There is one gal I had known for a very long time, and we always had great sex, but I noticed she never got off.  I asked her about it and what I could do to help her, then she landed a heavy story on me.  She said that because she was repeatedly raped by her family members when young, she could only get off if I would do stuff like slap and choke her.  I was kind of put off by that as you can imagine, but in order to help her I started to do that stuff, on the light side at first, but she kept egging me on to slap harder and choke harder.  So I did.  She got off, and interestingly and somewhat upsettingly, I found myself getting excited by it.  Fortunately, she seems to have worked that out of her system and now we have good orgasmic sex without any of the violence she sought.

Another time I was with a gal and I thought the time had come to put on a cover and enter, but she then shut her legs tight together and said to me:  "If you want it, you're going to have to fight for it."  So I did, and after quite a tussle I got inside her.  Again, it got me quite excited.  I never did see her again.  She disappeared after that, which was not too uncommon as this was back before the internet.

It's a side of myself that I would just as soon not explore too much.  It makes me a bit uneasy.

Let me first say that I've read many times that rape fantasies are common in women.  It's not one of mine, but I like to think I get that as a fantasy, it can be very stimulating.

Deep throat fantasy is real.

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

Let me first say that I've read many times that rape fantasies are common in women.  It's not one of mine, but I like to think I get that as a fantasy, it can be very stimulating.  
   
 How popular is it among men?  
   
 I do not currently offer role-play but I used to and only got asked to do this once or twice during that time.  
 If this is a popular male fantasy, is it something which most men prefer not to enact?   Or would a hobbyist with this fantasy choose instead to bring this fantasy to a fetish/kink provider rather than one who does not advertise role-play type services?  
   
 Very recently, a new client sprung this on me without first asking if I was ok with enacting his fantasy.... not going to go into it, but this experience made me wonder just how common it is, whether it's a fantasy men WANT to enact or keep firmly in the fantasy realm, or want to enact it but dread possible negative reactions, etc etc etc.  (Perhaps I tend to take a clinical approach unpleasant experiences in an attempt to emotionally distance myself?  IDK, but it works for me! lol)    
   
 Ladies: have you been asked to role-play a rape fantasy frequently?  Does it seem like a common/normal fantasy?  
   
 Men: any thoughts from your own perspective on this type of fantasy and/or role-play?  
   
 Anyone care to share their personal experiences, impressions, or any pertinent research data?    
   
   
 TIA!

Um No, but Louis CK said it better than I could, and I suspect that most men think the same ... what's the worst thing that could happen ??

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

Let me first say that I've read many times that rape fantasies are common in women.  It's not one of mine, but I like to think I get that as a fantasy, it can be very stimulating.  
   
 How popular is it among men?  
   
 I do not currently offer role-play but I used to and only got asked to do this once or twice during that time.  
 If this is a popular male fantasy, is it something which most men prefer not to enact?   Or would a hobbyist with this fantasy choose instead to bring this fantasy to a fetish/kink provider rather than one who does not advertise role-play type services?  
   
 Very recently, a new client sprung this on me without first asking if I was ok with enacting his fantasy.... not going to go into it, but this experience made me wonder just how common it is, whether it's a fantasy men WANT to enact or keep firmly in the fantasy realm, or want to enact it but dread possible negative reactions, etc etc etc.  (Perhaps I tend to take a clinical approach unpleasant experiences in an attempt to emotionally distance myself?  IDK, but it works for me! lol)    
   
 Ladies: have you been asked to role-play a rape fantasy frequently?  Does it seem like a common/normal fantasy?  
   
 Men: any thoughts from your own perspective on this type of fantasy and/or role-play?  
   
 Anyone care to share their personal experiences, impressions, or any pertinent research data?    
   
   
 TIA!

But sometimes the session spontaneously just goes there.

I discussed doing something like that with a provider I have seen a few times while we were in bed cooling down after sex.   Obviously, not something to "spring" on anybody - and I really can't imagine doing that on a first date.  Rape is rape; play is play.  The difference is in advance consent.

I cant do it.  Primary reason is I grew up with a very abusive Step-dad.  That kinda stuff digs up those memories.  Doesnt get more turned off than that.

He's an idiot for wanting to enact this fantasy on the first visit. I've encountered this just a few times, and they were all otherwise strong-willed women. I suppose it might be similar to the stories you hear of CEO-types who are submissive in the bedroom.  

until now.  

I can think of many fantasies but rape is NOT one for me. I'd rather have a romantic liaison.

Females are more sexually submissive usually.  I get a lot of requests from men who want role play/seduced by a dominant woman and its always kinda a bummer since this does nothing for me.  But he's the paying customer so...

Have never found this even remotely erotic or appealing.  I can't even stand to watch porn where the fantasy is played out. Just don't get the appeal of pretending to violate someone.  

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

Let me first say that I've read many times that rape fantasies are common in women.  It's not one of mine, but I like to think I get that as a fantasy, it can be very stimulating.  
   
 How popular is it among men?  
   
 I do not currently offer role-play but I used to and only got asked to do this once or twice during that time.  
 If this is a popular male fantasy, is it something which most men prefer not to enact?   Or would a hobbyist with this fantasy choose instead to bring this fantasy to a fetish/kink provider rather than one who does not advertise role-play type services?  
   
 Very recently, a new client sprung this on me without first asking if I was ok with enacting his fantasy.... not going to go into it, but this experience made me wonder just how common it is, whether it's a fantasy men WANT to enact or keep firmly in the fantasy realm, or want to enact it but dread possible negative reactions, etc etc etc.  (Perhaps I tend to take a clinical approach to unpleasant experiences in an attempt to emotionally distance myself?  IDK, but it works for me! lol)    
   
 Ladies: have you been asked to role-play a rape fantasy frequently?  Does it seem like a common/normal fantasy?  
   
 Men: any thoughts from your own perspective on this type of fantasy and/or role-play?  
   
 Anyone care to share their personal experiences, impressions, or any pertinent research data?    
   
   
 TIA!  
   
   
 :edited for grammatical error:

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.....the thought of her "raping" me, even as a fantasy, is abhorrent.

Man raping woman, that is.  

for your perspective.   You are right, if the gal enjoys that kind of submissiveness I am more than willing and capeable of giving it a try.  Maybe not the rape scene, but perhaps some hair pulling or whatever to start out.   Her enjoyment is my enjoyment.  QED.

I'm a fan, but I'm also well-versed in kink and offer pro sub services (including the role play in question). I wouldn't say it's a super common request, but I also think that fewer men want to "come out" with that particular fantasy (which is understandable...a lot of people are going to have a negative visceral reaction to the concept). My guess is that myself and other pro-subs get this request far more often than your average GFE lady.  

...which does happen and I want no part of any of it, fantasy or not

She wanted me to stop by after work before I went home to  shower, throw open the door, push her around, force her on the floor and rape her.
  I explained she could ask me to play almost any fantasy she desired, the rape game wasn't something I was willing to do.
  She asked me again the next night. I walked out without a thought .
    I had already said NO, I wasn't going to waste my time discussing something that repulsed me.
   
  When she called and tried to rationalize her desire I told her to  find someone else.  
   
   I missed her head skills for a while, too bad she didn't have a brain wise enough to realize No means NO.
   

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

Let me first say that I've read many times that rape fantasies are common in women.  It's not one of mine, but I like to think I get that as a fantasy, it can be very stimulating.  
   
 How popular is it among men?  
   
 I do not currently offer role-play but I used to and only got asked to do this once or twice during that time.  
 If this is a popular male fantasy, is it something which most men prefer not to enact?   Or would a hobbyist with this fantasy choose instead to bring this fantasy to a fetish/kink provider rather than one who does not advertise role-play type services?  
   
 Very recently, a new client sprung this on me without first asking if I was ok with enacting his fantasy.... not going to go into it, but this experience made me wonder just how common it is, whether it's a fantasy men WANT to enact or keep firmly in the fantasy realm, or want to enact it but dread possible negative reactions, etc etc etc.  (Perhaps I tend to take a clinical approach to unpleasant experiences in an attempt to emotionally distance myself?  IDK, but it works for me! lol)    
   
 Ladies: have you been asked to role-play a rape fantasy frequently?  Does it seem like a common/normal fantasy?  
   
 Men: any thoughts from your own perspective on this type of fantasy and/or role-play?  
   
 Anyone care to share their personal experiences, impressions, or any pertinent research data?    
   
   
 TIA!  
   
   
 :edited for grammatical error:

-- Modified on 3/20/2015 10:49:57 AM

I Think you would be more than surprised to know that it's quite normal; as to say that many men have this fantasy even if they are willing to admit it or not.  I personally am into taboo, anything forbidden,  so it is to say that this fantasy is a fantasy of mines.  Roleplay is fun and that's what makes it a fantasy,  like others have a father/daughter fantasy, it's no different unless it's not welcomed by the provider.  In that regard is totally off limits and should be well respected.  Ask before encounter !

I'm naturally more along the lines of what "Pink_Panties" described (dominant), but I'm so averse to rape (and rape fantasies) that I even avoid movies if I know ahead of time they contain a rape scene.

Rape:
"unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body part, or foreign object, without the consent of the victim."

You meet a girl at a bar and she's flirtatious yet shy.  You tell her she should come back to your hotel room and she reluctantly agrees.  

I understand the general idea that your bed partner should at least seem like she is having fun.  And yes I give effort towards her orgasm even (especially) when I have her tied up or otherwise submitting to me.  That's what vibrators, fingers and tongues are for.  I get my kicks from her "losing control".

It depends on whether she uttered the word "NO" during the whole time

Not my fantasy to ever ask for it but I've had submissive girls who asked me to pull their hair or slap their buttocks. Or the simple "fuck me HARDER!"  

Did you not previously say this about choking?

Agree on the "more of a female fantasy" I've known a few females IRL who have asked to have hair pulled, tied up and have t shirts ripped off in a consensual non-consent time. One even took scissors to the necks of the shirts so they would rip easier. We ended up with a lot of rags that summer. Good times. Guys (and myself) don't want to just do this without "a lot" of prior talk due to the ramifications involved.

That was only about 3.3 though, You're losing your biggest skill set. Please practice more and improve next time. lol

By state statute, rape is limited to vaginal penetration.
http://www.ncga.state.nc.us/EnactedLegislation/Statutes/HTML/ByArticle/Chapter_14/Article_7A.html

I say that because, I want to ask this question....

Rape fantasy is one of them.

I agree partially, simply because there are some lower species where rape IS the method of mating, period.