I’ve been diagnosed with hypersexuality many years ago, and for a time was medicated and in therapy. I was so miserable and lethargic until I took myself of the meds. Sex is my elixir, and a big part of why it was hard for me to keep a lasting relationship. Not because of infidelity, but more because of my needs. I’ve found solice in the provider space and why for me this is a lifestyle and not a hobby. I hate being called a Hobbiest, this isn’t a hobby for me, and over the years I’ve managed a few social relationships with some of the providers and even their families. Strange I, know, but it speaks to the type of individual I am.
I've been "diagnosed" as hypersexual, then as a sex addict - both by Christian, male therapists 🙄 In my early 30's, I even did a 12 Step program for sex addicts - learned a ton about codependence/healthy boundaries/etc but it also fucked up my mental health/relationship concepts for a few years [religious crap], but came to understand that I'm NOT/HAVEN'T BEEN an "addict". . Since then, I've accepted that even though it flies in the face of patriarchal social programming, I'm absolutely NOT a vanilla, monogamous person. Yes, I've done it. I'm capable of it. I just hit a wall after a certain point and my mental health crashes because it's just not the whole of who I am as a person. I'm a high sex drive fraysexual, without a jealous bone in my body, who has an intense compersion drive and deep fascination with others, plus a handful of kinks that all deserve to get taken out for a spin now and then... that's a good thing😇 . I've come to view my "sex" as my art (not limited to the physical act, but the mental, emotional and psychological aspects that the physical intimacy allows for). If I sang, danced, wrote poetry or prose, sculpted, arranged flowers, designed clothes or spaces or any other socially acceptable form of "art making" with the same outcome as my "love making", I'd be be a household name and filthy fucking rich. No cap. But because my art is illicit... I'm here boring y'all with wordy posts, clumsy ads and silly selfies. 🤪 😘
sex is probably the most benign, but that does not mean that it is necessarily healthy.
The big question to ask one's self is: Does engaging in frequent sex (Whether it be PFP or otherwise) cause so much disruption to the rest of my life that it is net destructive rather than constructive. In my case, I have decided that it has been constructive as I have met so many wonderful people and have had so much fun with them. In the meantime, I still have enough money to live a comfortable life. Bottom line; No regrets. What got me thinking this way was realizing that life is short, and then you are dead for a very long time.
.....clinically, there seems to be a big difference between the sexaholic and one who is a sex addict or hypersexual. Primarily, the sexaholic would be affected by compulsive need that will lead to a pattern of self destruction.
I mentioned Joe Namath having sex the night before winning Super Bowl III. Now I can mention that Wade Boggs, Boston Red Sox third baseman, got caught as a philanderer and confessed to being a sex addict on one or more talk shows (Oprah? Springer? I forget which ones.).
Posted By: snafu929
Re: Adding oholic to sex sounds like some fun word play but.... .....clinically, there seems to be a big difference between the sexaholic and one who is a sex addict or hypersexual. Primarily, the sexaholic would be affected by compulsive need that will lead to a pattern of self destruction.
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