There are some gentleman who can get obsessed with whether or not the lady is seeing someone right before them and will stalk a location and could possibly cancel if they make mistaken assumptions. As well it looks suspicious for anyone to sit outside an incall. We never know when a gentleman may have that tendency so safety is an issue with giving out location info even with regulars or maybe even moreso with regulars.
we veterans have made a ton of bookings over the years..the time we have for notification varies all over the map..i booked a session a week ago and was notified today a full week in advance of her incall location..i truly appreciate that..the question then is..how much time do you need to be comfortable in knowing her incall location..
a] a week in advance
b] two or three day notice
c] the night before..or..
d] the morning of
It's much safer for both of us that way. I'd say it's that way for me about 99% of the time.
The day of for most of the dates.
Don't know which part of town she will be in, then I would answer C, assuming its an afternoon or evening appt. its my experience that unless I have met the woman before, I never get the exact location more than 24 hours in advance.
It does depend on the mileage & the degree of planning required to arrive on time.
I have no problem with the morning of. These ladies have to be concerned with their safety so it may make them more comfortable with giving out the location that day. I will always prefer for the lady to be relaxed during a session as that benefits both of us.
Now if I have seen the lady a few times I think she should be more comfortable with me and a couple of day notice is a nice gesture.
MM
I'm mostly in urban areas so I only need to know an approximate location before even deciding to set something up. New York City has 90,000 hotel rooms. There are dozens of hotels in every neighborhood. Narrowing it down to a few blocks ("East 40s", "Tribeca") doesn't give away anyone's precise location. I am fine getting the final details even just a few minutes before since I am now already in the general area.
On the other hand, if pre-booked, I do like CONFIRMATION (even w/o precise details) the day before and even another one the day of. I sometimes jerk my own schedule around and travel an extra distance to make things work and if there's no confirmation or confirmed change ahead of time it can be very inconvenient.
Put me down for something like (c) AND (d).
If I've never seen her before and have zero idea of where she's located, I'd like to know the general area ASAP. I don't need their address, just something nearby so I at least know if I'd be driving 15 minutes or 2 hours. Beyond that, I'm okay with them sending me their adress as long as it's before I leave the house as I'm apparently one of the few hobbyists that doesn't have a GPS in their car (seriously, so many providers are shocked and some even got upset with me when they found out I don't have one) so I have to rely on using a map website to get directions to them (though a couple have been kind enough to lead me to them while I'm on the phone).
Essentially, I'd like a general area as soon as I decide to make an appointment with them so I can know if it's too far for me. Then I'd like the exact address before I leave to get to their place (morning of would be nice).
There are some gentleman who can get obsessed with whether or not the lady is seeing someone right before them and will stalk a location and could possibly cancel if they make mistaken assumptions. As well it looks suspicious for anyone to sit outside an incall. We never know when a gentleman may have that tendency so safety is an issue with giving out location info even with regulars or maybe even moreso with regulars.
One would think we would all have common sense around 'not sitting in the parking lot' or showing up a half an hour early, or just showing up anytime, if the provider is at her own place. Not true, for all though, and I understand. It kind of reminds me of bees around honey. LOL!
MrFisher once posted...somewhere on the boards....some great guidelines he follows when he goes to visit ladies. Like passing time at DD if he is waiting.
Do I already know her?
How big is the town?
Am I visiting her or is she coming to see me?
Usually I like to know the general area in advance so I can get a hotel near there, but a few hours for the exact location is usually fine with me.
and she replied back where she was staying and Its still a week away...lol
was sort of confused because it will my 1st visit w/ this top notch visiting provider...i put her in my calendar, and inquired as to the advance notice... we decided to wait until the morning of D.
is our answer.
I'm thrilled my reputation precedes myself, but that was a bit strange.
A few days ahead... say 5-7. The location waits until 12-24 hours. The room number is the second call.
I NEVER sit in a parking lot. Very early in my hobby life... I was getting out of my car headed in to see a lovely lady... when a black & white cruised by giving me the hairy eyeball. I just kept walking of course. I subsequently learned that the hotel had requested increased patrols to deter thefts from guests autos. Hotel security also make take note of Loiterers. I try to arrive at the call point early, in case of traffic delays. But then I withdraw to the corner coffee shop. If I've seen her before, I likely will call from the coffee parking (within sight of the location) so there's no phone delay when I arrive. But in NO event will I sit in a car, reading the paper & killing time. One could even be mistaken for a drug deal about to happen.
In an urban setting sitting around a Hotel Lobby is not discreet either... get a coffee, shop the gift shop or do something to appear to have a reason other than waiting for your bootie call.
HV
If I am already set up in a hotel in a touring city, night before is fine.
Looks like I missed the mark on this one lol. I thought you were asking about how much advance we needed to "set up" an incall. I don't give out my hotel or location until the day of, when the guy is on his way. I will give the general area or name of the hotel, but never the room unless I've seen him before.
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And then getting the exact location either th e night before or early in the morning.
The knowing where the area is allows me to plan drive time to the location.