This is maybe a strange question, but if a provider has a regular, repeat client who generally does overnights and spends, in a given year, 50K with her, what type of ongoing "maintenance" should that client expect, or be receiving?  This is a not in the same city, typically once a month visit scenario.

For the amount being spent on her you'd think she'd figure out how to stroke you the way you want.
Sounds like you need to either tell her what you expect, or back away and see if that gets her attention.

She ought to be sending you nude selfies once a week.  

I think that is the problem it is not clear what expectations are for this relationship. It may be that a 'contractual' agreement takes away the fantasy of a GFE experience, but it is the crux of the issue, it isn't clear. She may also not want to initiate contact because she doesn't know if you're married or have a girlfriend. An unwanted text or call at the wrong time could be problematic if you were married. I think it would be reasonable to agree that a provider would assume you were married.

I may have some that feel the same as you for all I know.  There are a few that I am in regular contact with because they are with me too and have expressed that they enjoy the patter.....i enjoy the contacts with them also.  The balance is infrequent and irregular at best because even though we interact well on a person to person  basis when together I hear little from them in between though i  would welcome the interaction.  I am afraid that I will be taking liberties with their personal, business and family lives that is an unwanted intrusion unless invited and they may not wish to be seen as an intruder in my life, who knows.  But wistfully that is just me, i am sapiosexual, I love to talk unless my mouth is full.......

A lot of guys spend money on hookers for the express reason that they are "left alone" between sessions. She may very well think that you don't want to be contacted unless you reach out to her first.

This is just about what I was typing when GaG published first.  Not bugging you, not putting your secret at risk, is good polite hooker behavior.

Is whether you are married or single.  A lot of hookers and SB's behave quite differently with a married customer than  they do with a single one.  If you're married, but they don't know your schedule and what days and times it is "safe"  to text or call  you, they will err on the side of caution.  At 50K a year from just one customer, you are a "catch" for anyone in the P4P trade, so she doesn't want to fuck it up.  I have many married friends that have the same issue as you, the provider are slow to initiate contact for fear of blowing your cover.  I'm single, so with providers I'm close to, they have no fears about contacting me at anytime, and most do it freely.  If you're single and she is standoff-ish like you have described, then as others suggest, you need to tell her what your expectations are for the kind of money you are paying.  Maybe you could tell us if you are single or married.  That would shed some light on tailoring responses here that may better answer your question, but without knowing, this is the best I can offer.

... that you are paying her "rent, car payments, health care and then some?"  You really have no idea what she does with the professional fees you pay to her are used for. Maybe she's buying stock. Maybe she's paying tuition for her kid or niece/nephew. Maybe she's blowing it all up her nose with meth? It's really none of your business and she's not obligated to tell you or offer some additional "socializing" or flirting services beyond your sessions, unless you negotiated for and are specifically paying for that extra level of service.  

I'd have a whole harem of Sugar Babes.  

I am sure that $50K is probably much closer to $5K.  I am a little surprised how nice everyone especially GaGa is being to him on this thread.

This kinda reminds me of that thread between Deb and that needy guy that she had to cut off (i.e., the guy that she felt was stalkerish who was mad that she gave out his personal information).  I suspect that if this onion were peeled back the lady that he is spending his coin on would the same way about him that Deb and her assistant felt about that guy.  

Since this isn't exactly a sugar arrangment-relationship if you are really this much invested why not mention something along those lines if you are seeking more than a date to date relationship?

Go fuck yourself VOR, a fucking pussy who hides in the shadows behind an alias. Step out into the light as your true self, so we can see what kind of piece of shit condones a BSC dangerous hooker giving out her clients real info.  Might want to remove your head out of Deb's ass to get the shit out of it. If you don't know what the fuck your talking about, shut the fuck up.

Thank you for all the (well most of the) well though out responses.  This provider and I have known each other for 8 years, she knows and has met my wife, I know her civilian info and have met her family.  So it is more than a client-provider relationship. The high $$$ portion is only about 18 months old, before that is was a much more "typical" ongoing arrangement.  She is also my age, which means she knows all about holding the rabbit ears a certain way to get your black and white TV to have less snow

I am guessing that you are THAT GUY or that guy that previously made claims against Debra, which we adjudicated.  To the best of my recollection and belief a decision was made and I issued an ORDER.  If you wish to appeal that decision, you can do so.  You had 90 days from the issuance of the order so I believe that you may still have time.  Ohh great, it looks like I might have a new stalker.  

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I can't read this without thinking, despite your suggestions to the contrary, that the lines have been blurred, maybe for quite a while.  This hasn't been a strictly client/provider relationship in years.  The advice you are seeking is probably better coming from a marriage counselor or relationship expert -- and not from pay as you go sex hounds such as ourselves.

And based strictly on your OP I think it was unwarranted as you didn't come across as someone "whining" about the lack of "ego stroking" and expressions of appreciation that you seem to think you are entitled to in between paid dates.  

It could very well be that, and in fact is most likely, that your mistress believes she is observing the boundaries that you want.  You’re very important to her and the last thing she would want to do is cross those boundaries and mess up a good thing.

You Sir, are probably correct!

I don’t even talk with my real-life friends and family that often 😆. It would require a major shift in my mentality to start even texting my best friend of 30 years in a regular basis.