Besides the booking of the sessions,  
Do you communicate with your provider/client between sessions and
Does it make the dates better?  

Your thoughts if any?

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I enjoy getting a couple of texts. Sometimes I like to find out small, one sentence things about my new friend. What kind of music do you like? Where are you from? A little slice of life. I do NOT like conversations. That can be saved for our rendez-vous.

I like to have a little bit of chatting by phone to hear him laugh or to get a glimpse into his personality. I welcome this before meeting a new friend!  Generally speaking, I love people so having some kind of connection before the session makes the anticipation even more intense!

If the two of you are checking up on each other periodically, then I think it adds to the attraction and anticipation of meeting again.

It can get awkward and frustrating, however, if you are trying to plan a surprise as I did recently.  First of all, I know ladies get inundated with calls and emails so I try to be patient. With the holidays approaching, I sent an email to my favorite lady asking her to join me for what would be a Christmas celebration dinner (Nobu).  Many of you know these swanky places get busy during the holidays and reservations are a must.  Days go by and not a peep.  Did she put me on ignore?  Did she get hit by a bus? Well no.  What I am sure happened is that I am herded along with the rest of the guys and she'll get to me soon enough.  Maybe I expected too much thinking I was more than the herd.  In the end, I lost my reservation and cancelled the date.  It happens, but it's frustrating.

 

 


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it does not get too graphic, illegal and trashy...

Right after the date i may text to say how much i enjoyed the meeting. But I then delete the number and would never randomly just text to say "hi"

 
It's similar to other services. I don't text the girl who cuts my hair,  the guy who services my Jeep, or the dude who delivers my pizza.
They are busy doing what they do.  I'll contact when i require them in a professional capacity.

I swear to god I'm not comparing any of the ladies here to a pizza guy...it's just that because these women offer an experience where we can sometimes form an emotional attachment, it can be easy to mistake it for something it is not.

I respect boundaries.  

Every girl is different, My reference will send me a few how is your week going text which I enjoy getting. Not long conversations just making sure I'm not hurting myself and that I'm doing everything I can to better myself.  

A different provider who I am not continuing a relationship of seeing wanted to see a picture of Kermit eating out Ms Piggy when she said she was a Muppet Baby fan and I told her I would have something that she needs to see. I showed her the photo. She told me to send her anything that comes my way which is entertaining. I have 100 pictures that I get a week and I might send one or two of the best. I know if she didn't want me to keep sending them she would tell me to stop. She usually says that photo is awesome can I put it on my Twitter. We had a good time I just couldn't afford her rate but I was happy to meet her.  

I keep it short and sweet to the point and don't overdo it if i am going to send anything.  

If they don't like what you are sending them or they think it's to much they will tell you to stop.  

That's my 2 cents.

If I have really great chemistry with my clients I exchange personal phone numbers with them. Sometimes that has worked well for me, other times the clients tried to breach professionalism and enter personal intimacy.  

As for my regulars, I prefer to keep it straight to booking only. For my own sanity, I only really check my work phone during my work hours or periodically on days that I am completely free. A lot of clients have gotten angry and upset with me for, "Not being by my phone 24/7." It's a bit infuriating because this industry does not consume me. I have school, family, friends.  

Both providers and hobbyists need their personal space!

I am not one to initiate a message first, unless I know in advance that the lines are open and safe. I think it keeps the fire burning on both ends until our next date.

And, when I do not, it's usually more of an objection to the 'why' than the 'what'

I find that communication before the first date gives me a better sense of the person I'm about to meet. Sometimes that's a great thing. If he's really nice, it makes me feel excited and reassured. I can look forward to spending time with someone new and exciting

Other times, I get a sense that he's going to be a PIA to some greater or lesser degree...and, that sense intensified with each email. Then, I have the option to back out of what could have been an unpleasant experience...or at least, prepare myself mentally.  

I generally find communication between dates to be extremely enjoyable. Most of my clients are interesting people. They like to keep in touch... they always have something interesting to say...they never overwhelm me with novels, and rarely with factoids about their favorite sports team (a topic about which I am highly unlikely to have any genuine concern).

The very few who overwhelm or irritate me are boundary crossers. They are actively trying to change the nature of our relationship, from provider/client to something else entirely (sugar baby/daddy, or even fuck buddy/buddette)...and, sometimes, they have some REALLY intense emotional need to talk to me. (Not me personally, just the unfortunate person they've currently latched onto). It's usually a sign of an emotional attachment that has everything to do with their emotional needs and the emptiness in their lives, and nothing at all about our interaction, or me

We keep it light and brief, no heavy stuff.

One loves to sext me with photos.  I love that.

Occasionally  there are serious matters they want to talk to me about, and with the right  gal, I'm willing to do that also.

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I do.  
This 'hobby' is much more than a sexual connection for me. A perfect meeting also has an emotional and possibly a spiritual connection along with the physical one. If it feels right, we stay in touch and I manage expectations on both sides to the best of my ability [sometimes my own expectations are the more difficult to manage].
In a perfect scenario, we end up being friends. This is all made easier by not reaching out to the "all business" types on the front end of things and by being honest about where I sometimes like to end up after a few meetings. Physical attributes aside - there  are some amazing women on this site from an Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual and Political perspective - Life is so short I just want to make sure something amazing doesn't hide from me when it's right under my nose -

I will drop a quick note of appreciation to my favorite friend after a visit.  I want to be sure that she understands how much I value her and her friendship, and it is a polite thing to do.  I will also email to work out the logistics and schedule of our next meeting.

She is a busy, multi-faceted lady so I try not to pester her otherwise.