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doctor2002 19 Reviews 3522 reads

posted 23 years ago

If you were to consider it, meet at a hotel/motel for your first encounter. It's a question of trust. Go with your gut, but at least meet her outside your abode first time.

bagel23 years ago3135 reads

Re Outcall without a SO

Good answers for those with SO's but how do you feel about having well reviewed ladies into your place of residence?

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blade runner23 years ago2704 reads

Bad Idea (eom)

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HarryLime23 years ago4980 reads

I prefer to confine my risky behavior to the sexual arena

You are increasing your chances of outing yourself. I don't feel I have to justify my behavior to others (nor do I feel defensive about my choices), but I also feel that I don't have to confront others with my choices. Why not go to a hotel / motel and reduce the risk?

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sedonasandiego23 years ago5312 reads

choosing a hotel room

Well, to reduce the expenses, of course, as well as being in the comfort of their own home, food, drink, music, etc; not using the credit card for a hotel room and this is why it's difficult if the ladies don't have an incall...

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HarryLime23 years ago3267 reads

I disagree

I hear what you are saying Sedona, but I don't agree. I don't think the risk balances the savings for many men. However, I am not in every man's shoes and you may see or know of situations where there is little or no risk.

If I was unattached, or contemplated a deeper relatioinship with the woman I was seeing, I wouldn't hesitate to invite her to my home. I wouldn't worry about any well reviewed independent I know of on these boards "doing the wrong thing" or abusing my hospitality.

I have only met a lady player where she lived once. Ladies rope parts of themselves away from the people they meet in encounters. They do it for good reason and some of those good reasons also apply to men...Harry.

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sedonasandiego23 years ago3353 reads

better clarification..

I was merely giving reasons why some don't go for the getting a room. It's another expense.

Just as this week alone, I had four date requests, right down to the date and time, and THEN they asked if i have an incall location. No, sorry, I don't. The USUAL response will be to back out, and say, oh, well, let me know when you do because I'm interested...

NOW, if those gents are SINGLE, you have to wonder why not use their place? BUT, everybody has their reasons why not and it's none of my business - their preogative. Too messy, nosy neighbors, animals, or simply that it's best not to use your own residence, if that's how they feel. And that's fine, but MAYBE one out of six will say, well, then let me get back to you on a location to meet at..

Yes, an incall location would be great, but it can't happen. At least not now.

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CumToThinkofIt23 years ago3406 reads

Sedona; Once the cleaning crew from Coit leave

I'd be honored to entertain you in my home.

F*** the neighbors and what they think, My animals are in the yard ,It IS my home(along with the mortgage) so why not enjoy it?. The only problem is the "Too messy"(what was that cleaning service number??)

Now which do you prefer Ale, Wine or Champaigne

-- Modified on 11/10/2003 10:21:30 PM

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doctor200223 years ago3523 reads

Not on the first visit

If you were to consider it, meet at a hotel/motel for your first encounter. It's a question of trust. Go with your gut, but at least meet her outside your abode first time.

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goodgeorge23 years ago3174 reads

Re:Re Outcall without a SO

Hard for me to believe how many men on this board are so rigid and inflexible, witness how many have said said "never" on the SO question. ANybody ever heard of making a wise decision based on each situation?

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Anya23 years ago4373 reads

Re:Re Outcall without a SO

I think it's fine if you choose your lady carefully, and perhaps let her know when you contact her that you'd appreciate her arriving in casual clothes, et cetera. If I was a single guy, I wouldn't have any hesitation, to hell with the neighbours. I have regulars I see at their homes, I've even sat and chatted with their neighbours when they dropped by unexpectedly, (we were "old work colleagues").

-Anya