ok yesterday on another board there was a topic raised about a provider and that she was 45 min early for a appt. and that the man was angry and cussing at her, and she yelled back and so on...

well my comment to her was well if he said 9:15 personally its ok to be like 5 min early but not 45 unless you called ahead to make sure, i mean what if he had someone ie... SO he had to get rid of, or guest, they may have not been leaving till 9 and you showing up would cause questions.. so in honesty, he had every right to be upset, unless like I said you called ahead and asked if you could be early..
I dont think cussing was necessary though


so what is the general opinion on this?
I dont think early more than like 5-10 min is ok

I'd agree, not only for the reasons you mentioned above, but, also, what if he had stepped out for a few minutes, or was in the shower, orone of any number of things.  Just a providers and clients should call if they're going to be more than a few minutes late, they should also call if they're going to be more than a few minutes early.

sometimes they book themselves so solid back to back, they need and cherish the break in between. 45 minutes early is out of bounds, however.
rik

I haven't done outcall in quite sometime---but in business--any-- --timely arrivals are paramount---protoccol--call when your timing is off--call and assume nothing--On repeat clients when they would schedule--than a confirmation call and they would arrive at appt time---problem some would arrive 5-mins or more early and I would not be altogether.  Now I always on the confirmation call ask them to call me when they are 10 minutes away.  Just in case their running early and I'm running on time. This also gives another opportunity to head off a client if something heaven forbid has stepped out of character at your location--keeps the awkward moments in check.  Are you sure their emotion was angry Riker or just not ready and embarrassed--if they were really angry I hope you didn't return.  Anger is an emotion that should be felt-- but raising it's head without a lot of good thought is never wise.

I understand and respect timeliness. I shouldn't characterize her as being angry. It's more likely that she was just a little flustered and embarrassed about not being ready, and wanted to point out that she wasn't late, I was early.

You're right. It's not fair to say she was angry.

seeing a client when he or she does not expect or wish to be seen is the same as touching the minx where she does not expect or wish to be touched.

9:15 means mickey's big hand is on the 3. if it's not on the three, wait in the lobby or catch up on messages in the car, or call about why you're running late.

as far as i'm concerned, arriving even 5 minutes early just means i'm being front loaded for a time hussle, and arriving exactly on time means the lady delivers as promised and is centered in what she's doing.

nothing special can happen if there is not trust on both sides.

While normally I just fall in line like a lemming and agree with ANYTHING a big booty WF has to say....this time Sasha I gotta disagree...vigorously.


WHAT WAS SHE THINKING???

She desevered whatever she got, short of physical abuse. Was cussing unnecessary? In an ideal world, we should ALL be as restrained and polite as possible, but sometimes strong language has to be used to make a point, and baby, in this case, a point needed to be made.

Don't tell me she even TRIED to defend herself in the thread in question.

As everyone has pointed out, arriving early...even ONE MINUTE EARLY...is TOTALLY (read that again....TOTALLY) out of bounds for a provider. Nothing could be more stupid, and the only thing worse would be a direct phone call from provider to SigO saying "I'm on my way" (which is why NO!!!! IT IS NOT!!!! OK TO CALL AND SAY YOU ARE COMING EARLY!!!)

Come on time. Please. If for whatever reason you are running early, just sit your sexy and ample ass in the car someplace until the appointed hour arrives. Don't call, don't come, don't do anything but arrive on time.

I cannot believe a professional would make a mistake like that.....just thinking their could be "pros" that stupid is enough to scare me away from hobbying....

-- Modified on 8/4/2002 12:18:42 PM

I've been debating responding to this one for a few days now... because I do, absolutely, understand your point and I agree with you... *kinda.*

The goal, always, is for both parties to be on time. In an ideal world this would ALWAYS be the case. In the real world, with a reliable provider and a reliable client the given situation, it's probably the case about 95% of the time. Unfortunately life doesn't always work the way we plan it to... and granted there are low class scuzzy types of people out there who are constantly late or early or whatever and making up lame excuses for it... but those folks do not negate the reality of people who honestly, one day, just hit a nasty traffic snarl. Or *whatever* it might be. Things do come up, welcome to the world.

We are, of course, not perfect. Well, I come pretty darned close. (I'm JUST KIDDING! LOL!!!) But seriously. Please, please, PLEASE tell me... that NONE of you guys are cutting things so close that five minutes more or less could make a life and death type difference in your lives. PLEASE tell me you take more responsibility for yourselves than that. Listen... if you are telling a lady to come over at a time when your wife/SO will have left the house five minutes before, you are an absolute NUT!!!!! (MLAM, I love ya honey, but I gotta call 'em like I see 'em!) Please do not take a chance like that that could SO EASILY blow up in your face over something as simple as a lady showing up in your parking lot three minutes early... or maybe her car clock is a few minutes fast... or WHATEVER. I mean!!!!!!!

40 minutes???? Of course that is nonsense! I would not be happy if I had a client show up that early... I wouldn't be ready and I'd tell him to go get some coffee and come back at our original scheduled time, LOL!  But I do indeed have clients all the time who show up five, ten, fifteen minutes one way or the other... I plan my schedule accordingly on that just in case... and if what you are doing poses such a huge risk to your life, you owe it to yourself to do the same. You DO have some responsibility in this too.

As for the not calling... well shucks sweetie, seems like you've put us in a position of "damned if you do, damned if you don't."  If we don't call we are irresponsible, etc, etc, etc. If we do call we're violating your privacy. =:O I give up!!!! Altho for myself I will say I have never had an outcall situation where I didn't know I could call if there were a problem... men rarely invite a lady to the hotel room they are staying in with their wives, IMHO.  But hey??? Give us a break, would you! Of course reliability is a huge part of this business and I am sure that those of us who are respected, well reviewed ladies strive to be perfect on that note... but life doesn't always let us despite our best intentions. From your post you sound like you'd be standing in your parking lot with a gun if someone showed up a lil' early.

RELAX, wouldya????? Sounds like you need to go visit someone, fast. LOL! (please don't have them come to you!!! OMG!!!)

Hugs*
Nicole

Sweetie, I'd LOVE to cum visit you....I am sure you GOT what I NEED!!

But, in response to your post, of course I (nor any sane guy...though on occassion I have to admit I do worry about the sanity of my fellow hobbyist who post) would schedule a "session" within 5 minutes of my SigOs departure. That would be insanity.

BUT...like you mentioned...things *DO* happen. We of course work to prevent them from happening, but since "honey, you really need to go now...I've got this big booty blonde WF on her way over and I don't think you want to watch me ride that ass" isn't an option, it is MUCH, MUCH better to be safe and cautious then presumptious.

In regards to being late, I have no problem with that (within the context of THIS discussion). I understand shit happens. It does. And if you are going to be late, you should call...AFTER the appointed hour (even if but 5 minutes after), just so that your assumption that such a call is safe is a fair and reasonable one.

But if you are early...just wait in the car baby. Just wait. I wanna see you...really, really, badly, but being early is just an unnecessary risk.

Hell, I'd make a case that perhaps on outcall visits a provider SHOULD be 3 to 5 minutes late by design, and just add the time to the end of the session, just as a precaution. Those 3 to 5 minutes mean nothing to me (or to any reasonable guy) on the back end (re: late), but have the potential...just the potential (again, this shouldn't be the case, but you never know...) to be DISASTER on the front end (re: early).

Now...in regards to "MLAM, I love ya honey", oh, if only that was true....

Glad to see you back around though babe... :^)

she doesn't wanna watch...
That'd be sooooooooo hot! Hehe! We could always take turns

Hugs*
Nicole