Met someone I had such a mind-blowing time with -- we connected more than in a GF way, especially intellectually and with common backgrounds, education, and interests, and think she felt the same about me.....

Yet somehow I don't want to return... guess I'm afraid it might spoil the perfect memory, or I'll become too attached... or perhaps I am already.....  Anyone felt the same?

Sounds like she did a great job at what you paid her for. If a provider is really good, you walk away with just that feeling. Enjoy the feeling. It is rare. Sounds to me either you can keep the dream or you can call her again and get to know the real woman behind the dream.
etienne

Ari--

Sounds like a wonderful encounter.  I have a few questions for you, though.  Was this just a one-hour session?  Are you new to the hobby?  You are afraid to see her again and find out she's human?  Have you contacted her at all to let her know what a nice time you had?


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But...... wowy wow wow..... Eventually gave in and am forever grateful to God that some dawg like me ever got to even be in the same room with her, much less.......

When it's that good... It's supposed to be!

I saw her about 2x per week for a year and we got closer and closer.  I knew nothing could ever come of it on a long term basis because I was 20 years her senior and I had a family that depended on me.

So, I stopped seeing her. She asked why and I told her.  She wanted to remain friends but that was too painful for me.  It's just easier not communicating.  This placed me in a "damned if I do, and damned if I don't" situation.  

Since I wasn't going to be happy either way, (loss of her or loss of family) I chose the one that would make the most sense.

I think about her often, but am convinced that I made the right decision for her and for me.

Sometimes life is like a bowl of cherries.  After you eat the sweet stuff all that's left is the pits.

him that she doesn't have.  

I can see the financial reasons why providers do this, but ladies, as I'm sure you know, it can be a dangerous game, since these are the guys who become stalkers.

But you probably did the right thing.  How is what I'd like to know?  because I'm contemplating seeing a'special' provider again even though I know how much it will hurt after the weekend is over.  Hell I already miss her and I haven't even gone yet!!

So cutting it off would probably be the best thing.  Just haven't the balls to do it ... yet.

More power to you!

She's been reviewed here alot (2 pages), given 8+ ratings for looks and performance, and I've had the unfortunate circumstance of connecting with her mentally and physically.

We go out on conventional dates (no money exchanged), and share extremely intimate nights together.  How did all this happen?  I felt the same way you did after our first time together, and took a reckless plunge, asking to see her socially.  She agreed, we exchanged phone numbers and got together shortly after.  It's been a few short months now, and I'm starting to wish I hadn't gotten this close to her.

Yeah, yeah... same old sob story, same stupid move by a client.  Moral of the story?  Even if there is honest attraction between a provider and a client, even if you two do care about each other in more than a professional way, her job is going to get in the way.

Man, you're very strong!
I would've spent every penny calling her every day.
Anyway, congratulations on a great, mind blowing experience.
I guess you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't.
Be careful, I have been in your shoes and I know about that type of feeling. It can lead you to get out of control, if you're not careful.
Well, I hope that some day, you'll come across that great experience again.

I have lot's of feelings for my clients and it shows when they call me and come over when there has been a death or just some kind of drama---there is no money exchanged when this happens or for time spent on the phone nor is it even though about that I should have been compensated for my time.  Gosh I don't know who you've been hanging out with but pleeeze don't lump us all into that messed up scenario that we dont' care.  And I'm sure there are many other providers that feel and do the same things.

Amen, Cheridan!

I too, really care about my clients.  I don't have very many guys I see, and those I do see become very special to me.  And no, it's not an act; I'm not a good enough actress to sustain a falsehood fo very long.

It's all about caring, you know?

Love to all,
Anne

clearly are compassionate people.  But read the posts above and many others that have appeared on this board, and you will see that many clients think the provider they are seeing has ROMANTIC feelings toward them, and some even think the provider has fallen in love with them.

Now sure, a provider falling in love with a client could happen, and I'm sure it has happened many times.  But in the cases of most of these guys who post here, I just don't think it is happening, except in their own minds.  

How many of your clients think you have romantic feelings for them?  Do you really have those feelings for them?  You know what I mean by "romantic" -  I'm talking about love, not merely affection or friendship or fondness, but love.

I know what you mean

I recently had a threesome with two extremely hot girls in NYC. Not only did it match my fantasy expectations...It exceeded them ten fold and I know they loved it as they refused to let me pay!!! (I'm not kidding!) Has that ever happened to anyone out there?

I'd love to do it again, but I can't possibly imagine it being as good and I don't want to spoil the memory.

One of the first women I ever saw in this business.  It was my second time, and her second day of doing it.  We were both nervous.  Sexually, it was a disaster.

I saw her a few more times, and started to really like her.  Mostly we hung around and talked.  She let her real name slip once, and told me a bit about her real life.  I really started liking her.

I could see where things were going and backed off.  Decided that if I continued to see her, it would be trouble, and most likely the one who would get hurt would be me.  Just walking away for a while seemed like a better idea.

Eventually I did go back and see her again, at which point she was pretty close to getting out of the business (she had only been doing it for very transient reasons).  We got to be more friendly than before.  When she quit, I was convinced I'd never see her again, but several months later she got in touch to see how I was doing.

Other than some occasional flings when I'm in Europe, I've pretty much dropped out of the hobby, and she's got a great new life of her own too.  Today I know her well enough to know all the reasons why we never would have worked out as a couple.  We're both involved with other people, but I'm happy to count her as a really good friend.

It's weird how things sometimes work out.

PotO