How many of you discuss your hobby with friends or anyone? I can't imagine telling any of my friends about this, and none of them have ever mentioned that would lead me to believe they are.

This is one of these cases where the internet comes in handy ...

Just curious

everything to lose.

No friends from the public side of my life know. I would like to keep it that way.

That said, I am meeting some really nice folks (both ladies and gents) that are in their own ways becoming friends.

Just a few close friends know.

But ALL of them wouldn't be surprised. I've always did what I wanted. Ever since I was a kid. If I was expected to to something, I'd do the opposite.

The ones that know ask me why. I justify it by saying I can ask a lady for a date, spend all sorts of money on her, and MAYBE get lucky?

The hobby takes out the middleman. I just give the lady an envelope and I get what I want.

Then they start asking questions. And I take this as coming from someone that always wanted to, but didn't have the nerve to do it.

Actually, before I even started hobbying, I got a strange box from someone that said they were a friend of mine. I still don't know whom it came from.

It came with porn, and an invite for me to fuck his wife while he watched.

It wasn't an accident, because they reiterated facts about me that not everybody knows. Like that I'm a Steelers fan, and they would get Steelers underwear for her to wear so I could pull it off with my teeth.

You get the idea.

But to tell you the truth, I don't really care what people think of me. They don't pay my bills, or take care of me and my dogs.

I've never sold anyone out, and never will.

I could give an example where I should've went to jail, for a long time, and kept my mouth shut to protect others.

My point is, yes, some of my circle know what I do, from my own voice. And I'm sure the rest do, or at least suspect, because of my nature.

Am I ashamed? Not at all! Will I continue? Most definitely!

I find the hobby to be a liberating experience, and will continue to partake in it as long as there are wonderful ladies that would see me.

Like I said before. I took the heat for previous situations in my life. And I'll take it again for whatever life will throw at me.

So if being a hobbyist is a bad thing, give me my spankings and let me be. I'm not hurting you, so don't fuck with me!

Know what I'm sayin'?  

but this knowledge is restricted to a very few extremely close friends.

in fact my entering the "hobby" (still detest that word somehow) was partly at their suggestion that i needed to try something radically different.

they felt that the stress of solitude was severely affecting my health and suggested i consider paid companionship. i tried the experiment and it worked. why hide it from folks who suggested it to begin with?

although they know i do this, they are gracious enough to be willing to accept any of my companions as just another "date". i have a long reputation of robbing cradles and dating attractive and accomplished older women so whoever shows up on my arm has total cover.

by a phone call from "a friend of Joe's" who just saw Girl X and now friend wants to come over and meet her, too.  

I'm always curious how that conversation goes back at the office...

Kisses,

Edan

When the Gov. Spitzer episode was happening, I was staying with a friend, while I was on business trip. I filled in some of the blanks, that my friend didn't quite grasp to the story. Plus I told him that you didn't have to spend the type of $ that Spitzer was spending. I think my friend could connect the dots. But I never came out an admitted that I hobby.

from attending meet and greets. I would think this is just as important to them as it is to us ladies.

Kisses Haley

I have 1 friend that I trust with my life.  We talk about everything because we know whatever is said will be taken to the grave.  It helps that we've known each other since birth.  Other than him....NEVER!!!!

is never mentioned.

I wish I could, if I lived in Europe I am sure it would be no big deal, but not here, not now.

My best friend that I've known since high school is also a hobbyist. I think we've fucked about 25 women in common.

I don't shoot my mouth off to married friends though. I don't want to be responsible for luring them into the dark side.

I did an outcall to a hotel where some of the other conference attendee were.  Word got out that I was in another hotel and they spent the next month trying to figure out who I was seeing.  Finally, I had to admit to my closest buddy about the hobby, so he can help me quell the rumor.  The answer to a long story, yes.  I hope he did not tell anyone else.

Life before the hobby?

None.

But I will add that I have a number of lady friends... and one in particular that I either email or phone just about every single day.

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upcoming trip to Las Vegas. I was a little too quick and “matter of fact” with my responses. Then on his follow-up questions I think I provided too much detail about expected price ranges and leads. I was pretty sure he was hamming it up for the guys, but I may have raised one too many eyebrows given my apparent expertise. Toward the end of the whole "game" his questions seemed to actually get more serious, but given the crowd of people present I dared not go any further. Still, I'm a little nervous.

No one knows.  I have a good friend that I've thought about telling. But I can see where this could be a liability.  I've met several other guys on the boards who I've been able to share stories with and that's probably as far as it will go.

I hope not.

....two people can keep a secret as long as one them is dead.....

the friends I have made through the hobby like Mr. Fisher, H8traffic, and bizarrosuperdude. These are people I initially met here and have since gotten to know and respect.  Otherwise, it can cause nothing but trouble to have others know about my activities.

I have a couple friends that know I have hobbied on trips to Vegas, but none know the true extent of my hobby.

I do have several hobby friends that I have met at meet & greets in my home town.