I really enjoyed Muffyman's post. For one thing, it's not only fun to discover some of the things that you do discover on this shared adventure of ours, but it's 'extra' fun to discover that someone is discovering the same things as you, at the same time! Inside, you shout, 'yeah! That's it! Exactly!'.
I think we all like that validation.
So, it lead me to post something I've wanted to for quite some time. It's just to say how neat I think the women are out there - the TER ladies. I actually attempted to post something in that direction some time ago when I posted the thread about ladies, if you could pick a lady, who would it be? Remember that one? Yeah, well I kinda botched that one. So, hopefully this one will be better.
But, relationships are interesting. Think about men/men relationships. The kind of high-five, go have a beer with guy/guy thing - the guy friendship that knows you'd be there for each other through anything ( you may have only 1 of); the tightly close knit relationship that two women can have (been there for each other through all the marriage and kid things that you may only have one of), and the special bond between a mother and son and how that very much differs between a relationship of a mother and daughter. Now THAT'S a combo-relationship that can go really, really beautifully poignant, or an absolute HELL! LOL But, you know what I mean..
Anyway, the relationship of women to women is oftentimes much more delicate and touchy than with men to men. I think men warm up to each other better in some ways than women/women.
But, and here's where it coincides with Muffyman, I think that Provider 2 Provider is definitely such a fantastic experience in women relating to other women because it seems we instantly bond. The business we share automatically brings such an intimacy and closeness. It's really great. I mean, it just makes 'civilian' relationships with women pale so much in comparison. I find myself more 'guarded' in my conversations with civilian women.
I feel absolute adoration for ladies I've never even met and the adventure we share is the reason why. And I'm thankful for it because it allows me to experience a woman/woman friendship in a very unique way.
Yeah, I'm being sappy I guess, but I just want to tell you that there's so many I just cherish - that I get so excited when I see a post or a PM from the ladies on here. Where else, how else could you feel the way you do except through this 'hobby'?
Do you ladies know what I mean?
Anyway, to that (and to you), I'll go pour a glass of wine..
(love you)
Sedona, after reading a number of your posts here at TER, I must tell you that you are one insightful woman and a "deep" thinker. You seem to fit my description in the tread below quite well.
I understand what you are saying.
Even though my friends and family are familiar with my work, it certainly isn't something I discuss with them. And I can guarantee that they wouldn't have a clue as to how I may feel about certain things and aspects which are unique to this profession. I'm very lucky in that I don't have to outwardly lead a double life, but at the same time nobody close to me knows me entirely. Nobody who hasn't been in this line of work would have any idea about the myriad of thoughts, fears and emotions which can come along with it. I love what I do, but in a way it is very lonely not being able to share and discuss such a large part of your life.
Even though I have just begun posting here, I have been lurking for a while. I do feel a connection with all the wonderful woman who post here. We have something in common. We understand ourselves, men and society in a way that many others haven't had the opportunity to. We have chosen to do what makes us happy, and been empowered to live our lives as we choose, without feeling the need to conform to societies preconceptions of what a woman should do.
The ladies here have a self respect, sense of self and an err of class about them that is difficult to find in the mainstream. And in general, are much more real, and less catty than the average woman I meet in my daily life.
Wow, this is a really long post. I guess my basic point is that I do understand and feel the way you do. I really enjoy seeing posts by other ladies, because even though they aren't speaking directly to me, it can be almost like a reflection of my own thoughs. It's always nice to be able to relate to somebody on an intellectual and spiritual level.
This was a beautiful post, and I hope you post more.
You're a fascinating lady.
I agree with you Sedona. I cherish some friends whom I've met along the way in this business. Cheers to all of them and you!
Hugs,
Ciara
Ciara,
Cheers to you as well!! Knowing and getting to know many of the ladies here in Phoenix and from many other places makes this hobby more intriguing and brings more happiness into doing what we love to do. I am speaking for myself when I say that this was not easy in the beginning...You feel every night as if you just want to vent and you cannot just vent to anyone about the joys and sorrows that we deal with. No one outside of our community is open minded enough nor compassionate enough to understand or try to see where you are coming from. Having every thing out in the open for me helps on many occasions but really helps you to find out who your true friends are along the way. You want to scream at the top of your lungs sometimes and feel like no one is listening...or no one really wants to listen...but it is the ladies you make friends with along the way to come around in the end and meet you for happy hour that makes everything all better. I really hope that other communities like ours here in Phoenix are as dependable as we are with each other. Thank you to all the women I have met along the way that have opened up and shared themselves on an emotional level, it really helps to put things into perspective at the end of the day.
MadisonAZ
I've heard such good things about your network of ladies there, and it shows.
wow. let me tell u u.s. gurls how lucky u r to have your counterparts appreciate u as this man does. wow. i am hoping that my opinion is beginning to form (and can be changed) the few very few constant responders from van perb reviews. the whole feel is different, unwelcomin, and bitter. it is a stellar thing to read of the absolut adoration u get here. wow.
women/women friends and still denying their bi curious tendancies...ascariiiiiii.....competative and depending on the situation...brutal. women/women appreciating each others attractiveness and fulfilling each others need and appreciation for each others umm...hee hee...oops...needs. true...women i think can better understand and provide naturally a more nurturing and deep experience that a woman craqves. it's sexy and hot!!! we're naturally more emotional and can understand it easier. men...ok...and some women...are more visual and physical. if u are open minded u can have the best of both worlds and share it. i also agree that guy/guy relationship warms up quicker and more solidly than the gurl/gurl one. sorry civi gurls pale...keep in mind though that u can teach them. providers are phenominal beings to be able to bypassthe limitations that society triesd to put on us. but, they can still ge4 brutal though.