you get by a temporary cash flow issue?  Would you even broach this reverse situation with her if you were in this bind?

Now I realize that some will argue the two situations are not the same.  She may have a time sensitive need for the cash while horny you can certainly wait to get your poontang when you have the cash.  I recognize this difference.  However there is a trust factor theme that runs through each case.  

At the end of the day trust is what this is all about.  Only God and your ATF know if her intentions are pure (and BTW I'm assuming there is a promise to pay you back) and you and you alone are going to make that decision.  The fact that you posted this thread suggests to me that you some degree of inner doubt.  Perhaps it is best to listen to your own self...



     

Did you see her again?  The problem with a gift like that is that she'll feel like she owes you, and you'll want something in return, whether you say it's a no-strings gift or not.  My guess is you'll never hear from her again.

I was dating a younger girl at work.  She knew I was making good money cuz of my position and we started dating.  She was in college and came home for a summer job.  But when I was with her she always needed things and money.  It never felt painful to give her sums of money like you just mentioned.  I was in love and giving to her made me feel good.  Eventually she went back to school in the east coast and she tried getting money from me.  She would call and give me sob stories but I wasnt getting rewards so I ended up telling her she was a good lay and I used her and she used me.  Moral of the story is giving is only fun when something is given back in return.

Actually, I have been fortunate enough that some of my closest friends have helped me from time to time with generous loans and we worked it out in visits...in fact, I still owe my fav daddy 2 more visits to repay his kindness (as soon as he stops working so much!!) I know that in this business people get ripped off alot, but I hope if nothing else in this world that we can believe in in this little community of ours is that trust is paramount in the special relationships we have formed.
I dont know what to advise you, hopefully you know her well enough that you can trust her. If she takes it and runs, consider it an expensive lesson. If someone doesnt pay me back, I just consider it a gift and not help them again.
Best of luck with it. Money does make things awkward.

At one time or another, many of us have run into this if we have been around.
A more normal approach is to ask for help and in return, you would get some session time with her.  I have done this in the past when a provider was struggling for some reason to help out - you seem to forget that this is a BUSINESS.
I am not saying we never have personal feeling about the ladies we see - that is unavoidable.  It is what we do with those feelings that count - sounds like she may really need the help, but have you also thought about being there for her mentally in addition to the f'n money?  In the long run, if things do work out - I am betting it is the friendly support she gets from those close to her she will remember more than the cash.

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I hate replying low in the thread, I figure I will get lost in the shuffle.

You know that half the replies you will get are from cynical guys who are ever-wary of getting ripped off, and the other half are from white knights who will applaud your humanity. As always, the truth is somewhere in-between.

The main question is, can you afford the $1200? I have been in many situations where a friend or acquaintance needs some cash. I have never made a loan in my life expecting to get it back - and so I have never made one unless I could afford to lose it. I have had people say to me "gee, I hate to ask you, but..." and I have replied "don't ever say that - always ask, but don't hate me if I say I can't do it".

To ask someone for $1200, you must EITHER feel that you have a fairly close and trusting relationship, or you have to be a player. Only time will tell you which is which, but all that should matter to you is whether or not it is worth it up until this point, and whether or not you can afford the loss if the latter turns out to be true.