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OK I'll give you that one, but that would be okay in Arkansas ;) eom.
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Good Evening Ladies,
Hope you're doing well.
Question I have is, have any you ever had a client(s) where he's a nice guy, but for some reason after a session, or a few you choose to no longer have sessions with him, when he makes a request. For the nice guy I mean he:

1. Has a decent personality, (not crazy, stalkerish, arrogant, or rude when around you are talk to over the phone)
2. Comes to the session well groomed, and dressed
3. Does not haggle on prices, and will even leave a tip from time to time.
4. Does not try to go over during sessions,
5.  And does not ask for anything or over the top, (just basic sex)

Are there any reasons you may DQ a client like this?

What possible reason would a provider have for not seeing someone who is all those 5 things? Only 3 reasons I can think of
1) He's fallen for her and can't get up.
2) She's fallen for him and can't get up.
3) He thinks he is all those things but she definitely feels different. For example he is stalkerish.

lilli474 reads


it doesn't matter how nice someone is, if i'm not right for him then i'm not right for him, and i don't believe in forcing things. fortunately my screening process has prevented my being placed in such a circumstance more than a couple of times.

It is possible to not be compatible with a perfectly good person.  Being incompatible means I'm not sincerely enjoying myself, which means that I'm doing him a disservice.   It may not show on the first or second date, but over time it will.

Better off to end on a good note.

Clrw_guy06299 reads

Lilli, I'm curious as to what type of screening you could do to weed out the type of individual described.

You communicate at some length and depth before you meet. Probably email or phone, maybe both. That is in addition to normal screening which may well include disacussing the hobbyist with other providers who have seen him.

Ladies also portray themselves in a particular way in part because they know that portrayal both sets the right expectations for anyone who chooses to see them, and also because it attracts guys who are likely to be her type, just as much as she will be theirs.

Just a guess, though - ladies, feel free to correct me.

zig

lilli208 reads

that was a fairly accurate, common sense assessment ziggy. it is a combination of the way i present myself (or used to, as i'm not technically "out there" any longer), and a very lengthy but relaxed personality screening process that makes it unlikely i will end up meeting any man with whom i'm entirely incompatible. and in those two instances when it didn't work out, i clearly recall ignoring my gut instincts and deciding to go ahead with a first meeting, because those particular individuals were so "nice" and i wanted to be accommodating. thankfully i have not repeated that since.



Clrw_guy06201 reads

Thanks for the explanation.  Sounds like the process that occurs on a regular dating site.  Or perhaps a proper job interview.

And She and I went at it a bit. Her screening is a bit different. It does require quite a bit of trust on her clients part, more than I would be willing to give without similar trust in return. It works for her and her clients, though and that is all that matters. Here is her post on screening:

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=420253&boardID=12&page=#420253

You have to read the rest of the back and forth between us to get how she screens. In essence she talks to them and gets to know them. I am sure she checks up on the information provided as well as she is very smart and very though. Please note she sells real companionship and not quick hour long fuck fests.

I have seen some gals that were perfect providers in every conceivable measure from looks to performance to price.

And yet, afterwards I just had no desire to go back and see them as there was that undefinable quality we call chemistry missing.

It's too bad in a way, but that's the mystery of life for ya.

What sometimes sucks is how I go back and see some gals whose performance was lacking because of the charge I get out of just being near them.  Those situations tend to turn out badly too.

Fortunately I now know a lot of gals that combine both, so all's well that ends well.

PrincessPuss281 reads

If so, there's your answer.
If not, well....refer to #3 on PerfectStorms post.
Either way, I'm sorry this has happened to you!

NoKids250 reads

I would say that if that were an accurate description of a hypothetical client he would ever be "DQ'ed".

But it never is.

Clients (and providers) who have problematic issues are often self-delusional - be it about their personality disorders, inappropriate behaviors, personal hygiene, etc.

Well, if he didn't believe in bringing his wallet. I might. Your paying her to be nice to you, that doesn't mean she has to repeat!  Happens all the time.  You just need to move on.

if he is really hard to talk to and I just can't really get to know him. I try to connect with the gentleman I encounter and if we don't seem to click I may not see him again. However, I would probably see him 2-3 times before deciding we aren't right for each other. Some people are just shy or socially awkward at first and it's understandable.

Kisses,

Veronica Sweets

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