Hobbyist too ...

I went to an appointment one day and arrived at the provider's apartment complex ten minutes early. I noticed things about the complex and people around that made me feel uncomfortable.

This was my first visit to this provider and when she told me which apartment she lived in, I realized that I had seen another man enter that unit several minutes before me.

The provider may have shared the apartment with another provider, I don't know. I just decided there were more people in that place than I cared to see at one time.

I called the provider back, told her I was not comfortable with the situation.

I decided I would see another provider on another day.

TOMC

Did this just seem like a good time to remind everyone or is there something thta happened recently (having me walk through the door, for instance)?

While most of us are stand-up types, there are more than a handfull that are very close to problematic.  what causes them to act out?  what releases them from any understanding of humanity?  what causes them to see the pain of others as pleasurable?  don't know.  So far, in this hobby I have been lucky.  So far, in my profession I have not had to supervise any truly unstable person...   but know what, I have friends whose stories curl and grey my hair and make my skin green....   I agree.... gut feels - they do tell you something... good and bad... but do the check, I strongly support them....

Usually if I am seeing a provider for the first time, and I really get a good sense, I will invite them to "google" me (the real me) so that they understand that I have more to loose than they, should I not be on the up and up.  Ladies - for those of us in the hobby for what it is... it is not a bother.