Boy did I blow it on TER! Tail between my legs...

When I post anywhere on TER, I make it a point to end my message with a comment that goes something like this:
“Please don’t PM me as I do not have access to those on TER.  Please email me directly.”

This is because when I first received limited VIP access as a provider, a little mailbox symbol popped up on the upper left (if I remember correctly) corner of my screen.  When I clicked on it, there were a TON of messages there—some that were a year old, all unread!  I went through and deleted the old ones and replied to the more recent ones, apologizing for not responding sooner and explaining that I did not know I had any messages.

Shortly after, the little mailbox symbol disappeared.  I contacted TER a number of times trying to explain that I couldn’t access my PMs anymore, but clearly there was a lack of understanding as the staff kept referring me back to the post describing what limited provider VIP entailed.  So I eventually just “let it go” and assumed I was not allowed access to PMs with my limited status.  I did not spend much time on TER anyhow, just the occasional post, so it was no big deal.

But recently, I’ve been participating more and more on the boards.  While my eyes normally do not go farther to the right than the “discussion boards” menu button, they did the other night.  And there I saw it—MAIL.  And then I clicked on that blue MAIL button.  And then….

D’OH!!!  

I feel so foolish and embarrassed!  I recently made a public post (okay, okay, so it was a pseudo-rant LOL) on a city board defending myself when a gent complained that I did not respond to his many inquiries.  See, I pride myself on returning every single non-offensive email I receive as promptly as I can.  The technology toys in my life make this easier than making phone calls.  But now I see how many gents contacted me regarding trips to their city and how many ladies offered words of support and friendship--and I completely, unknowingly, blew all of them off!!  

So I publicly apologize to those of you who have contacted me and did not receive a response.  I was not being rude or ignoring anyone, I just honestly had no idea that little MAIL button existed!  I hope you have not given up on me.  Apologies also to the staff at TER who probably assumed I was an illiterate flake.  Sheesh!

Lastly, look out, because now I just might go PM crazy on y’all!

Embarrassed but hugging nonetheless,
Selena Scott