but rather the few who are willing to put in the effort. I've found that 100% of the time I've put in effort to create a deeper bond with a provider it has happened.
Luck maybe that I met them, but the rest is work just like anything else in lifeIs anyone else here seeking, more than a one night stand?
I'm seeking a one-hour stand. Or maybe 90 minutes. LOL.
There are hobbyists who boast of being one and done guys, and if that's what floats their boats, more power to them.
I, on the other hand, stay with a provider if they are particularly good, and I see a handful up to 4-5 times a year. Some of these associations go back over 30 years now.
Or, are you referring to hobbyists who think this is some kind of match making service to find a significant other? (Or maybe it's the other way around?)
In any case, I can claim membership in that club also since I ended up marrying a provider I met that way.
Same here, I don’t know what she meant by “genuine connection”. If I’m going to see a provider more than once or twice, I’d like there to be some “connection” beyond physical sex. I prefer longer sessions, where there’s time for other activities besides sex. For both of us to enjoy those activities, it helps to have some connection.
But it’s still a client/provider relationship to me, so the connection does NOT mean a romantic one. In rare cases it may (and has) developed into a friendship, but those have to be platonic for me. The sex remains a business transaction.
more than a P4P session, but I have had over a dozen real life relationships with providers over the years, lasting anywhere from a few months up to a year, that evolved from repeating a few times with the same provider. When there is an attraction on a level that surpasses what you are normally used to in this biz, you both realize it fairly quickly.
I had a genuine connection with a provider. It was wonderful while it lasted. I’d love to have her back. Sadly, all such things seem to end.
I'm never really seeking a connection but if there is one I hope it is genuine and not me being fooled. All joking aside, I'm always pleasantly surprised when a good bond forms. And while I do go through spurts where I see a lot of providers, for the most part I stick to 3 or so friends.
but it does happen. I live for those moments (inside or outside of P4P).
a deeper connection, I push the last two inches in.
You mean you push everything in.. LOL.
Just couldn't resist 
My preferred...
I have been fortunate over the past twenty years of forming friendships within the rails of p4p.
I would like nothing more than to find my unicorn—A hot sex partner, confidante, companion and travel buddy. Not a wife— Heaven forfend.
Last Friday I invited a lovely lady to a sleepover. I’ve seen her at least 15 times so far. We met at a nice hotel, had a walk in the afternoon sunshine, followed by a very good dinner, back to the room to admire together the amazing views, and capped off by some delightful shtupping. The very definition of a one-night stand, right? But I felt connected to this (far too young) woman— good conversation, easy laughter between us, sharing serious real life issues, warmth in her embraces and smiles, and perhaps most telling, a real longing for her (above the waist) after we parted the next morning. And judging from her texts before and after, she had an equally nice time.
Yeah—I would trade my remaining years of one-night stands to have that feeling continue.
Now I’m not so naive as to think that’s likely, but I’m not so jaded as to not be hopeful.
It may come true.
I was so smitten by one gal that we started a SD arrangement, then a relationship, then tied the knot. I'm happy it happened, but looking around at the world at large, we all know that sometimes these things don't work out well.
I'm tempted to ask all whether or not they ever had a situation where they were so attracted to another person (client or provider) that they decided to stop seeing them because you might end up doing something that could bring about some awful result like divorce, etc.
If so, did you tell the person why you are leaving, or make up an excuse, or just disappear and say nothing at all?
Unfortunately for that feeling to continue, you'll also have to accept all the "serious" aspects of a relationship. It sounds like you had a wonderful and no doubt genuinely great evening for both of you. But you basically got to drink a bottle of whiskey without the hangover.
It is also why I love providers, especially regulars. Because you get the everlasting honeymoon without the serious commitments and responsibilities
Note the part where I said "lover". The women I've met my age are just not knocking my socks off in bed. And the women I meet here who are in their 20s and 30s feel the same about me. Finding that combined with everything else is what has been particularly difficult.
Frankly, I don't mind a hangover now and then. I'm old enough to know life isn't all wine and roses. But the downsides make us appreciate the upsides.
Another way to look at your question is whether or not any clients are looking for one particular woman among all of the ones they've seen and are trying to narrow it down to only seeing her in the future. I like the variety too much to be able to restrict myself to just one. I doubt that I even COULD do that, because my mind and my interests and my libido wander far too much. It's almost like eating only one particular food for the rest of my life and never touching any others. My appetite wouldn't survive that.
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