Just want to get others (hobbiest and providers) opinion if I was out of line.  I had a 4 hour dinner appointment set up, to meet at my room for appetizer an hour before, dinner and then back to my room.  I mentioned that I wasn't going to purchase any food to snack on in the room since the restaurant has a rep of serving large portions, but asked about liquid refreshment (I asked about both alcoholic and non-alcholic drinks).  A couple of days before I asked that the provider wear a dress with stockings and garter or thigh highs, no pantyhose, to dinner.  The morning of our appointment I get an e-mail canceling the appt.  The reasons--1) wanting to "play" before and after dinner, 2) saying I wasn't going to eat dinner with her (I didn't say that) and 3) telling her what to wear.  I tried e-mail and calling to get her to re-consider but no response.  Now, I know there are a host of reasons besides those I was given why she may have canceled, but was I out of line to expect play time before and after dinner for a 4 hour date or to ask her to wear a dress and stockings?  I won't say who or where this was, that would serve no purpose.

clarified with you before canceling if that was her real problem.  Chances are, she needed to cancel for another reason, but wanted to put it on you.

In any case, she seems too high maintenance, so you were probably better off.  Try again with someone less Diva.  You might even get some PM's out of this post from better ladies.

Good luck

You have every right to ask for a certain outfit.  You may not always get it to be honest but you can always ask.

As far as your sex/dinner/sex arrangement goes, it sounds fair to me but I didn't read the email so I can't be sure of how clear it was to the lady.

One thing that comes to mind here is the caveat that I would offer regarding booking a four hour dinner date with a woman that you have not met (assuming you had not met this lady).  A lot of what may have gone wrong here may be simple misunderstanding. A regular lady would have been much more willing to try and work out arrangements.  Some women get spooked at the idea of a four hour date with a new customer.

Our first encounter was exactly as you described that you wished - meet at hotel for "appetizer" then go out to a nice restaurant for dinner, and return to hotel for "desert!"  In addition, I asked that she wear a nice simple black dress... and through the wonder of the internet - we had fun selecting the dress!!!  I provided her with pictures of what I would like, and she had fun posing in dresses that were candidates... it was tremeandous fun!!

I might add that this is a lady who has a lot to offer...

I suspect that the lady you describe may be somewhat immature with respect to the quality "GFE Date" experience....  as when I was new to the hobby, I would typically schedule 1-hr appointments - and met a provider who was similarly experienced... she commented to me about someone wishing to schedule a 4 hr. dinner date with her... and she was wondering what they would do for 4- hours....

my comment - it is sad that someone would not see that you might want "Sparkling conversation" and variety in the evening Fun and dinner with a lovely lady..... heck.... one of the most spontaneous and fun times I've had was with one lady who- during our session kept saying just how hungry she is.... over and over... and after the "Event" I asked her - "hey - you hungry?"  she dressed in about 3 seconds flat... and she and I had a wonderful dinner - at a sidewalk cafe...  off the clock... and that truly DID feel like a real date (actually better than most!)

So sorry about your experience....   PM me...

For a four hour date, you didn't ask for anything that was out of line. It sounds like she had already agreed to your requests, but waited until the day of the appointment to cancel. As suggested, I think she had other reasons, but wanted it to be your fault. Very immature!!!

IMHO, you had proposed a classy 4 hour dinner date.  Personally, I'd never book such an appointment for a first date, but that's me playing safe.

I'd expect that your plans were clear from the outset, just more detail later.  She would have needed time to procure clothing she might not  have, but for a date of this type should not have been an issue.

She missed out on a fun evening.
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As other posters have suggested, I think this lady had other reasons for cancelling and wanted to make you the focus of her excuse.

Your requests seem totally reasonable - in fact, it sounds like you made an effort to set up an enjoyable and varied date which many girls would be delighted to participate in.

Unless you had previously agreed otherwise with her or were responding to some kind of package deal she offered with specific terms, why shouldn't you play before and after dinner (and possibly during, for that matter?).

Unless I feel it is totally inappropriate for the venue, I like it when guys suggest an outift they would like to see me in because I want them to be happy with my appearance. Stockings and a dress sounds pretty standard and I don't see why she would be averse to accommodating that.

You might expect this kind of attitude at the bottom end of the scale, but if you were setting up a four-hour dinner date, I imagine you did not select a low-end girl. At this level, you can and should expect that the lady will make every reasonable effort to make you happy.

To be honest, I think you should consider yourself lucky to have avoided wasting your time and roses on what looks like it would have been a very unsatisfying experience. If this is her attitude before the date, I can't imagine it would get any better after you'd presented her with the bouquet.

Looks like she changed her mind and let you know why.

a cancelled appointment beats the hell out of four wasted hours and however much money you would have spent.

Consider yourself lucky and find yourself a more accomodating lady

If I wanted to be with a bitch with an attitude I could have dinner with my sig other!  
Reminds me of the time I had an appointment with a cutie and when I called to confirm she asked me to come over early so we could 'get this over with cause I have stuff to do afterwardds.'  She was history right then.  There is some old saying about paying the piper and calling the tune.
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Thanks everyone for your comments.  I was able to make arrangements with another provider.  It was a little more expensive but turned out great.  I have to agree that I probably was lucky that things happened like they did.

I wouldn't even give this another second worth of time.  Consider yourself lucky she cancelled and scratch her off your list.  Many times we aren't so lucky as to find out about a bad choice until after the fact.  You are one of the lucky ones.

I feel that any requests I can fill for my companion will make our time together more enjoyable! I usually ask if there are any special requests before the appt. I think that is all part of setting the mood and fulfilling the fantasy!