title.
renting pussy a business transaction? Interesting perspective.
Geez you can be dense sometimes. Ok, not just sometimes. 😁
I consider renting pussy a business arrangement no matter how I contact her. It seems like you don't look at it as making a contact to do business. Am I right? Or do you consider it the same as making a date with a civvie girl where its not going to involve transactional sex? (No need to say I'm the one who's dense when you didn't understand MY question. )
When I send an email to a client who doesn’t know me, I give my job title.
When I send an email to a provider asking for a session, I’M the client. It isn’t a business arrangement for MY professional services. Thus I don’t need to tell her my job or title. Unless I feel a need to brag about it. Which I don’t. I guess some people do, though.
my including my profession in my initial contact, they will generally not ask me a lot of other screening questions. I agree it won't work for all professions, but it does open doors with providers. If your profession is white collar that requires an advanced degree, try it, it works. Its not bragging, its opening doors with minimum of intrusion into my privacy. You are the one that doesn't get it. Go ahead and have the last word, its what you life for.
you're the provider’s potential client.
You're a stranger interviewing with the provider for their professional services. They can still decide to not conduct business with you if they don't feel comfortable moving forward with the business arrangement.
If a potential client believes telling a provider something general about their job would allow the business arrangement to move forward, then I don’t see an issue with it nor consider it bragging.
I personally have never done this other than sometimes say I'm professionally employed.
You and I have never told a provider our job titles when asking for a first session. Have you been bombarded with questions because of that omitted bit of information? I haven’t.
That’s because a provider can’t tell just from one’s job title how good of a client we’ll be. We all know cases of guys with very impressive titles who treat women badly… there’s examples in the news nearly every day. There’s much more useful information we can give providers for determining if they’ll be safe with us than our job titles.
2 providers ask for my occupation during the screening process. So, for some reason, it must matter to a few. Even then, I just provided a very generic one word description which seemed to have satisfied them.
Ralph Kramden: We spend $200, we make $2000 and the profit is 1800. We can't lose.
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Ed Norton: Can't lose, huh? That's what you said when you bought the parking lot next to where they were building up the movie house there. You said, 'People going to the movies got to have a place to park their car.'
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Ralph Kramden: How did I know they were building a drive-in theater?
on underground sanitation workers. I completely forgot about you. Lol
That's where my cat jumped up and then stepped on the keyboard before I could submit the post. I didn't notice it until the edit time was up. Take it up with him. He really does know better. Do you still speak pussy?
when booking the appointments. Yes, sometimes I get turned down due to reviews I have written that were not positive, or board posts I have made that rubbed someone the wrong way.
So be it... I'd rather be upfront about it than it gets leaked somehow or they realize whom they saw by reading the review I have written.
If you don't want to use your TER ID, don't use it.. But don't expect to write a review afterwards and go unnoticed.
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Otherwise, it seems that sentence doesn't follow.
I think he's saying that you don't need to give or use the TER ID but if you write reviews don't think that alone is protecting your ID from being found out.
That's why we have an alias.
"TER ID," not username/alias.
I’m not aware of having a TER ID other than my user name/handle. I just reviewed my account and didn’t find a user ID, only my name/handle. What do you consider to be a member’s user ID and where would one find it?
Members used to be able to see their "account number" or a number that was sometimes referred to as the members "TER ID" (number). It was visible under "Account" info. When I would renew my VIP, I would include my Username (impposter) AND my account number = TER ID number.
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TER changed that a few years ago and the "account number" = TER ID number is no longer visible. And members really don't need to know it, I guess.
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I think any ambiguity can be avoided (where there is any) by referring to "TER ID username" and "TER ID account number." In the past, when I would contact a Provider with my TER info it was NOT my TER number, it was my TER username.
I’m not aware of having a TER ID other than my user name/handle. I just reviewed my account and didn’t find a user ID, only my name/handle. What do you consider to be a member’s user ID and where would one find it?
Maybe I missed it but just took a quick look at my account and all I find is my logon and a link to create an alias. Might be something I've just ignored all this time but I don't see why TER would create yet another ID for members beyond their logon.
I think TER ID is only associated with provider profiles, and then if the provider has an account on TER that ID can be associated with their logon.
My mistake. For some reason I thought we had "TER IDs," too. It still may be, but then it's hidden from us. Username/alias it is.
I meant to say if you don't want to use your TER ID (for booking purposes) don't use it (use some other method), but if you do write a review, don't expect to go unnoticed (based on the details in the review, she can easily tell who it was, and then you will get a nasty email if the review was bad anyway). Also you are not protecting your ID anyway.
Sorry, was rushing out the door this morning, and had to post.
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Thanks for that. I actually finally got it after initially being even more confused reading jensen's explanation. Now I know I understand it. Three out of four times I'll wait a while before writing a review so it's not that obvious. Most of the girls I see are pretty high volume and, really, couldn't care less about a review TER (whatever that is).
However, I have been concerned about their agencies not liking some of my honesty and have worried about sleuthing at that level. I also have always been careful not to include anything *too* distinctive about a visit so it can't be used to connect me to my reviews. Again, that's if anybody cared — me thinks not.
No lady has ever asked if I'm a member or what my ID is.
One very well-known lady that I have seen does give a whitelist referral when you review her - the review simply reminds her to whitelist you. When I told her that I didn't think anyone used TER whitelists for anything anymore she said something like "some of us still make good use of them". That was a surprise to me.
yes and even my P411 .. it breaks the ice and makes the lady more likely to book and much more comfortable when we meet. i have a wild range of review grades i have given out , so lady knows i will be honest.
the only downside is if the girl turns out to be a negative experience she can connect the dots but who cares. its not like she should have any real world info about you, nor should she ever! bad enough some figure out my real first name!
so she can complain all she wants to other girls but anyone seeing my review history can see i more often give out high marks.
so i would say given out TER ID has much more upside to it.
I agree. I always introduce myself using my TER handle, and I write honest reviews with a wide range of scores. Usually puts them at ease since I've been a TER member for 10+ years and have 100+ reviews. Most ladies are comfortable with my history, and I easily get through screening based on my TER history. Makes the process easier for me than a lengthy back and forth.
Only one lady has ever questioned me based on my TER history, saying that she was afraid that I might give her a low score, and I told her that I would give her scores commensurate with her looks and service. She wasn't comfortable, so I didn't see her even though she later called back and agreed to a date. Proved lucky for me as over the next year she went from a TER top 10 in Vegas to below 50 in the rankings, and might explain her concerns about my review range.
I have.
Back when a TER whitelist was as good as a reference or P411 ok.
Back when my local ad board had fresh faces daily, and a PM was an easy first contact.
Back when some agencies accepted TER membership as verification.
It's another reason why I typically post using my alias.
Depending on who I’m trying to see, they get either my main or my alias. Only once was I questioned about a review I left under this main handle, but I was very specific within the review as to why I gave low scores by justifying point deductions based on false advertising and whatnot. Shortly after leaving that review, said provider disappeared despite having several glowing (fake) reviews before mine. I’ve never been denied a session due to providing my TER handle. However, I hardly see anyone new that isn’t agency affiliated anymore. I’ve also only once been asked to not leave a review anywhere. On the other hand, there are some I’ve seen who I’ve left 5-10 reviews for over the years, and that was because they deserved the review bump that was true.
Because some of us do base our decisions on who you have seen.
Why should you give it to us? Because it's the right thing to do.
PS. It works both ways.
I've read a number of posts that talk about concerns about providers basing decisions on whether to see us based on our reviews. How does that work? How do they know we have a TER ID? Why would we give it to them?
I personally believe nobody should reveal their ID to providers, nor even that they are members, but I have no experience with the practice.
Every provider has their own methods & donation for their time. I no longer have VIP here, but when I did I loved to read the reviews to see if we may have chemistry prior to booking a playdate, or see if your whitelisted by a fellow female provider friend. I no longer inquire about handles because it does not matter if you won't send Real ID information, or a deposit to book. The best thing about this hobby is there is someone for everyone. If you don't, like it move on to a provider who fits your needs. I personally care about my health & safety.
Because some of us do base our decisions on who you have seen.
Why should you give it to us? Because it's the right thing to do.
PS. It works both ways.
Every provider has their own methods & donation for their time. I no longer have VIP here, but when I did I loved to read the reviews to see if we may have chemistry prior to booking a playdate, or see if your whitelisted by a fellow female provider friend. I no longer inquire about handles because it does not matter if you won't send Real ID information, or a deposit to book. The best thing about this hobby is there is someone for everyone. If you don't, like it move on to a provider who fits your needs. I personally care about my health & safety.
An unexpected treat to here from a provider — more so two. It's ironic that it took you two to answer my central question: why would you give out your TER info? Before I saw your posts, I had plans to point out the unanswered question. Simple answer, providers asked for it. Thanks!
But what do you do in its place when a prospective client isn't on TER? It would seem that the ones who even acknowledge it would be the ones that write rosy reviews, so it's a self-selecting bunch. However, that is *something* to go on, so I get it.
providers or mongers who are active would not think that VIP membership is a necessity rather than a luxury. It you're taking a break of going through some medical issues, then granted, it may not be worth the cost temporarily. If you buy a year at a time, its $210 for a whole year, which equals about $18 a month. How can a monger make the best selection possible without reading the content of a provider's reviews, and being able to see the entire profile of the provider. Its less than the cost of seeing one provider a month, and acts as a sort of insurance policy against a bad choice. It just seems like they are holding their pennies so close to their eyes that they can't see the dollars they will be saving.
Likewise with providers. You even said yourself that you can tell from the review content whether you might have good chemistry with a new customer. Do you think its worth foregoing that extra level of information in order to save $18 a month? Most providers I know consider TER VIP an essential tool to help them better manage their brand, and most consider it a positive way to look into the mind of a customer before he arrives to see what service preferences he may have that she may be able to use to entice him into becoming a regular. All of that seems like a bargain to me from a marketing standpoint, but as you say, "to each their own."
This thread made it to 39 posts w/o a food fight breaking out. Oh well.
Because that one certain asswipe who is at the center of most Board arguments has not posted in this thread. Thus it has remained civil and on topic.
Nah, it ended with post #40. It just didn't take hold...yet. LOL.
I was thinking of a different asswipe.
First of all Providers don't ask for Ter. ID #s. We just ask a million & one questions so that we know what we are dealing with.
The only reason I can think of to not provide the ID is if someone was dumb enough to use their real name as their handle. Otherwise, there is no downside to giving a provider a sense of who they are planning to meet.
I've been asked only once. It didn't bother me, since I read most of her reviews here before reaching out. It seemed fair.
Interestingly enough, when we had that first date, she mentioned having read my reviews, and that they seem very honest.
Where I said something like getting head from her was like taking a bong hit with my dick. A few days later, a friend of hers PM’d me saying that was the best compliment ever.
Where I said something like getting head from her was like taking a bong hit with my dick. A few days later, a friend of hers PM’d me saying that was the best compliment ever.