I'm new to this game, and my first few sessions I'd go in with a 'goal'.  I've learned in my short time that it's futile to have a goal. I still game it out in my head, but as soon as the door opens all bets are off.  Now, I just go with the flow.

At first I did think I'd like to have 2 pops, and that sometimes happens, but not always.  Now, I just book a few hours and let it go where ever it takes me.

And btw, only once I felt the girl was sort of watching the clock.  I always do, and on more than one occasion when I asked what time it was, she would say something like 'do you have some place to be', and I never have some place to be, but I like to be respectful of her time.

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Multiple pops is always the goal.

I find it challenging at times depending upon the duration of booking.

Not necessarily in this order, just as they come to mind.

1.  Looking for someone with whom I hit it off well enough that it could become semi-regular.
2.  Keep my privacy safe.
3.  Protect my money from bad actors and meet the actual person in the photos, who also still looks like the photos.
4.  Get a feel for her personality as well as her level of responsiveness and if she's organized.
5.  Spend time and have sex with women I would not normally have the opportunity to.
6.  Find someone I can expand my sexual horizons with and explore/test my boundaries.

Multiple pops are always desired, but sometimes, I'm not in the mood and just want to hang out.  I do find it frustrating when a provider tries to do everything in the world except encourage another round during a long session (90 minutes+).  Like they are avoiding it if they can.

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I prefer fetish play which limits the choices. Once I find a girl who’s into what I like I’m a repeater. Or at least make me believe she likes it I don’t care. Vanilla is a great ice cream flavor though. 😂

But don't let people know it was mrfisher who wrote this song, or it would really piss off Toby.

I always look for someone I can imagine as my mistress. Good chemistry and a good fuck combination go a long way. Mainly looking to make memories .

as much as the physical.  

 
To feel desired and chosen. To feel that I can give pleasure. To feel more virile.

 
Yes, I also want to feel pleasure of my own and yes, I love to get off multiple times too. But these are secondary; for men, they are almost a given.

 
Throw in some social fun like dinner, a concert or a show - and my goal is achieved.

Im there for the kink that is harder to get from a civvie gal. Usually anal and some ass to mouth.

One who you developed a connection with become a semi regular avoiding the hassles of losing your deposit.  Testing growing each other boundaries sexually/intimacy and eventually becoming a confidante.  

L

This is why sometimes I try to script the experience.  Others, I just book what I want specifically.

If I'm in the mood for a certain kink, I make sure it's clear.  If I just want a quick lay, not so much.

For instance, let's say I'm in the mood for Greek followed by a facial.  I'm obviously going to let you know that in advance.  If I'm just looking for a quickie, probably no need.

Someone that I connect with both in and out of the bed.  Looking for someone that I would look forward to seeing on a regular basis.