One of my fantasies is super romantic extended HJ session, with passionate kissing and eye contact, but no FS or BJ?
The quality at bodyrub places is not what I am after , but whenever I have tried with a great provider we end up having sex because I cant help myself or she seems to get bored of the edging.
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But in my experience, most providers who provide full service tend to get tired if you don't get off quick enough from a HJ. A massage provider who gives happy endings tends to have the stamina to last much longer in this aspect. And, there are some out there that are really good. It's a matter of finding the right one.
No most providers are only thinking about getting your money in their pocket and you out the door as fast as they can. Nuru though there is nothing fast about it and you have to be into it or it’s very noticeable.
For the purpose of a HJ, I put nuru in the same category as massage. Most nuru providers offer happy endings. Bottom line is, if you do it more regurally, you're building those muscles up. A provider who doesn't give many HJs, which is likely the case for your average full service provider who doesn't advertise massages, nuru, tantric, or something simlar as a service, will reasonably struggle jerking a guy off if he has decent stamina. It's just like any other muscle. The less often you use it, the less strength and stamina that muscle will have.
this IS my area of expertise. I enjoy it immensely and have enjoyed a long and lovely career with a number of loyal clients who come back to see me.
You're exactly the type that clients like the OP should be seeking. When a full service provider who doesn't have your experience, says me me me, they are saying it just to get the money, not because they are good at it. Not all sex is the same sex.
It reminds me of when Michael Jordan tried changing to baseball after exclusively playing basketball for years. Some thought, well he's an great athlete so why not. But he went from being the best basketball player in the world, to being a baseball player who was more of a name then a good player. He was okay, but not great. That's what many get when they go to a full service provider for a HJ.
I see no point in considering a full service provider who rarely gives a HJ, when there are those like you who give them all of the time.
I know several and they excel at the "tease and denial" school of building up sexual tension.
They often charge similarly to mid-level FS providers, but you also get a very decent massage as a part of the deal.
I love Tantrikas , but hard to find ones with good reviews. I saw https://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/detail/sadie-stone-review-by-funkstyle-2598601 , but she retired.
any good recs? feel free to PM
Thanks
is a Tantric practitioner. They don't call it a handjob, it's "lingham" worship or massage. It can include HJ AND a blowjob, so if you don't want the BJ, tell her in advance. Some will also combine it with prostate massage, so if you don't want that, either, tell them up front lest you be started once you get relaxed from the slow stroking. Many tantrics do not offer FS. check their TER profile for what services are available.
He confused it with ''gingham," his favorite pattern when he's cross-dressing. 
Spelling it or doing it? I take it you have never been with a tantric masseuse. You should try it. If you lose 100 pounds you could even watch what they are doing to your dick. Lol
I love Budy rubs! I always end up sweating out my hair and make up. I am a prostate & edging pro. I’ve always provided sensual massage.
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hurt or is it fully lubricated? Lol
It is easy enough for the provider to remove the FS or BJ. Most clients are seeking the massage and sensual intimacy of the massage, the release can be adjusted. Nuru works very well with a HJ.
I start my GFE Nuru sessions with kissing and passionate touching and optional oral with a release that is up to the client. Then I proceed to the Nuru starting with the back massage, I provide a decent massage along with the sensual slipping and sliding. Then with Rimming, Prostate Massage, Prostate toys, Strap-on, if the client desires.
Omg someone else who does nuru and dominate! Love it! There are so few of us!!!
Nuru when done right is nothing but a long drawn out tease and denial. I love doing it because it’s like a cat and mouse game. And I love to play. It’s all about being in charge and the eye contact and driving the guy absolutely wild until he is literally begging for you let him cum. lol. Geez I just got wet thinking about it and have a devilish grin on my face now 😈. Nothing like a good nuru!
tease, but sometimes the denial is difficult to deal with, so I prefer a provider who is intuitive to where I am in the process and gives the release at exactly the correct time to make it a perfect Nuru session. Since I pay up front, I feel like it shouldn't be up to me to beg for anything. Similarly to when I'm being a woman up to an explosive O, there are physical cues when a man is at the precise moment for a release as well.
Exactly! Its all about reading the room so to speak. Edging is a great skill to build up your stamina and have more control of your orgasms but if you take it too far then its not ideal. Thats where communication before hand comes into play. Some people like the torture but others when they want to release then thats what we came for. Literally. 
I did nuru and got a HJ at the end. And, I was disappointed. Not because she did a bad job. She was great. But because after rubbing her bare pussy, ass, and tits all over me, including over my bare dick, I wanted to fuck her so badly. But fucking wasn't on her menu, and I knew that going in. I just didn't expect to want it so badly. That was the last time for that reason. But I'm all for a nuru provider that does fuck.
If you really liked her, then go back a few times and offer a couple of Benjamins. That could well be the special sauce.
I've done this several times. It is not a 100% thing, but when it does work, it's wonderful.
Honestly, I didn't like her more then many of the other providers I have seen. But when you're both naked and she is turning you on, that doesn't stop you from wanting more. So, not worth going back to as much as it was what I wanted in the heat of the moment. I went in wanting and thinking I would be happy with nuru and HJ. Not to mention, I was traveling for a conference.
is that it's not uncommon for massage and nuru providers to be reluctant to offer full service at the first meeting, yet many will offer it on requests at subsequent meetings with the proper incentive.
You can always ask. I did not advertise it but it was available. And yes I agree with you the work up is so amazing. And honestly so is the sex after .
Personally, handjobs are one of my favorite ways to please a man. I love the intense eye contact while I'm focused 100% on your ultimate pleasure. I love the feeling I get knowing the power is in my hands. Literally.
I also think handjobs bring back those early feelings of excitement as teenagers in the back seat of a car exploring and teasing and making out for hours. It's a dying art that I'm all in favor of bringing back. xo
With a body like yours, I might actually get off and be satisfied with a HJ knowing I get to oggle you while it's happening.
On the flip side, it also might be the biggest regret of my life that I didn't do more with you, lol.
Awww, Thank you! xo
As a sex organ, the hand is unbeatable, so to speak.
A lot of what you’re talking about comes down to communication and expectations. Different providers are comfortable with different kinds of sessions, and many actually prefer when a client clearly states what he wants — especially if it’s something slower, calmer, or more focused on connection rather than escalating.
What usually causes problems isn’t the request itself, but when people don’t state their limits or let things drift into something else.
Some workers are very open about how they approach boundaries, pacing, and the kind of energy they’re comfortable with. For example, Genesis here talks quite directly about her style, what she enjoys, and how she structures sessions:
https://escortmunchen.com/madchen/genesis-1464
The biggest suggestion: be upfront about exactly what you want, ask whether it aligns with her boundaries, and treat the session like a collaboration. When both sides know what to expect, it usually works much better.
I would love the opportunity to see a handjob edger. It has taken me a few years to find a few good BJ edgers. Edgers are special because they work against basic business rules. Get the guy in, make him cum and move on to the next hard dick.
Hand or BJ edgers are very special provider. I have found look in the higher end and book extra time with anyone you think might be a great edging provider. Second be prepared to be disappointed several times. If you find a good one don't convince yourself someone else is better, you will probably be disappointed. Stick with the one who is meeting your needs For any NC or Texas edgers and areas in between I would love the opportunity to meet you. I only review when asked but at 75 + P-411 oks I might be worth a pm on ter
…i spent a lot of time researching this and the key is to go until you are about to pop, stop and become soft, then do it again….the more times you do this, the more you unload
i once left a spot on my ceiling (one of those angled upstairs ones) because i came so hard….
I see a gal regularly that loves to lube up her hand and give me the rusty trombone treatment. Shes great and really puts in work on both end. Phenomenal