Didn't notice the omission, but it seems to me that devoting months of her life to portray this character with such intensity and realism stands as the best way possible to honor Aileen Wuornos' victims and their families.  I suppose it would have been nice for her to say something about them, but it really wasn't necessary.

As for the "please don't kill me," I'm not stupid but I missed the unintentional pun, too.  

Ever had to accept an award in front of a billion people?  I think she can be forgiven for being rattled.

In my mind, Sean Penn's remark about Iraq during his acceptance speech was far more tacky...I don't use my classroom time at work to further my political position, because it's patently unprofessional.  Just becaue he's an actor doesn't mean he has a license to behave unprofessionally at a public function.

I'm with you on Charlize's hair, though.  

Yoda

Oh puhLEASE.

She owes her Oscar to the families of the victims of the character she played????

(excuse me, I feel a sneeze coming on) ah...ah....ahhhh.
***BULLSHIT**!!

>sniff, sorry...

The actors don't owe jack sh** to the biographical characters they play. If it inspires them, or touches them profoundly to play these people, that's fine; but it's also a personal choice for the actor. It is not necessarily on the same level as getting to the pinnacle of your craft, which winning the Oscar certainly is. They ought to mention their neglected families, their gradeschool drama coaches and the "little people" who helped them get in a position to do such a bangup job on the character.

Incidentally, I saw a TV show that profiled the real killer prostitute, and then saw a clip of Charlize doing the character. It was frighteningly close.