I've heard yays and nays from some men on other boards, curious as to what you guys would say. And likewise,for women, if the guy's house or hotel room was SO dirty, would you leave?
One guy told me about a gal who was well-reviewed and attractive but her incall was a pigsty. There was McDonalds wrappers everywhere, used condoms, dog shit ( he wasn't kidding, as he snapped a picture of her place without her knowing it, kinda sneaky but...well, she should have cleaned it). He also said she had a lot of cats that kept jumping on the bed.
Personally for me, my incall is always immaculate and men are often surprised at that, that I offer lots of fresh towels, warm clothes in a crock pot for cleaning, and that I have a thing about neatness and hygiene. It seems well appreciated.
There was McDonalds wrappers everywhere, used condoms, dog shit
I'D BE OUTTA THERE!!!! Turn right around and go back out the front door.. That sounds like a cheap motel that rents room by the hour look that street walkers use.
That sort of gives you an answer eh?
What he described would make me walk out. Sorry
I've had two experiences like that, not with shit on the floor (eewww) but messy places. It didn't cause me to run out but it did prevent me from going back.
My home is spotless, I never schedule an outcall unless it's a really nice hotel (never mind clean, I always stay at clean places but I feel awkward if the place isn't 4 star at least), and I hope to only attend incall in a similar environment.
general dishevelment is probably OK as long as I don't have to clear space to walk, sit, lie down, etc.
Trash laying about or complete chaos would not work.
Shit on the floor isn't even an option, as would the smell of an over-ripe cat box.
Slightly messy, slightly disorganized, etc. is not an issue. However, obvious signs of dirt and extreme mess is something that I would be uncomfortable with and I would excuse myself and leave.
the limited incall dates I've "attended" have always been clean, well-appointed, and of an atmosphere to foster intended activities.
In general, I am not booking a housekeeper or cleaning service. Rather, I am booking a professional sex expert.
So I can be reasonably tolerant, especially in dealing with someone I like beyond sex.
I am allergic to cats, and one lady I used to see often kept a cat or two at her incall that would (naturally) jump on the bed. I simply took a 24-hr antihistamine the night before the appointment -- no biggy. Outside of that I enjoyed the company. (It would have been nice if she had made it known in advance that she kept cats so I wouldn't have had issues for hours after the first appointment, though.)
Sometimes things were a bit messy -- but messy is not the same as dirty. Messy is just a state of disorganization reflecting priorities beyond organization.
But dirty is another thing entirely. Thankfully, I've never run into an escort with a dirty incall; but I HAVE run into it with civie girls.
There was a civie girl I had seen for a couple of dates. She invited me back to her place.
I went to use the restroom, popped up the seat on the toilet -- and oh my goodness, the white porcelain was covered in crud. So much so that there is no way she possibly could have even attempted to clean it for years.
She kept a big german shepherd and the house smelled like dog shit to boot.
Obviously, she had sex in mind in inviting me back to her place -- but there was no way I could imagine sex with a woman who used a toilet that filthy and was that oblivious to yuckiness. So we compromised: I cleaned her toilet and then left. LOL
Of course, the toilet was just an obvious manifestation of the filthiness; but the floors had likely never been cleaned; the place had likely never been dusted. Her toothbrush looked like it had been attacked by black mold.
I never would have guessed this looking at her over the prior two dates.
She was a bit perturbed that I had suddenly developed a desire to clean rather than fuck; but I'm a reasonably honest guy in such circumstances and told her the scoop -- that the sheer filth in her home made it impossible for me to even imagine her as a sex partner.
Thank goodness I've never encountered this with an escort.
I may get slammed for this but in my opinion, if you have allergies, or pet peeves such as smoking ect. I believe it is your responsibility to cover your own bases by raising the issue yourself prior to the appt. Sorry. That's my opinion.
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Leann
Just popped an antihistamine and then paid her a visit -- no biggie!
These aren't the sorts of issues that put me off from a provider; so while someone might slam you, that someone ain't gonna be me.
Now I've learned and I DO ask about cats. If she has a cat I'll still see her -- I just dose up on anti-allergy meds first.
As for all the other stuff -- total non-issues for me. I book women based on stuff like brains and character. I'm not going to kick her to the curb over superficial crap like if she smokes or owns dogs.
But she DOES have to keep her incall from being filthy. LOL
Well said Johngaltnh. I was not trying to be argumentative BTW.
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Leann
...so a whole bunch of overflowing litter boxes and cat shit everywhere would make you run. LOLOL
....as someone had mentioned that one girl's incall ( on another board) had dozens of cats. Imagine the smell. I love cats but I have ONE. LOL
LMFAO!!!! I just spit out my soda. Thanks
Time to head for the door.
omg LOL those poor cats lol
The sex was fine. However, the messy incall did take away from the overall experience. I appreciate it very much when the lady has an immaculate well decorated and supplied (towels, soaps, etc)incall. It shows me she takes her line of work seriously.
that pic made me pee my underwear
kim 
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...actually lives there!!!
That 'look' is fine for an abandoned building though.
What's for dinner???? YUM YUM!!!!!
Well yes, that's a sign you should leave. That looks like it came from one of those animal control shows on tv...'the cat hoarder' or whatever.
If I feel my health is at risk for any reason, I'm outta there.
yes I would leave...if the person keep a dirty apt/incall I would expect her to be not clean as well.
Yes. If DIRTY, that would be my concern as well. I agree with those that say a bit messy as in unorganized is ok.
Filthy? I would leave, and tell her exactly why.
Even general ‘messiness’ is questionable (to me, personally). I’m no neat-freak. But, a provider is running a professional biz. I expect the space to be clean; same as I do my Dr/dentist office…spa…gym….
If she doesn't have time, or just doesn't like cleaning---it cost very little to hire another professional to come in and do it for her....
If you are going to offer incall your place has got to be clean you're making a first impression and do not want the first impression to be "Wow,her place is really filthy I wonder about her."
I mean c'mon how hard is it to clean up if the guy/girl is having company?Or get somebody to clean it professionally if the person is too lazy to clean it themselves.
Just plain nasty I would seriously be wondering about their hygiene.
That's real talk!