Today, when I needed it most, I received an email (to my private e-mail account) from a provider who has retired.

She was wondering about me, my health and how I was getting along.  You see, while we live in different cities, she and I did kinda, well sortta plan and do things OTC!  I like her very much as a person, and oddly enough when I first met her - I thought I would not, and yet, my sessions with her were fantastic, but more important, she is an intelligent and thoughtful individual

As I say, it made my day to hear from her.  Maybe it was the timing but certainly the thought was appreciated.  

to those who would say - enough of the effeminant white knighting, I would ask, what do I gain?  As stated, she lives in another city, AND is out of the business.  And that we can (and do) make friends in this hobby is no different than any other hobby or human activity.  It does NOT happen with every provider I encounter, but then again, I don't expect that!  But it happens with enough frequency to tell me, that if you are indeed open minded about this hobby, it is saner than collecting stamps, or technical ice climbing...  

again, I thought I would share because as we've seen on the board - there is more that unites the provider hobbiest, than divides us.

and I always like to hear a gentleman talk of those same feelings. Yes, we should find friendship after many visits and there is nothing wrong with carrying it on whether near or far. I'm going to send some e-mails mysef now.

Kisses Haley

who I still hear from on occasion. They have both retired, one to go back to school, the other for personal reasons. I don't hear from them often, but when I do, it always brightens up my day.

Friends that you make in the hobby aren't always restricted to just the ladies either. I do most of my hobbying when I travel, and have made some very good friends all over the country. On a recent trip, there were six of us who got together over lunch, sort of a mini M&G. There were four guys and two ladies. I knew one of the guys and one of the ladies. The others, I knew from the boards here. We all made some new friends, and had one hell of a time.

both in and out of the hobby.  I have gentlemen friends who have moved on...a widower who felt strong enough to begin dating again, a sweetheart who developed cancer and could no longer visit, and others.  We spent enough time and engaged in enough intimacy to make it meaningful.  I can't imagine feeling that close to someone and not caring for them and about them.

I send cards and every once in a while they call to fill me in on what is new.  We are never intrusive into one another's lives and manage to keep a nice balance.  I am interested and concerned...they are human beings who have entered my life and enriched it in ways I could never have imagined.  Their kindness and generosity of spirit is something for which I shall be forever grateful.

xo

It kind of bothered me that you feel that you must apologize for how you feel about someone you cared for. Not all of us are HARD ASSES about how we feel about the ladies we choose to frequent. I find that I have been very lucky to have met a few wonderful women in this hobby that I can call friends and care about. It is too bad that some hobbiest feel that if you care about a provider, you are a White Knight or a fool. I think that they miss out on a lot by being so small minded in their experiences with a provider. No matter what, when two people are sharing such intimate time together there is a connection, no matter how brief it is.I'm glad that you were able to experience such a connection with your friend and don't worry about what others may say or think. You are the one who has had the joy of anothers thoughts and feelings.

Our lunch meeting was one helluva good time, and I'm glad to have met ya!

And like you, I know a couple of ladies who have retired that I still love to hear from even though we don't hobby together anymore...